C.E.B.T. Cognitive Emotive Behavioral Therapy By John J. Martens, R.N., M.S.N., A.P.N., L.A.D.AC.

Honesty Safety Trust Respect

ANGER HURT FEAR SAD SHAME GUILT LONELY GLAD

If we do not express them in a healthy way they will be expressed in a dysfunctional or impaired way.

Repressed Anger= Rage & Depression

Shame, Guilt & Toxic Shame

Healthy Impaired ANGER HURT FEAR SAD SHAME GUILT LONELY GLAD Rage & Depression ResentmentAnxietySelf-Pity Toxic Shame ApathySilliness

Resentment (poisons our hearts)

Anxiety (fear no expressed)

Toxic Shame (the 3 sh’s)

Apathy (the black hole of the soul)

Carefrontation : Caring enough to tell the truth about how we feel, what we need or want and setting boundaries.

Silliness (laughing instead of crying)

These eight feelings are the key to relationships and windows into our hearts.

When we are safe enough and willing to respect; and we can trust and be honest about how we feel we experience emotional intimacy.

Lying and Hiding (the first signs of relapse)

Wounds and Confrontation (the reason for psychotherapy)

Wants (negotiable) Needs (gotta have it)

Codependency Whenever we place another person, place or thing ahead of our needs and give away whatever we need for what place, person, or thing wants or needs

Borderline Personality Disorder Self injurious behaviors Wrist to waist restraints Intrusive always asking for items then acting out if she doesn’t get them. Countertransference

Narcissistic Personality Disorder Victim, blames everyone including God External Locus of Control Will not speak his needs Sees no benefit from psychotherapy. Entitlement Countertransference

Antisocial Personality Disorder Charming sociopathy Blames other – no personal responsibility Dishonesty way of like Personal relationships to meet needs and no empathy. Countertransference

Supervision: Who, what and where