1. Rochelle Rich AyawtaTaylor Kristi Caruso
Building Healthy Relationships Chapter 11 (Grade level: 9-12) (Age 14-18)
Rochelle Rich
AyawtaTaylor
Kristi Caruso

2. Healthy Relationships
Cooperation
Working together for the good of all
Compromise
Each person gives up something to satisfy everyone
Give and take
Strengthens relationships

3. Healthy Relationships
Traits of healthy relationship
Respect
Acceptance
Honesty
Trustworthiness
Dependability
Loyalty
empathy

4. Family Relationships Communication with parents Setting boundaries
Building trust
Opening communication lines
Acknowledging their accomplishments

5. Family Problems Dealing with a broken home
Filling in gaps of a missing parent
Surviving a breakup
Custody

6. Family Problems Cont.. Wanting more freedom Finding out who you are
Running away

7. Family Problems Cont
Media taking parental role

8. Family Problems Cont..
Domestic violence
Spousal abuse
Child abuse

9. Family Problems Cont Relationships with siblings
Respecting each other’s space
Learning how to resolve conflicts
Show consideration for each other’s feelings
Being supportive

10. Strengthening Family Relationships
The family as a system
Each person has a role
Functions of a family
Primary support system
Meeting emotional needs
Instilling values and religious beliefs
Passing on traditions and customs

11. Building Healthy Family Relationships
Affirmation
Trust
Commitment
Time together
Communication
Respect
Solving problems
Love

12. Developing Responsible Relationships
Friendships
A significant relationship between two people based on caring, respect, consideration and trust.
Friends share the same interest, hobbies, or aspirations as you
Vary in importance
May be hard work, but well worth effort
Not all friendships are on the same level, however, each relationship must have same foundation

13. Building a Foundation Communication and Sharing Listening Skills
Being an active listener
Really paying attention to what someone is saying and feeling.
Not making any judgments or interrupting while other person speaks.
Reflective listening, clarifying, encouraging, and empathizing
Necessary and important basics include communication, sharing, respect, and trust. On every level of friendship these qualities must exist.

14. Building a Foundation Communication and Sharing Speaking skills
Clearly stating what you mean
Voice pitch
Using “I” messages
Tells how you feel using the pronoun “II
Using proper speaking skills can prevent miscommunication and that the message you wanted to send gets across the way you meant. Pay attention how you say something, it is just as important as what you say. I message use avoid problems by making you assume responsibility for what you say. It also helps you to avoid antagonizing the other person.

15. Building a Foundation Respect and Trust How to handle disagreements
Give the person a turn to speak
Each deserve a chance to speak, be open
Use “I” messages
Express how you really feel
Stick to the subject
Don’ t lose track of the issue
Keep the tone friendly
Remember this is your friend that you value
Respect and Trust are very important in a relationship, it shows the other person that you really care about them. Respecting each other’s differences can lead to learning a lot about who you are.

16. Dealing with Peer Pressure
The control and influence people your age may have on you.
Positive peer pressure
Role model
Can show others what not to do
Negative peer pressure
Manipulation- sneaky or dishonest way to control others

17. Dealing with Peer Pressure
Manipulation types
Mocking or teasing
Making threats, or using blackmail
Using guilt trips to get desired results
Resisting negative peer pressure
Passive way
Aggressive way
Assertive way
These manipulation types are commonly used by someone to get what they want without the respect and care for the well being of others. A teen may feel overwhelmed when others pressure them to do things against their values. Some ways to combat are passively. This way you give up and give in. It may come off like you’re a push over, and then you wont be respected. Aggressive way, involves being overly forceful. This way could lead to violence and harm for the aggressor or victim. Assertive way is the best way to get your point across. State your position w/o offending anyone and everyone knows that u are serious about your decision.

18. Romantic Relationships
Our first commitment: Self
Healing the inner child
Content with self
Know yourself
Attracting the right partner

19. Romantic Relationships
Healthy Relationships
Gaining respect
Setting boundaries
Resolving conflict
Taking responsibility
Confronting partner when they upset you
Respect individuality
Importance of compromise

20. Romantic Relationships
Healthy Relationships
Receiving and giving love
Growing together
Honesty and trustworthiness
Be reasonable and realistic
Sex is voluntary and not coercive
Constant communication

21. Romantic Relationships
Unhealthy relationships: Codependency
Focusing completely on other person
Defining self by relationship you have with others
Using partner for emotional needs
Fearing loneliness and abandonment
Needing and loving not same

22. Romantic Relationships
Emotional Abuse
Being manipulation and controlling behavior
Feeling ashamed of yourself
Placing unreasonable standards on other
Forcing compromise

23. Romantic Relationships
Emotional abuse
Using deceptive ways to control partner
People disguise true intentions
Using guilt trips

24. Communication Tips Express your feelings without attacking Listen
Focus on solving issue not being right
Agree to disagree and move on
Be aware of body language and voice tone
Express true feelings
Take responsibility for mistakes
Apologize

25. Communication Tips Don’t invalidate the other person’s feelings
Listen to what is being said

26. Any Questions?