Respecting Others Chapter 8 TEK #2 Developing Positive Relationships

Respect: What does it mean? Showing regard for the worth of someone or something. How to gain respect? By your actions Showing regard for all forms of property and the environment The Need for Respect Respect is the key in all areas of life. When people show respect and common courtesy to each other, they help make life easier and more positive.

Respecting Yourself Means valuing yourself. You show self- respect when you treat your own life and body as deserving of worth. You show respect for yourself when you refuse to take part in self destructive behavior. People with self-respect have healthy self-esteem. Their self-respect shows in the way they take care of their health, develop their skills and abilities, and choose friends who have similar values to their own.

When Respect is Missing Stereotypes and Prejudice A stereotype is a belief that an entire group of people fit a fixed common pattern- meaning they are all alike in certain ways. Prejudice- An unfair or biased opinion. Often it is a judgment against a person or group made with lack of knowledge of the correct facts. Rather than smoothing the path to common ground and understanding, prejudice causes people to DISTRUST and HATE without just cause.

Respecting Your Community Respecting your community involves doing your part to take care of it. This includes NOT vandalizing (or destroying property); AND refusing to graffiti (unwanted drawings on private property). Remember a community consists of a group of people with common interests who live in a certain area.

At Home Learn to respect yourself and your family. You show respect at home when you: Are considerate of others feelings Take initiative and help out willingly Clean up after yourself Take responsibility for your actions and not blame others. Follow rules, including CURFEWS. Treat the possessions of others with care.

At School Ways to show respect at school Make time for friends Listen considerately to your teacher Complete assignments Follow rules Listen to your friends even if you do not AGREE with them. Tact- Communicating something difficult without attacking another’s feelings. Empathy- The ability to understand what someone else is experiencing.

Making the Connection In small groups, identify one or more areas of your school that reflect student pride and respect (Ex. The front entrance to the school). Next, indicate one or more areas that indicate a lack of concern. Talk about the steps that students and faculty can take to increase school pride and respect.

Communication Skills Chapter 9 Conflict Resolution Chapter 10 TEK 2B Roles of Communication TEK 2C Methods of Resolution

Communication Skills What is communication- The process of sending messages to-and receiving messages from-others. These messages include facts, opinions, and feelings. Verbal Speaking to communicate. Non Verbal A message being sent without words. Communication is usually a mixture of both verbal and nonverbal messages.

Verbal Messages Think before you speak- Consider the points you want to make before speaking. Don’t embarrass yourself or hurt others by saying things you’ll later regret. Express a positive attitude- Express yourself positively, warmly, and enthusiastically whenever you can. Consider the person receiving your message-

Verbal Messages Send specific messages- Organize your thoughts. Speak clearly- Pronounce words correctly and distinctly. Don’t speak too fast or slow. Make sure your listener understands you- Be aware of give and take in conversation- If you do all the talking, the other person may become bored and stop listening.

Non-Verbal Communication Body Language- the way in which you use gestures and body movement to communicate. People send mixed messages when their words don’t match their nonverbal messages. Written Messages- Includes but are not limited to email, text messaging, notes, cards and letters. Read your messages carefully before sending them to make sure your words are clear.

Communication Road Blocks Just like bad traffic, obstacles block open communication, too. Gossip, lies, insults, threats, and accusations- Hurtful talk closes lines of communication. Nagging and preaching- Turns listeners off. A ”know-it-all” attitude- Not being open to other people’s ideas or opinions. Sarcasm- Communicates the opposite meaning. Interruptions- Continue your message in a patient but determined way, or you may need to say “ Pardon me. I didn’t get to finish what I wanted to say.”

Developing Listening Skills To be an active listener You concentrate on what the speaker is saying, rather than on what you want to say. Active listening involves: Saying “Yes” OR “Okay”. Asking Questions OR Making a Statement Maintaining eye contact, nodding your head OR Shaking your head when you don’t understand Active listening involves giving both verbal and nonverbal feedback.

Delivering your message Rapport- Harmony or understanding between people. To establish rapport Put people at ease Show interest in them Make them feel comfortable Call them by name Involve them In the conversation Ask their opinion on a a topic If you act relaxed and comfortable, others will react in the same way, too.

Be A Better Listener If you sharpen your skills in each of these four areas: Hearing- Tune in to what others are saying. Interpreting- Understand what a person actually says. Evaluating- Evaluate words NOT the PERSON. Avoid letting performed ideas or feelings get in the way. Responding- Your response shows the speaker whether you understand the message.

Assertive Communication Assertive persons are neither Passive nor Aggressive. Assertive persons stand up for themselves and for their beliefs in firm, but positive, ways. Your opinions and your wishes are worthwhile. You have the right to express them, even though others may disagree at times. Everyone has to learn to accept give and take as part of open communication.

Assignment Applying Your Learning #3 (a team of 2 people) Pg. 141 Applying Your Learning #2 OR Applying Your Learning #3 (a team of 2 people) Each presentation must be ready by Tuesday, September 19, 2006.