3 ObjectivesEvaluate the positive and negative effects of peer relationships and friends on physical and emotional healthEvaluate the dynamics of social groupsDemonstrate refusal strategies and apply skills for making responsible decision under pressureExamine strategies for maintaining safe and healthy dating relationshipsIdentify the characteristics of a healthy dating relationship
4 Friendship Significant relationship between two people Based upon caring, respect, trust and considerationPeople you share hobbies, interests and other friends withPlatonic friendship: friendship with a member of the gender in which there is affection but the two people are not considered a couple
5 Types of Friendships Casual Close Relationship between peers who share something in commonPeople with whom you share some interest but you do not necessarily form deep emotional bonds withCloseStrong emotional tiesComfortable sharing thoughts, experiences and feelingsTrust and support each otherTrue friends have several common attributes:Similar values, interests, beliefs and attitudesOpen and honest communicationSharing of joys, disappointments, dreams and concernsMutual respect, caring and supportConcern about each other’s safety and well-being
6 CliquesSmall circle of friends usually with similar backgrounds of tastes, who exclude people viewed as outsidersOften share similar attitudes, wear the same clothing, meet regularly in an area identified as their “turf” and engage in other behaviors that identify them as a cliqueCan have both positive and negative influences on peersPositive: provide members with a sense of belonging, self confidenceNegative: members discouraged from thinking for themselves, exclusion of other people, prejudices and stereotypes enforcedPrejudice: making assumptions of judgments about an individual without really knowing him or herStereotype: exaggerated and oversimplified belief about an entire group of people, such as an ethnic or religious group or a genderWhat are some common stereotypes? What prejudices do individuals face because of stereotypes. In your WU NB write about a time you felt like you were being stereotyped. Why do you think people were stereotyping you? How did it make you feel? How did you deal with it? After considering how you felt, think about if you have ever placed another person in a sterotype.
7 Building and Strengthening Friendships Be loyalTrust and depend on each otherSpeak respectfully of each otherEncourage each otherBe supportiveAcknowledge each other’s accomplishmentsHelp each other through difficult timesRespect each otherCommon courtesyAvoid taking friends for grantedKeep your promises
8 Peer Pressure The influence that people you age may have on you Positive or negative influencesPositive:Encourage participation in healthful behaviorsDiscourage participation in risky behaviorsNegative:Pressure others to take part in behaviors with negative consequencesHarassment: persistently annoying othersEngaging in behaviors against one’s valuesManipulation: indirect, dishonest way to control or influence others
9 Resisting Negative Peer Pressure Avoid it if possibleDevelop friendships with people who share your values and interestsStay true to yourselfBe assertiveStand up for your rights in a firm but positive wayUse refusal skillsCommunication strategies that can help you say no when you are urged to take part in behaviors that are unsafe, unhealthy or that go against your valuesStep 1: State your positionJust say no!Step 2: Suggest alternativesSuggest another activity in place of the one you do not want to partake inStep 3: Stand your groundUse strong body languageMaintain eye contactLeave the situation
10 Passive and Aggressive Responses Passive: tendency to give up, give in or back down without standing up for one’s own rights and needsPassive teens may thing they are making friends by going alongMay cause others to view them as pushoversAggressive: overly forceful, pushy, hostile or otherwise attacking in an approachAggressive teens may react by yelling, shouting, shoving or insulting othersMost people react to aggressive behavior by avoiding the individualBeing ASSERTIVE, not passive or aggressive will serve as a useful skill throughout life, especially when resisting peer pressureComplete activity 12
11 Dating Don’t be pressured into dating, make sure it is your choice Group dates are a great optionDating allows teens to develop and practice social skillsWhat to do on a date?Sports or athletic activitiesPromote healthAllow dates to get to know each other better in a friendly, relaxed atmosphereCommunity activitiesChoose an event or activity that interests both of youCharitable activitiesVolunteering together can help build strong friendshipsA great option for group datesBrainstorm some local ideas where you could go on a date
12 Avoiding Risky Situations Avoid places where alcohol and drugs are presentAlcohol and drugs impair judgmentPeople under the influence are more likely to engage in risky behaviorsAvoid being alone with a date at home or in an isolated placeYou may find it more difficult to maintain self-control when you are home alone or in an isolated place with a date
13 RelationshipsAn ongoing relationship with just one person may help you develop skills and behaviors that will someday prepare you for the responsibility in marriageHowever, dating only one person during adolescent may limit your chances of socializing with othersTeen years are a time to try different roles and relationshipsDon’t stay in a relationship just because it is comfortableCommon dating problems include staying in a relationship because you don’t know how to leave it gracefully OR clinging to a person who wishes to end the relationshipHonesty and open communication will help resolve difficulties
14 Setting Limits Curfew As you mature you’ll need to set your own limits May be set by a parent or guardianSet time that you must be homeAs you mature you’ll need to set your own limitsAge, where you’ll go, what you’ll doMake your limits clear to avoid potentially risky situationsThink about limits you have for yourself. Write them down. I have mentioned a few limits here, but there are many more you need to think about.
15 Read time health pg 324, find lyrics about relationships…how does this song portray a relationship? How do you think this effects society’s view about relationships? Think about the media in general…do you feel pressured to date or not to date because of the media? What kind of messages do tv shows, movies and songs send to teens about relationships? Extension: exploring issues pg 314…create a survey to find out what your classmates consider to be the most important values in a friendship. Is it different between boys and girls?