Safe and Healthy Friendships Peers – people of similar age who share similar interests. TYPES OF RELATIONSHIPS: Friendship- a significant relationship between two people.

Friendships Platonic Friendship- a friendship with a member of the opposite gender in which there is affection but the two people are not considered a couple.

Friendships Casual Friendship- between peers who share something in common.

Friendships Close Friendship- casual friends who have strong emotional ties, share thoughts, feelings, and experiences

Does Colonia HS Have “Cliques”? Clique- a small circle of friends, usually with similar backgrounds or tastes, who exclude people viewed as outsiders.

Problems with Cliques Prejudice- making assumptions or judgments about an individual without really knowing him or her. How do you judge a new person you just met? Stereotype- an exaggerated and over simplified belief about an entire group of people, such as an ethnic or religious group or a gender.

Choosing Friends Be Loyal Encourage Each Other Respect Each Other

Peer Pressure Peer Pressure- the influence that people your age may have on you. Examples- ? Positive- “role model”

Peer Pressure Negative- Harassment- persistently annoying others (Name calling, teasing, bullying)

Negative Peer Pressure Manipulation- an indirect, dishonest way to control or influence others. Mocking or teasing Using guilt trips Bargaining- making a deal to get your own way Using flattery Bribing- money or favors Making threats Using blackmail

Refusal skills Be assertive- stand up for your rights State your position- say “no” Suggest alternative- Stand your ground Don’t be “passive”- a tendency to give up, give in, or back down without standing up for their own rights and needs. Some people feel they have to be “aggressive”-overly forceful, pushy, hostile, or otherwise attacking in their approach.

Dating Teens begin to have feelings of attraction to people they only thought of as classmates or friends. *develop social skills *learn more about yourself *discover new interests *reaffirm your values *begin thinking about your future

Dating Infatuation- exaggerated feelings of passion for another person. (do not confuse with affection) Affection – a feeling of fondness for someone.

Deciding to date May not be ready May have other interests May have other time commitments May have family traditions or values “Everyone is UNIQUE”

WHO ? Male or Female Who asks the other person out? Who decides where to go? Who drives or arranges for transportation? Who pays? Who decides when the date is over? Curfew- a set time at which you must be home at night.

Successful relationships 1. Establish your priorities- Think about your goals and set priorities that will help you reach them. Consider YOUR values and those of your family such as respect, honesty, integrity and morality. Priorities- those goals, tasks and activities that you judge to be more important than others.

ASSIGNMENT Describe the “perfect date”. Include all components of dating that were discussed in the previous notes. (This is a minor assessment grade)