EQ for Young Learners Getting them emotionally smart enough to succeed Teresa Doguelli

“Learning doesn’t take place in isolation from kids’ feelings. Being emotionally literate is as important for learning as instruction in math and reading.” Karen Stone McCown “Stress makes people stupid, i.e when emotionally upset, people cannot remember, attend, learn, or make decisions clearly.” Daniel Goleman

Kindergarten Insecurity/anxiety Jealousy Feeling left out/unloved Teasing Fears Pride Confidence Comparing self with others

Puberty Not being asked out on a date Being left out of the group Being picked on/bullied Self-esteem issues Anger management Impulse and mood control Lack of empathy from peers & family

Defensive forms of the Group Dynamic SUBMISSIONFLIGHTATTACK Acceptance anxiety Orientation anxiety Performance anxiety Repressed grief Repressed fear Repressed anger John Heron The Facilitator’s Handbook Kogan Page 1989

What is Emotional Intelligence? “It is the capacity for recognizing our own feelings and those of others, for motivating ourselves, and for managing emotions well in ourselves and in our relationships.” Daniel Goleman Emotional Intelligence Bantam Books 1995

EQ Activities while you work Feelings Register Problem mailbox Feelings Cube Stoplight Poster 1. Stop, calm down, and think before you act 6. Go ahead and try the best plan 2. Say the problem and how you feel 3. Set a positive goal 4. Think of lots of solutions 5. Think ahead to the consequences

Recognising emotions Happy or Sad? English World Level 1

Managing emotions What should you do? English World Level 4

Managing emotions What should you do? English World Level 4

Managing emotions What’s the problem? English World Level 4

Managing emotions What’s the problem? English World Level 4

Reacting to others English World Level 3

Reacting to others English World Level 3

Communal Responsibility English World Level 3

Communal Responsibility English World Level 3

Personal responsibility English World Level 3

Revenge or favour? English World Level 5

Borrow or steal? English World Level 5

How often do you ? Brush your teeth Take a shower Change your socks Play football with your friends at school Chat on MSN Watch TV

Self Disclosure How often do you:Very oftenoftensometimesrarelynever Cry Laugh Quarrel with your sister/ brother Feel sad for no reason Feel happy for no reason Daydream Forget things Wish you were someone else Get angry Do silly things Make mistakes Really enjoy yourself Change your mind

Empathy Imagine you are your partner and complete the sentences. 1.I like the colour_________because__________________ 2.I sometimes worry about__________________________ 3.My biggest fear is________________________________ 4.My ambition is to________________________________ 5.I like people who________________________________ 6.People like me because___________________________ IF I WERE YOU 1.If I found some money, I would If I saw a snake, I would If I could be anyone else, I would be My perfect day would be

Empathy PREDICTING SIMILARITIES We are both... We both have... We both like... When we were younger we both used to... In the future both of us will probably...

Communication, Disclosure, Insight, Empathy CLASS RECORDS Find out how many times people in the group have broken their legs Find out how many people in the group have owned pets who have died or run away. What kind of pets? Find out how many times people in the group have fallen in love Find out what objects people in the group have lost which were important to them Find out how many people in the group have had an operation Find out how many people in the group have single parents AS A GROUP WE HAVE: Broken our legs 3 timesOwned 5 goldfish, 2 cats, a dog, a snake Fallen in love 21 timesLost 2 mobiles and a pair of Converse Had 5 operations2 single parents

Self awareness Self-acceptance English World Level 4

Self awareness Self-acceptance English World Level 4

The Negative Feelings Dustbin

Medals

English World Level 4

The Self Science Curriculum Self-awareness Personal decision-making Managing feelings Handling stress Empathy Communications Self disclosure Insight Self acceptance Personal Responsibility Assertiveness Group dynamics Conflict resolution