1. Healthy Relationships
Chapter 6

2. Definitions
Relationship: A bond or connection you have with another person.
Friendship: A significant relationship between two people that is based on trust, caring, and consideration.
Citizenship: The way you conduct yourself as a member of the community
Role: Part you play in your relationships.
Cooperation: Working together for the good of all
Compromise: Problem solving method in which each participant gives up something to reach a solution that satisfies everyone.

3. Healthy Relationships
How are your relationships with your family members different from your relationships with your friends?
What should you do if you parents don’t like your friends.
Let your friends and family get to know one another, Ask your parents to identify what they don’t like about your friends, and address your parents’ concerns about a friend’s appearance, behavior, or attitude. Make sure your friends are respectful of you family.

4. Relationships Family Relationships: Friends Community
They last your entire life
Parents take care of your food, clothes, and shelter.
They offer love, care, and support
Friends
Have similar interest
They help build your self-esteem
Community
Provides healthful behaviors by supporting and helping each other by being a good citizen.

5. Traits of Healthy Relationships
Mutual Respect: Treat other people with respect, and they respect you in return.
Caring: You treat other people with kindness and consideration.
Honesty: Be honest and open with others, rather than concealing your thoughts, feelings, and actions.
Commitment: You contribute to the relationship and work to keep it strong, even if it means making some sacrifices.

6. Discussion
What are some ways that support and respect enhance a relationship?
What are some of the skills for Building Healthy Relationship?

7. Building Healthy Relationships
Communication: Interpersonal communication is the exchange of thoughts, feelings, and beliefs between two or more people.
Be a good listener
Express your thoughts and beliefs in a non-threatening way.

8. Building Healthy Relationships
Cooperation: Working with others to reach a common good strengthens the relationship
Compromise: The give-and-take of effective compromise strengthens relationships.
Do you have relationships that are lacking some of the qualities? What could you do to strengthen the relationship?

9. Respecting yourself and Others
How can self respect make a difference in the way you interact with others?
Self-respect gives me the confidence to meet new people.

10. Definitions
Prejudice: An unfair opinion or judgment of a particular group of people.
Stereotype: Exaggerated or oversimplified belief about people who belong to a certain group
Tolerance: The ability to accept others’ differences.
Bullying: Deliberately harming or threatening other people who cannot defend themselves.
Hazing: Making others perform certain task in order to join the group.

11. Respect Yourself Self-respect will strengthen your relationships.
When you respect yourself you are more likely to seek out relationships with people who treat you with respect.
Have strong values
Be confident in yourself and you beliefs
Don’t compromise your beliefs just to fit in

12. Respect Others
Listen to Other People: Be willing to hear and consider their points of view, even if you disagree
Be Considerate of Others’ Feelings: Before you act or speak consider how it might effect the other person.
Develop Mutual Trust: Let others know they can trust you by being honest and dependable.
Be Realistic in your Expectations: Ex. You can’t always expect friends and family to always make you their to priority.

13. Effective Communication
How does it feel to listen to a person who is pushy, rude, or hostile?
How do you deal with a person who acts like that?

14. Communication Styles
Aggressive: overly forceful, pushy, or hostile. May be in a threatening manner.
May not pay attention to others thoughts or feelings
Passive: Unwilling or unable to express thoughts and feelings in a direct or firm manner
Assertive: Expressing your views clearly and respectfully.
Which method is the best and what are the problems with the other 2?

15. Using “I” Messages
“I” Message: statement that focuses on your feelings rather than on someone else’s behavior
Ex. Instead of saying “you never listen to anything I say”
Say “I feel like my suggestions aren’t being taken serious”
“You always ignore me when your other friends are around”
“I feel hurt when I’m left out of a conversation”

16. “I” Message Myth vs. Facts
Myth: I need to use a “you” message to get someone to change his or her behavior.
Fact: “I” messages are more effective because they don’t point blame at the other person. You messages can seem disrespectful
Myth: “I” messages are a passive way to communicate
Fact: “I” messages are an assertive style of communication. You clearly express your thoughts and feelings.

17. Listening Skills
Active Listening: Paying close attention to what someone is saying and communicating.
Don’t Interrupt: Give your full attention.
Show Interest: Give eye contact to the speaker, nod, or give feedback.

18. Listening Skills
Restate what you Hear: Rephrase or summarize the speaker’s words to make sure you understand.
Ask Questions: Asking questions can help you understand what the speaker is saying. It also helps clarify what the speaker is saying.
Show Empathy: Let the other person know that you can relate to their feelings. Try not to pass judgment on the speakers views or beliefs.

19. Nonverbal Communication
Body Language: nonverbal communication through gestures, facial expressions, behaviors, and posture.
What are some examples of body language and how can they affect communication?