4 Dealing with Emotions in Positive Ways You have learned various positive and negative ways of expressing your emotions from your;EnvironmentExperiencesOthersNegative ways of dealing with your feelings do nothing to help you solve your problems.Over-exaggerating emotions for effectPretending the feelings are not there at allIntentionally hurting someone else
5 Strategies for Responding to Your Emotions Look below the surface of your emotionIs the situation that important it will matter tomorrow or down the road?Consider all possible consequences firstUse positive feelings to inspire yourselfIf your negative feelings do not go away, seek help from a parent, friend, or trusted adult
6 Difficult EmotionsIntense emotions can affect your attitude and behavior.Using strategies can help you solve and interpret personal conflicts.Write in a private journalPlay musicTalk about your feelings
7 Managing Your Difficult Emotions 1) Defense Mechanisms-Mental processes that protect individuals from strong or stressful emotions and situations.Common Defense Mechanisms (full list on pg. 190)Suppression- Holding back or restraining.Can provide temporary escape from an unpleasant situationEx: Using alcohol and drugs to hide your feelingsDenial- Unconscious lack of acknowledgment of something that is obvious to othersEx: Having an eating disorder, lying to yourself and those around you (denying) however, your family and friends know the truth.In the long run, defense mechanisms may keep you from facing what is really troubling you.
8 On your own paper, write in the correct defense mechanism. Pg. 190 1. stating that you were fired because you didn't kiss up the boss, when the real reason was your poor performance2. sitting in a corner and crying after hearing bad news; throwing a temper tantrum when you don't get your way3. forgetting sexual abuse from your childhood due to the trauma and anxiety4. trying to forget something that causes you anxiety
9 AnswersRationalization: stating that you were fired because you didn't kiss up the boss, when the real reason was your poor performanceRegression: sitting in a corner and crying after hearing bad news; throwing a temper tantrum when you don't get your wayRepression: forgetting sexual abuse from your childhood due to the trauma and anxietySuppression: trying to forget something that causes you anxiety
10 Managing Your Difficult Emotions Continued… 2) Handling FearAn emotion many people work to overcomeIdentify your fearAnalyze the situation that causes the fearTalking about your fearSome fears are healthy and natura3) Dealing with GuiltGuilt can be a very destructive emotionTry to get to the underlying source of your guiltLearn from your mistake, and be more carefulDiscuss the situation, some may be out of your control
11 Managing Your Difficult Emotions Continued… 4) Managing AngerAnger can be one of the most difficult emotions.Get to the underlying source of your anger and address itIf there is nothing you can do about the source of your anger, there is always a way to cope with the feelings.
12 Strategies for managing anger Try seeing an upsetting issue from the other persons perspective.Learn to relaxPractice trusting other peopleDevelop your listening skillsLearn to be assertive (not passive or aggressive)
13 Answer review question #4 pg. 191 On your own:Answer both parts of question #4 on your own paper.we will review the answers together.