Family Life / Peer Pressure / Conflict Resolution Chapter 3

Family the basic unit of society as a group it provides for the needs of its members

Types of Families Nuclear – two parents and one or more children Extended – nuclear family plus other relatives (grandparents) Couple – two people with no children Single - parent – children living with one parent Blended – two people married before and bring other children (Brady Bunch) Foster – children who lost their parents and live with other people

All healthy families share the same goal, they seek to: Nurture- provide for the physical, emotional, mental, and social needs of its members

Families have changed over the years -now smaller more children and other family members lived together -Roles Today both parents work outside the home -Move more often -More single parent families

Your Role in the Family Baby- gave you everything you needed, first system of support in your life Now- helping you develop, become an independent adult, learn values, learn who you are, teach you to make responsible choices, help you learn to accept consequences

During teen years- you begin to develop own set of values and beliefs When disagree with your parents, talk with them calmly

Changes -new baby -grown children get married -move -separation/divorce -death these require family members to take on new roles

Abuse-pattern of mistreatment of another person

Dealing With Family Problems Physical Abuse- involves excessive use of force. Signs-bruises, burns, bites, broken bones Emotional Abuse-involves yelling and putting down another family member. The abused person feels worthless and ashamed

Sexual Abuse- an adult displaying sexual material to a child, touching a child's private body parts, or engaging in any kind of sexual activity with a child or teen Neglect- failure of a parent to provide for basic physical and emotional care for their children: food, clothing, shelter, medical care, emotional- love, attention

Find Help -Trusted Adult -Police -Hospital -Counselor -shelter

Lesson 2 Your Friends and Peers

Relationship- The connections you have with other people Friendship : Special type of relationship between people who enjoy being together

Qualities of a Good Friend Loyal Faithful Reliable- dependable Sympathetic empathy-the ability to identify and share another persons feelings

Peers- all of your friends and other people in your age group

Peer Pressure : Influence you to go along with the behavior and beliefs of your peer group Positive -inspire you to do something worthwhile Negative -want to do something harmful

Types of Peer Pressure pg 63

Refusal Skills- methods for saying no Say NO in a firm voice Tell why not Offer other ideas Promptly Leave

Lesson 3 Communication

Communication : Thoughts and feelings between two or more people Requires: -a message -a sender -a receiver A 2 way process

Types of Communication Words : what you say/How you say it Facial expressions: smile/Raised eyebrow Gestures– movements of the hand, arms, legs Clenched fist- anger Tap feet- nervous Posture: peoples body Stand/sit straight w/ head up- feel good Slouch- sad

Good Communication 1 Use “I” Messages 2 Clear, simple statements 3 Be honest with thoughts and feelings 4 Use appropriate Body Language

To communicate well, a person must develop good speaking and listening skills

Body Language- refers to facial expressions, gestures, and posture make eye contact Show you are involved Don’t turn away

Listening Skills Use appropriate Body Language Use Conversation Encouragers “No kidding” “Really?” Mirror Thoughts and feelings Repeat what is said Ask Questions

Lesson 4 Resolving Conflicts

Conflict : A problem in a relationship

How Conflicts Develop Pg 70 Differing expectations Differing values Hurt feelings Changing roles Jealousy Possessions Struggle for power Pg 70

Prevent Conflicts Practice tolerance (accept people) Express your thoughts and feelings Walk away “Deflate” the situation (change subject)

Compromise- each person gives up something in order to reach a solution that satisfies everyone

Resolving Conflicts Take a time – out Allow each person his/her side Ask questions Keep brainstorming Good communication can help resolve a conflict as well as prevent it

Peer Mediation- a process in which a specially trained student listens to both sides of an argument and helps the opposing sides reach a solution

Mediation Process Pg 73 Establish Neutrality Set Ground Rules Listen to each side Search for possible solutions Don’t give up Pg 73

Violence – the use of physical force to harm someone or something

Protecting Yourself from Violence Commit to non – violence Dress for safety Avoid weapons, gangs, drugs Use conflict resolution Use good manners Accept differences Advocate for peace