Essentials of Human Communication, 7th Edition Joseph A. DeVito Hunter College of the City University of New York Copyright ©2011, 2008, 2005 Pearson Education, Inc. All rights reserved.

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Pearson Education, Inc. All rights reserved. Chapter 7 Goals Communicate in relationships more effectively Assess and manage your own relationships in light of research and theory Communicate more effectively in cultural and technological contexts Copyright ©2011, 2008, 2005 Pearson Education, Inc. All rights reserved.

The Stages of Interpersonal Relationships Figure 7.1 Copyright ©2011, 2008, 2005 Pearson Education, Inc. All rights reserved.

Pearson Education, Inc. All rights reserved. Contact Exchange basic information Initiate interaction Engage in invitational communication First four minutes Copyright ©2011, 2008, 2005 Pearson Education, Inc. All rights reserved.

Pearson Education, Inc. All rights reserved. Involvement Develop sense of mutuality, of being connected Testing Evaluate your initial judgment Asking questions Copyright ©2011, 2008, 2005 Pearson Education, Inc. All rights reserved.

Pearson Education, Inc. All rights reserved. Intimacy Further commitment to the other person Establish a relationship in which this individual becomes your best or closest friend, lover, or companion Copyright ©2011, 2008, 2005 Pearson Education, Inc. All rights reserved.

Pearson Education, Inc. All rights reserved. Deterioration Withdrawal Decline in self-disclosure Deception Negative versus positive messages Copyright ©2011, 2008, 2005 Pearson Education, Inc. All rights reserved.

Pearson Education, Inc. All rights reserved. Repair Dissolution Analyze what went wrong and consider ways of solving your relational difficulties Cutting the bonds that tie you together Copyright ©2011, 2008, 2005 Pearson Education, Inc. All rights reserved.

Interpersonal Relationship Types Friendship Love Primary relationships and families Copyright ©2011, 2008, 2005 Pearson Education, Inc. All rights reserved.

Pearson Education, Inc. All rights reserved. Friendship Love Reciprocity Receptivity Association Eros Ludic Storge Pragma Manic Agapic Copyright ©2011, 2008, 2005 Pearson Education, Inc. All rights reserved.

Primary Relationships and Families Primary relationship seen as our most important relationship Traditional couples Independents Separates Copyright ©2011, 2008, 2005 Pearson Education, Inc. All rights reserved.

Theories of Interpersonal Communication and Relationships Attraction Relationship rules Social penetration Social exchange and equity Copyright ©2011, 2008, 2005 Pearson Education, Inc. All rights reserved.

Pearson Education, Inc. All rights reserved. Attraction We are attracted to others based on… Physical attractiveness and personality Similarity Proximity Reinforcement Copyright ©2011, 2008, 2005 Pearson Education, Inc. All rights reserved.

Pearson Education, Inc. All rights reserved. Relationship Rules Friendship rules Romantic rules Family rules Workplace rules Copyright ©2011, 2008, 2005 Pearson Education, Inc. All rights reserved.

Pearson Education, Inc. All rights reserved. Social Penetration Social penetration theory explains… Why relationships develop and what happens when they do Breadth Depth Depenetration Copyright ©2011, 2008, 2005 Pearson Education, Inc. All rights reserved.

Social Exchange and Equity Social exchange theory You develop relationships that will enable you to maximize your profits Based on economic model of profits and losses Profits = Rewards – Costs Copyright ©2011, 2008, 2005 Pearson Education, Inc. All rights reserved.

Social Exchange and Equity cont… Equity theory: When the ratio of relationship rewards relative to your costs is approximately equal to your partner Figure 7.2 Copyright ©2011, 2008, 2005 Pearson Education, Inc. All rights reserved.

Culture, Technology, Work, and Relationships Culture and Gender Consider whether relationships are voluntary or chosen by families Effects how relationships end and the difficulties that you go through during dissolution Determines how much people disclose about themselves Copyright ©2011, 2008, 2005 Pearson Education, Inc. All rights reserved.

Culture, Technology, Work, and Relationships cont… We lose many relationship nonverbal cues through technology Establishing online relationships can be safe (avoid physical violence and sexually-transmitted diseases) Your inner qualities are revealed first Copyright ©2011, 2008, 2005 Pearson Education, Inc. All rights reserved.

Culture, Technology, Work, and Relationships cont… Workplace Romances Advantages Interest in the same field Similar training and ambitions Greater work satisfaction Disadvantages Discomfort to other workers Problems for management Stress if relationship ends Copyright ©2011, 2008, 2005 Pearson Education, Inc. All rights reserved.