Interpersonal Communication: Relating to Others Beebe/Beebe/Redmond Presentation Prepared by: Jill Harms, Iowa State University Copyright © 2014, 2011, 2008 Pearson Education, Inc. All rights reserved.

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Objectives Define self-concept and identify the factors that shape the development of your self-concept. Define self-esteem and compare and contrast self-esteem with self-concept. Define facework and discuss how you project your face and protect others’ face. Copyright © 2014, 2011, 2008 Pearson Education, Inc. All rights reserved.

Objectives Identify and describe seven strategies for improving your self-concept. Identify the effects of your self-concept and self-esteem on your relationships with others. Copyright © 2014, 2011, 2008 Pearson Education, Inc. All rights reserved.

People tell themselves stories and then pour their lives into the stories they tell. Anonymous Copyright © 2014, 2011, 2008 Pearson Education, Inc. All rights reserved.

Key Terms Self Self-Concept Attitude Belief Value Copyright © 2014, 2011, 2008 Pearson Education, Inc. All rights reserved.

Mindfulness: Being Consciously Aware Subjective Self-Awareness Objective Self-Awareness Symbolic Self-Awareness Copyright © 2014, 2011, 2008 Pearson Education, Inc. All rights reserved.

One or Many Selves? The Material Self The Social Self The Spiritual Self Copyright © 2014, 2011, 2008 Pearson Education, Inc. All rights reserved.

How Your Self-Concept Develops Interactions with individuals Looking-glass self Attachment style Secure attachment style Anxious attachment style Avoidant attachment style Associations with groups Roles you assume Androgynous role Before this slide, have your class answer the following question 10 times. “I am….” After presenting this slide, ask for some of their responses. Try to find a response from each section, interactions with individuals, associations with groups, roles you assume, self-labels, and your personality. Copyright © 2014, 2011, 2008 Pearson Education, Inc. All rights reserved.

How Your Self-Concept Develops (Continued) Self-labels Self-reflexiveness Your personality and biology Psychology Personality Copyright © 2014, 2011, 2008 Pearson Education, Inc. All rights reserved.

How Your Self-Concept Develops (Continued) Your personality and biology (continued) Big five personality traits Extraversion Agreeableness Conscientiousness Neuroticism Openness Copyright © 2014, 2011, 2008 Pearson Education, Inc. All rights reserved.

How Your Self-Concept Develops (Continued) Your personality and biology (continued) Communibiological approach Social learning theory Shyness Communication apprehension Willingness to communicate Copyright © 2014, 2011, 2008 Pearson Education, Inc. All rights reserved.

Communication and Emotion Copyright © 2014, 2011, 2008 Pearson Education, Inc. All rights reserved.

Communication and Emotion (Continued) Copyright © 2014, 2011, 2008 Pearson Education, Inc. All rights reserved.

Comparing Your “Cyber Self” and Your “Realspace Self” We are likely to be less truthful about ourselves online than face-to-face (FtF) FtF relationships are reported to be more serious in tone than exclusively online relationships Levels of satisfaction are the same for both types of relationships Copyright © 2014, 2011, 2008 Pearson Education, Inc. All rights reserved.

Comparing Your “Cyber Self” and Your “Realspace Self” (Continued) The more clear college students are about their own self-concept, the less likely they are to develop online relationships A strong correlation has been found between being a heavy user of the Internet and reporting greater feelings of loneliness Copyright © 2014, 2011, 2008 Pearson Education, Inc. All rights reserved.

Self-Esteem: Your Self-Worth Self–Worth (Self-Esteem) Self-Efficacy Social Comparison Life Position Copyright © 2014, 2011, 2008 Pearson Education, Inc. All rights reserved.

Life Position I’m okay, you’re okay I’m okay, you’re not okay I’m not okay, you’re okay I’m not okay, you’re not okay Copyright © 2014, 2011, 2008 Pearson Education, Inc. All rights reserved.

Facework: Presenting Your Self-Image to Others Protecting your face through: Positive face Preventative facework Corrective facework Copyright © 2014, 2011, 2008 Pearson Education, Inc. All rights reserved.

Facework: Presenting Your Self-Image to Others (Continued) Protecting others’ face through: Politeness theory Face-threatening acts Copyright © 2014, 2011, 2008 Pearson Education, Inc. All rights reserved.

How to Improve Your Self-Esteem Engage in self-talk Intrapersonal communication Visualize a positive image of yourself Visualization Avoid comparing yourself with others Reframe appropriately Reframing Copyright © 2014, 2011, 2008 Pearson Education, Inc. All rights reserved.

How to Improve Your Self-Esteem (Continued) Develop honest relationships Let go of the past Seek support Social support Talk therapy Copyright © 2014, 2011, 2008 Pearson Education, Inc. All rights reserved.

Self and Interpersonal Relationships Self and interaction with others Symbolic interaction theory Self and your future Self-fulfilling prophecy Self and interpretation of messages Copyright © 2014, 2011, 2008 Pearson Education, Inc. All rights reserved.

Self and Interpersonal Relationships (Continued) Self and interpersonal needs Need for inclusion Need for control Need for affection Self and disclosure of others Self-disclosure Self-awareness Johari window model Copyright © 2014, 2011, 2008 Pearson Education, Inc. All rights reserved.

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Self and Interpersonal Relationships (Continued) Self and communication social style Assertiveness (tasks) Responsiveness (relationships) Copyright © 2014, 2011, 2008 Pearson Education, Inc. All rights reserved.

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