Personality

How do we define personality? The mix of how we feel, think and behave that make us different from everyone else.

Heredity Environment What are the 2 areas that influence our Personality: Heredity and Environment

Heredity and our Personality Do we inherit our personalities? What are the 2 classifications of personalities?

A person who prefers to be alone or with a few friends is an Introvert A person who is very outgoing, likes being in the middle of things is an Extrovert

Can you tell the difference between an introvert and an extrovert by just looking at them?

Environment and our Personality When do our personalities begin to develop? How do our personalities develop?

Modeling Conditioning learning by reward and punishment learning by watching and imitating others

Is there a certain age in which How do we define Maturity? State of being fully grown Is there a certain age in which maturity occurs?

Self-Esteem? Self-Concept? What is Self-Esteem? ... how you feel about yourself Self-Concept? What is ... how you view yourself and your role in life.

What type of things influence our self esteem and self concept?

Who influences the decisions We make? FRIENDS FAMILY Who influences the decisions We make? RELIGION TEACHERS IDOLS MEDIA

How do you define Peer Pressure? Is peer pressure always bad? Pressure to do something because your friends want you to. Is peer pressure always bad?

Direct Pressure? What is... The pressure that results from someone who tries to convince you to do something you normally wouldn’t do.

indirect Pressure? What is... The pressure that results from being swayed to do something because people you look up to are doing it.

How can the dynamics of a social group lead to peer pressure?

Avoiding Dangerous Situations Unfortunately, many teens wind up “going along” with something not because they want to, but simply because they don’t know how to respond in these situations. They are afraid of losing a friend, looking uncool, or being left out of the crowd. Knowing some ways to say “no” will help with some of these situations.

Top Ten Refusal Skills for Teens Make a joke…Sometimes humor is the best way to respond to a situation, as it can lighten a serious mood. It can also divert attention away from you and onto something else. Give reason why it’s a bad idea…Backing up your refusal with evidence gives it more power. Make an excuse why your can’t do something…Maybe you have something else to do that will interfere. Or you have to be somewhere at a specific time. Or your mom will kill you. Whatever. But say it and stick to it.

Top Ten Refusal Skills for Teens 4. Just say ‘NO” plain and firm…In some situations, just saying no without a lot of arguing and explaining is the best response. 5. Suggest an alternative activity…Lots of kids wind up doing stuff they shouldn’t because they lack other options. They’re bored. By thinking of something better to do, you’re offering everyone an “out.” 6. Ignore the suggestion…Pretend you didn’t hear it, and change the topic to something else. Act like you don’t think the idea was even worth discussing.

Top Ten Refusal Skills for Teens 7. Repeat yourself if necessary…Sometimes it takes more than once, on more than one occasion. Just because someone asks more than once, that doesn’t mean you have to cave. 8. Leave the situation…If you don’t like where things are headed, you can take off. 9. “Thanks but no thanks!”…You can be polite, but you still aren’t interested. It just isn’t something you’re into. 10. The power of numbers… Make a pact with your friends to stick to your guns. Often, knowing that your friends will back you up can help you feel more comfortable being assertive.

Peer Pressure can often lead to conflicts…how is the best way to deal with conflict?

Conflict Resolution is the process of resolving a dispute or a conflict by meeting at least some of each side's needs and addressing their interests. Peer mediation is a process where students of the same age -group facilitate resolving disputes between two people or small groups. Successful conflict resolution depends on your ability to regulate stress and your emotions

Unhealthy responses to conflict Healthy responses to conflict There are healthy and unhealthy ways to respond to conflicts… Unhealthy responses to conflict Healthy responses to conflict An inability to recognize and respond to the things that matter to the other person The capacity to recognize and respond to the things that matter to the other person Explosive, angry, hurtful, and resentful reactions Calm, non-defensive, and respectful reactions The withdrawal of love, resulting in rejection, isolation, shaming, and fear of abandonment readiness to forgive and forget, and to move past the conflict without holding resentments or anger An inability to compromise or see the other person’s side The ability to seek compromise and avoid punishing The fear and avoidance of conflict; the expectation of bad outcomes A belief that facing conflict head on is the best thing for both sides

o Don’t negotiate when angry. Techniques for Conflict Resolution: o Don’t negotiate when angry. o Forget the past and stay in the present. o Focus on the problem not the person. o Communicate feelings assertively, NOT aggressively. Express concerns without blaming the other side. o Expect and accept another’s right to disagree. Don’t push or force compliance; work to develop common agreement. o Don’t view the situation as a competition where one has to win and the other has to lose. Work toward a solution where both parties have some of their needs met. o Build ‘power with’ NOT ‘power over’ others. o Thank the person for listening.

If you don’t feel like the mediation is going well, seek advice from someone not involved. They may have feedback or suggestions about the problem solving skills being used. Who would be a good person to go to for advice in dealing with a conflict resolution?