Section 1 Building Your Self Esteem

What is Self-Esteem?  Why is it important to have high self- esteem?  What are some risks of having low self- esteem?

Key Terms  Self-esteem: a measure of how much you value, respect, and feel confident about yourself  Self- concept: a measure of how you view yourself  Integrity- the characteristic of doing what one knows is right

Benefits of High Self-Esteem  Increased respect  Increased ability to reach goals  Increased willingness to try  Increased feelings of value

Risks of Low Self-Esteem  Feels insecure  Disrespects self and others  Vulnerable to peer pressure  Doesn't feel valuable  Feels depressed  Fears failure  Uses drugs and alcohol  Feels pessimistic  Behaves destructively

Developing Self-Esteem  Self-concept: How you see yourself  Interpreting Messages From Others How we respond to constructive criticism Complements Advise Negative comments

Building Your Self-Esteem  Use positive self-talk  Act with integrity  Choose supportive friends  Accept yourself

Sell Yourself!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!  Create a Poster board to help you sell yourself  On the poster board include pictures, magazine clips, or words to help you explain why you are different and a great person  Try to sell yourself the best you can

Section 2

What do You Already Know?  Why is good communication important?  What are the three communication styles?  How can you improve your listening skills?

Key Terms  Passive- not offering opposition when challenged  Aggressive- hostile and unfriendly in the way one expresses oneself  Assertive- direct and respectful in the way one expresses oneself  Empathy- the ability to understand another person’s feelings, behaviors, and attitudes

Why is good communication so important?  Prevents misunderstandings  Builds healthy relationships  Helps express yourself

Communication Styles  Passive  Aggressive  Assertive  Ineffective  Effective  See pg 56 table 1

Communication styles SituationPassive Response Aggressive Response Assertive Response Someone cuts in front of you in line. You don’t say anything “Well, you must think your special!” “Excuse me, but I believe I am next in line.” Your best friend tells someone else one of your secrets You don’t say anything, but you vow never to tell her another secret “I hate you I am never going to trust you again!” “It hurt me to find out that you told one of my secrets, please don’t repeat my secrets again.” Your boss ask you to work late for the third nigh in a row. You agree but feel worried about finishing your homework tonight. “You are so inconsiderate! I quit!” “Sorry, I can’t work late tonight. I have a lot of homework.”

Respond to the Situation  Respond to each situation using each of the communication methods Passive Aggressive Assertive

Situation 1  You are taking a test when you notice someone is cheating off your paper. It bothers you, because you studied hard for the test and he/she did not.

Situation 2  You are at lunch. When you get up to get a napkin someone takes your seat and moves your stuff to another seat.

Situation 3  You heard that one of your friends is talking about you behind your back. You are not sure why he/she is talking behind your back, but it upsets you.

Speaking Skills  Voice volume  Tone and pitch  “I” messages and “You” messages  Empathy

Listening Skills  Active listening  Paraphrasing

Communicate With Body Language  Using good body language is important for good communication

Quick Recap  What is self esteem and why is it important?  Why is important to be able to communicate?  What are the 3 styles of communication?  What is the most effective communication style?