Parenting Stages and Styles Ch. 14 Continued

Child Centeredness “Being constantly present and yet not being present.” What does this look like? Providing safety Unobtrusive Patient

Stages of Parenting Image-making stage: happens during pregnancy. Parents are preparing for the changes that are going to occur in their lives. They think about what they want for themselves and their child.

Stages of Parenting Nurturing Stage (B-18 months): Parents realign their “imagined child” with their actual child. Parents becomes attached to their child and become caregivers. They work to balance the responsibilities in their lives with their child.

Stages of Parenting Authority (18 months to 5 years): Parents learn importance of structure and boundaries for their child’s success. They establish patterns of interacting.

Stages of Parenting Interpretive Stage (5-12 years): These are the teaching years where parents help children interpret the social world around them and help them establish a way of life.

Stages of Parenting Interdependent (Adolescence): formation of new relationships between parent and child. While parents are still the authority, their power is shared. Parents must balance monitoring, responsibility, and personal freedom in the relationship with their child.

Stages of Parenting Departure Stage: Parents evaluate themselves as their children leave the house. Parents must also again reestablish a relationship with the adult child that fosters both independence and close personal ties.

Parenting Parental Monitoring: understanding what children are doing and where they are during the parents’ absence. How can parents monitor their child? Ex: What age is it appropriate for a child to stay home by themselves?

Parenting Styles

4 parenting styles emerge. (high)  Regulation/Control  (low) Authoritative Permissive Authoritarian Neglectful (low) Connection /  (high) Warmth

Parenting Style X Authoritative: involves high acceptance and involvement, adaptive control techniques, and appropriate autonomy granting Results: children tend to be competent, self- assured, and popular with peers. More likely to do better in school, be self-reliant, and less problem behavior

Parenting Style X Authoritarian: parent is low in acceptance and involvement, high in coercive control, and low in autonomy granting Results: low in social ability and academic competence, unhappy and unfriendly, low confidence

Parenting Style X Permissive: parents are warm and accepting but uninvolved; overindulgent or inattentive; child is free to make their own decisions. Results: impulsive, lacking in self-control, low in school achievement.

Parenting Style X Rejecting-neglecting or Uninvolved: parents combine low acceptance and involvement with little control and general indifference to issues of autonomy. Results: problems socially, antisocial behavior, may suffer from depression, substance abuse, promiscuous

AUTONOMY…the 3rd Dimension. (high)  Autonomy (low) (high) Regulation/Control  (low) (low)  Connection/  (high) Warmth

Resiliency caring relationships + high expectations + “The ability to thrive despite the challenges of childhood” (family, school, peers, etc.) Authoritative parenting=>Resiliency: caring relationships + high expectations + opportunities for involvement