Self-Esteem and Stress Management Intrapersonal Skills

Preview: Intrapersonal Skills Emotional Intelligence Achieving Academic and career Excellence (Nelson and Low, 2011)  Interpersonal skills, like assertion, allow you to manage your relationships in the best possible ways.  Intrapersonal skills, like Self-Esteem and Stress Management, allow you to manage your relationship with self in the best possible ways.

Preview (cont’d) Emotional Intelligence Achieving Academic and career Excellence (Nelson and Low, 2011) A very important mental process in the development and maintenance of your intrapersonal health is constructive thinking. Constructive thinking allows you to be imperfect (as all humans area), make mistakes, and remain positive in your evaluation of self.

Self-Esteem Emotional Intelligence Achieving Academic and career Excellence (Nelson and Low, 2011)  Defined - the learned ability to view self as positive, competent, and successful. Positive Self-Esteem is the foundation of achievement and a general sense of well-being.  Developed and maintained when one experiences success after effectively dealing with Self, others, and the demands of life.

Self-Esteem Emotional Intelligence Achieving Academic and career Excellence (Nelson and Low, 2011)  Cognitive Focus: Learning to value self more.  Emotional Focus: Learning feel better about myself.  Action Focus: Learning to behave in ways that I respect and value.

EI Man Says Emotional Intelligence Achieving Academic and career Excellence (Nelson and Low, 2011)  Self-Esteem is how you feel about yourself. If you see yourself as competent and pretty much always successful, this is how you are going to be: self-confident and able to do what you need to do very well.  Like attracts like and you may find the company of other people with high self-esteem beneficial to you.

Stress Management Emotional Intelligence Achieving Academic and career Excellence (Nelson and Low, 2011)  Defined – Positive stress management is the learned ability to choose and exercise healthy self-control in response to stressful events. This skill requires that you regulate the level of emotional intensity and use cognitive copying strategies during difficult and stressful situations.

Stress Management Emotional Intelligence Achieving Academic and career Excellence (Nelson and Low, 2011)  Cognitive Focus: Learning to relax and calm yourself.  Emotional Focus: Feeling good about being important enough to relax.  Action Focus: Choosing healthy behaviors and responses to stress.

EI Man Says Emotional Intelligence Achieving Academic and career Excellence (Nelson and Low, 2011)  If the pressure on you is too much and you get “stressed out,” can you control yourself and keep you cool?  Stress management is the ability to handle stressful situations and keep doing what you need to do calmly and carefully to make things work right.  Stress isn’t always a bad thing. If you handle tough situations well, you will grow as a person. As it is said, “Ordeal tempers the soul.”

Learning Activity Emotional Intelligence Achieving Academic and career Excellence (Nelson and Low, 2011) Reflect on a time when your self-esteem was low or high. How did you feel about yourself? What did you think about yourself? What strategy can you develop to enhance and maintain your self-esteem?