PEER RELATIONSHIPS Peer Pressure & Refusal Skills Dating Abstinence Chapter 8 Lessons 2 & 3 PEER RELATIONSHIPS Peer Pressure & Refusal Skills Dating Abstinence

WHAT DOES IT MEAN TO CONFORM? What were the examples of peer pressure and conformity in this experiment?

Peer pressure- influence people of your own age or status have on you (spoken vs. unspoken) Positive - good influence 2) Negative – negative consequences - harassment – persistently annoying others - manipulation – indirect or dishonest way to control influence others

WAYS TO MANIPULATE Teasing Threats Bargaining Blackmail Guilt Trips Pressure Violence Teasing Flattery Bribing Bargaining

Responses to Peer Pressure Passive – give in, avoiding - Aggressive – overly forceful Assertive- stand up for rights in firm but positive way HOW TO BE ASSERTIVE 1) I messages 2) Respectful but firm voice 3) Alternatives to actions 4) Clear & simple statements 5) Appropriate body language (no mixed messages)

Refusal Skills – skills help you say no State your position Suggest Alternatives Stand your ground Make your decision known Avoid tempting situations Change the subject Suggest an alternative Leave the situation

Lifeboat Activity You have to decide the order in which you would save the people on the sinking ship. Place a number next to each description (1-8). Write on a separate sheet of paper why you would save each character in that particular order.

Lifeboat Activity (cont) Get into groups with your rows. You must come up with an order of saving people as a group. Most likely, people are going to have differing opinions but you can only have one answer. Write this down on a separate sheet of paper and the reason why you chose each person in that order.

Lifeboat Activity Questions Please answer these questions in a paragraph: What did this activity have to do with the topic of peer pressure? Did your group’s answer differ from your individual answer and Why? If you were actually on the lifeboat in real life, how would peer pressure effect your decision? Why?

Do Now - Answer the questions Which would be hardest to accept? - Husband or wife cheating - Husband or wife doing hard drugs - Finding out husband or wife was married before and never told you What do you look for in a mate? - Good looking - lots of money - Fun to be with What do you look at when you meet someone of opposite sex? - eyes - Overall figure - face Which of these is most preferable to you? - Stay single - married no kids - married with kids

Do Now: Answer these Brainstorming ?’s in your note packet What is your definition of dating? What age should you begin dating? Name some appropriate places where you could go on a date? Name negative and positive benefits of dating? 5) List concerns your parents have about dating?

Dating & Setting Limits Establishing Dating Standards Safe transportation Reasonable Curfew Have a code of contact Avoid Risk Situation

Dating Violence 22.4% of women and 15.0% of men first experienced some form of partner violence between 11 and 17 years of age

What are qualities found in both? Good Relationship Bad relationship

Feelings Health Relationship Happy Growth Contentment Energized Optimism Self – Respect Enhanced Self Esteem Encouragement Feeling Unhealthy Relationship Fatigue Negativity Decline Isolation Sadness Diminished Self Desperation Obsessive thoughts

WARNING SIGNS Jealousy Controlling Isolation Verbal Abuse Physical Violence Quick Involvement Blaming Others

LIST SOME CONSEQUNCES FOR EACH CATEGORY BELOW: Abstinence How can teen sexual activity have negative consequences on the following categories? LIST SOME CONSEQUNCES FOR EACH CATEGORY BELOW: Physical health Emotional Health Social Health Legal Implications

Abstinence What are some reasons to practice abstinence until marriage? 1) Physical Health - Sexual Transmitted Infections - unplanned pregnancy 3) Emotional Health- hurt, self respect, guilt, regret 4) Social Health- reputation, family members

Committing to Abstinence Establish priorities Set personal limits on affection Share your thoughts Avoid high pressure situations *Use refusal techniques