page 1 “The Bully” It’s Time to Say NO! Mrs. Walp October 2014

Harassment/ Bullying Defined: Any action that causes the other person to feel threatened, ashamed, put down, afraid, hurt or in any way upset. Any action that causes the other person to feel threatened, ashamed, put down, afraid, hurt or in any way upset. Must stop immediately. Must stop immediately. It may be necessary for you to have no further contact with each other. It may be necessary for you to have no further contact with each other. You may even need to not look at or talk to each other. You may even need to not look at or talk to each other.

Who is a bully Someone that Someone that Intimidates Intimidates Pushes, trips, hits Pushes, trips, hits Teases, insults, mocks Teases, insults, mocks Threatens, taunts, lies Threatens, taunts, lies Spreads rumors, gossips, lies Spreads rumors, gossips, lies

Anyone can be a target New kid in school New kid in school Your grades are too high Your grades are too high Your style too different Your style too different Your accent too foreign Your accent too foreign Your hair too long or too short Your hair too long or too short Your body too big or too small Your body too big or too small

Characteristics of a bully? 1. Often lonely and insecure 1. Often lonely and insecure

Characteristics of a bully cont. 2. When they pick on people, they stop others from picking on them. 2. When they pick on people, they stop others from picking on them.

Characteristics of a bully cont. 3. Feel safer, stronger, and in control. A feeling they most likely do not have in other parts of their life. 3. Feel safer, stronger, and in control. A feeling they most likely do not have in other parts of their life.

Characteristics of a bully cont. 4. Desperately want to be accepted by the crowd. 4. Desperately want to be accepted by the crowd.

Types of Bullies There are five types of bullies. There are five types of bullies. Lets identify all five Lets identify all five

Hit, kick, push, poke, punch, slap, trip, pull hair, step on heels Hit, kick, push, poke, punch, slap, trip, pull hair, step on heels Take, damage or hide victim’s property Take, damage or hide victim’s property Known to entire school Known to entire school Become more aggressive as they become older Become more aggressive as they become older Continue into adulthood Continue into adulthood used to be mostly boys, but now also common among girls. used to be mostly boys, but now also common among girls.

2 Use words to hurt, humiliate, threaten others Use words to hurt, humiliate, threaten others Name calling, insults, nick names Name calling, insults, nick names Racist comments Racist comments Comments about weight, height, or other physical features Comments about weight, height, or other physical features Easiest to inflict on others Easiest to inflict on others Quick and to the point Quick and to the point No visible scars but can be devastating No visible scars but can be devastating

3 Convince their peers to exclude or reject a certain person or people Convince their peers to exclude or reject a certain person or people Cut the victim off from social connections Cut the victim off from social connections Linked to verbal bullying Linked to verbal bullying May act independently or in a group May act independently or in a group Most common form is spreading nasty rumors/victim devastated by rejection Most common form is spreading nasty rumors/victim devastated by rejection

4 Doesn’t start the bullying but joins right in Doesn’t start the bullying but joins right in Intense loyalty to the bully Intense loyalty to the bully Legitimizes/enables the bully Legitimizes/enables the bully Peer “lieutenant” Peer “lieutenant”

5 Elect to ignore the victim for fear of stigma Elect to ignore the victim for fear of stigma Uses the victim as an example of what NOT to be like Uses the victim as an example of what NOT to be like Fear of associating with victim and becoming bullied Fear of associating with victim and becoming bullied

Steps to take Take your stand. Take your stand. Confront the bully and ask them to stop. Confront the bully and ask them to stop. Look at the bully and speak up Look at the bully and speak up Say Stop it, Don’t say that about me. Say Stop it, Don’t say that about me. Don’t do that again. Don’t do that again. I already told you to stop yesterday. I already told you to stop yesterday. Document the complaints Document the complaints

When Saying stop is not enough First Step: First Step: Notify the teacher in charge of classroom and explain situation Notify the teacher in charge of classroom and explain situation

When Saying stop is not enough Teacher will speak to the student and ask student to stop. Teacher will speak to the student and ask student to stop. Most of the time Most of the time It stops when teacher Talks to student.

When Saying stop is not enough Teacher will make referral to counselor and document on eduphoria. Teacher will make referral to counselor and document on eduphoria. Counselor will provide student with “Stop Bullying form” and make parent contact. Counselor will provide student with “Stop Bullying form” and make parent contact. Counselor will notify administration if bullying continues. Counselor will notify administration if bullying continues.

VERY IMPORTANT Bullying is not allowed at Guillen! Bullying is not allowed at Guillen! Guillen has a zero tolerance Guillen has a zero tolerance There are consequences for bullying There are consequences for bullying

Consequences of Bullying Detention Detention Suspension Suspension Alternative Placement Alternative Placement Expulsion from school Expulsion from school Arrest can result in serious incidents of bullying. Arrest can result in serious incidents of bullying. Do not want to end up there! Do not want to end up there!

DO NOT Call the bully names Call the bully names verbally argue with the bully verbally argue with the bully Accept challenges to fight Accept challenges to fight Do not physically fight with the bully Do not physically fight with the bully Do not feel intimidated and take your stand Do not feel intimidated and take your stand

2 Types of Victims

1. Passive Victims Are easily bullied Are easily bullied Have poor social skills Have poor social skills cry easily cry easily Feel lonely or depressed Feel lonely or depressed Are anxious and insecure Are anxious and insecure Have poor self -esteem Have poor self -esteem

2. Reactive Victims Are easily provoked into conflict with others Are easily provoked into conflict with others Are restless Are restless Tense and irritate others Tense and irritate others Fight back in bullying situations, but lose Fight back in bullying situations, but lose

The Victim: Symptoms More anxious and insecure More anxious and insecure Stress Stress Reduced ability to concentrate Reduced ability to concentrate Poor or deteriorating schoolwork Poor or deteriorating schoolwork Aggressive behavior Aggressive behavior Sleeping problems, panic attacks Sleeping problems, panic attacks Avoidance, social withdrawal Avoidance, social withdrawal Depression, may attempt suicide Depression, may attempt suicide Feel there is something wrong with them Feel there is something wrong with them

So what are we going to do?

Change the way we think.. Make it cool to care Make it cool to care Put the power with the caring majority Put the power with the caring majority Make bullying unacceptable Make bullying unacceptable Do not support bullying in any form Do not support bullying in any form Do not be a bystander/contact a teacher Do not be a bystander/contact a teacher Report it! Report it! By reporting it, counselors can help both the victim and the bully. By reporting it, counselors can help both the victim and the bully.

You can make a difference! Don’t participate in any form of bullying.

End of Presentation Guillen does not tolerate any form of Bullying. Bullying is serious and it will be addressed. Grizzlies are Respectful, Responsible, Ready, and Proud Grizzlies help each other! This is the Guillen Way! Let’s have a great year!