1. Peer pressure Manipulation Refusal skills Passive Aggressive Assertive

2. Peer Pressure  Impact what you think, feel, say and do.  The control and influence people your own age may have over you.  Way you respond to peer pressure has impact on the decisions you make.

3. Role Model  Influencing peers to take part in a positive act or worth while cause is a healthful way of influencing others.  Not limited to following or setting good examples of what to do  Provides examples of what not to do

4. Negative Peer Influence  Pressure to accept beliefs or take part in negative behaviors  Negative behaviors lead to negative consequences  Examples: stay out past curfew, or steal, commit crime or wrongful doing as an initiation for group

5. Manipulation  Sneaky or dishonest way to control or influence others  Does this to peers to get what he or she wants without respect or consideration of others.

6. Types of Manipulation  Mocking or teasing in mean or hurtful ways  Bargaining, or offering to make a deal to get what one wants  Bribing, or promising money or favors if person will do what is asked  Using guilt trips to get desired results  Make threats, using foul language to get results  Using blackmail or reveal private information

7. Responding to Negative Peer Pressure  People make requests and demands throughout your life.  How you respond can directly affect your mental, social, or physical health – even your life. Passive way Aggressive way Assertive way

8. Passive Way  Giving up, giving in, or backing down without standing up for your own rights and needs.  Viewed by peers that they are pushovers and not worthy of much respect.

9. Aggressive Way  Overly forceful, pushy, hostile or otherwise attacking in approach  Saying no might involve punching, yelling shouting, insults, or displaying other kinds of physical or verbal force.  Aggressive people might think they will get their way and be seen as powerful and popular, usually backfires.  People either stay away from aggressors or jump in and fight back.  Hurts the aggressor emotionally and/or physically.

10. Assertive Way  Stand up for your own rights, in firm but positive ways  State your position, acknowledge the rights of the other people, stand your ground.  Do not bully or back away.  Directly and honestly state you case and show that you mean what you say.  Assertive people become role models for other teens.  Teens respect people who have the personal power to be true to who they really are.

11. Assertive Refusal Skills 1. State your position simply but firmly Say No, then give honest reason why “It goes against my values!” that’s it – be honest not phony 2. Suggest alternatives to the behavior being proposed Recommend better, safer options 3. Back up your words with actions. Make it clear No means No. Strong body language, clear voice, & eye contact Go home, talk later, make new friends.