2 Peer Relationships Ch 8, Lesson 1 Different Types of Friendships and Being SafeCasual, Close, Platonic, On-line
3 Friendships: Many types throughout life Casual:- Share similar interests- No deep emotional bondsClose:- Strong emotional ties- Support/encouragement; listens to concerns without judgment- Talk about problems
4 Friendships: Many types throughout life Platonic:- Shared affection with opposite gender- Not considered a coupleOn-line:- Communication through InternetPositive vs. NegativeRewarding to know people from all over the world (cultures/traditions)Dangerous when others aren’t truthful
5 What should you do to be safe on Internet? Don’t share personal informationDon’t share photos (facebook?)Never arrange face/face meetingsTell a trusted adult if… you become uncomfortable
6 Recognizing Problems in Friendships Important to know how to recognize and resolve problems in friendshipsCliques – small circle of friends who exclude others as outsidersWays to avoid negative aspects of cliques...Become active in several activitiesDevelop variety in friendshipsEnvy or jealousy – you have unique talents, don’t compare yourself; think positive (self-talk)
7 Student Activity: (5 minutes) Read “When Friendships Change” on page 197 in Glencoe Health textbook – Health Skills ActivityWith a classmate, role-play a scene to end this scenario using the instructions given in the ‘writing’ sectionORYou may write or draw a cartoon ending the scene using the instructions given in the ‘writing’ section
8 Peer Pressure and Refusal Skills Ch 8, Lesson 2 People your age can influence how you think, feel, and actCan be negative or positive…
9 Positive Peer Pressure: Positive Friends…Inspire you to try something newEncourage you to participate in activitiesInfluence you in healthful ways…Negative Peer Pressure:Take part in negative behaviorsAccept beliefs with negative consequencesCliques who are disrespectful to othersBullying or acts of bullying
10 Harassment:Persistently annoying othersManipulation:Indirect, dishonest way to control or influence other peopleExamples (pg. 200, Figure 8.5): making threats, blackmail, mocking or teasing, ‘guilt trips’, bargaining, flattery, bribing
11 Resisting Negative Peer Pressure: Practicing Refusal Skills (communication strategies) will help you deal with NPPAssertive Refusal1. state your position - reason2. suggest alternatives - activities3. stand your ground – body language, eye contact; walk away
12 Passive and Aggressive Responses Passive = easier?Viewed as pushover, not worthy of respectAggressive = get your way?Viewed as forceful, pushy, or hostileBeing assertive shows you stand up for your rights, beliefs, and needs. It shows you respect yourself and those around you.
14 To protect your health and safety Age of people you date Where you go? Setting LimitsTo protect your health and safetyAge of people you dateWhere you go?How will you get there?What will you do when you get there?
15 AbstinenceA deliberate decision to avoid high-risk behaviorsIntimacy – closeness between two people developed over time.Infatuation – exaggerated feelings of passionSelf-control – a person’s ability to use responsibility to override emotions (control reaction)set limits for expressing affectioncommunicate with partnertalk with trusted adultlow-pressure dating situationsdate someone who respects/shares same values
16 What do you think? (class discussion) Avoiding Risk SituationsWhat do you think? (class discussion)Avoid places where alcohol and other drugs are presentAvoid being alone with a date at home or in an isolated place
17 Considering the Consequences what do you think? (class discussion)STIs/STDsUnplanned pregnancyConsent Law – NC consent law - age is 16
18 The facts… about sexual behavior in teen years Effects on Mental/Emotional Health:Aren’t committed as in marital relationshipGuilt feelings – truthful to parents about sexual activity? Would they approve?Loss of self-respect going against valuesRegret and anxiety in consequences
19 The facts… about sexual behavior in teen years Effects on Social Health:May lose opportunity for new friendshipsMay lose opportunity for new activitiesTension in family from disappointment/worryChallenges in financial and emotional supportTeen parents put own education/career and dreams on hold to raise child
20 Know the facts before you react… Is it normal to have sexual feelings?Yes.Can you control the reaction to these feelings?Deliberate decision = planning and self-controlRe-commit to Abstinence – ALWAYS an option – never too late to decide/act on protecting your health and well-being!Know the facts before you react…
21 Dating Decisions – personal values and priorities will influence your dating decisions Are you ready to date? Other priorities? (goals, tasks, values, and activities you judge to be more important than others)Set healthful dating expectations…consideration and respectcommunicate thoughts and feelings honestlynever feel pressured to do anything against you or your family’s values
22 Refusal Skills Suggestions to Say No to NPP “Everybody does it”No. Not everybody is doing it.“I thought you were cool”I am cool, and the answer is still no.“No one will know”I’ll know, and I’m the one who matters.“If you loved me, you’d do it”If you loved me, you’d respect my decision.
23 What is your website address? Student Enrichment:Design a website on abstinence for teens. You will draw this on paper. The site should be accurate, informative, and creative. It should also contain links to other reliable abstinence websites…(link ideas: more information on refusal skills, decisions to date, peer pressure, considering consequences, sexual content on tv, benefits of abstinence…)What is your website address?