Liberating Ourselves and Counseling Others

Chapter 12: Liberating Ourselves and Counseling Others This chapter deals with the work we need to do to liberate ourselves of our present behaviors and other learned things that are harmful for us. The NVC(N0n-Violent Communication) techniques can help us resolve internal and external issues In this chapter, it is told to us that we need to counsel ourselves and others. Important topics from the chapter are discussed in the coming slides

Freeing Ourselves From Old Programming We learn things that limit our thinking Cultures and history teach us things that are not always good We need to get out of negative learnings that come to us from generations

Resolving Internal Conflicts There are internal issues inside us We have negative emotions Negative thought We have high desired that are not always fulfilled We need to find these internal conflicts and resolve them

Caring For Our Inner Environment Our inner environment is important It has influence on our external behavior We need to know how to make our inner environment better Focus on positive things is important Negative things make our inner environment worse

Replacing Diagnosis With NVC When NVC is used, the therapist asks the following questions from himself: What is this person feeling? What is she or he needing? How am I feeling in response to this person, and what needs of mine are behind my feelings? What action or decision would I request this person to take in the belief that it would enable them to live more happily?”

Chapter 13: Expressing Appreciation In Nonviolent Communication This chapter focuses on appreciating others nonviolently Different techniques are used to appreciate Important topics from the chapter are discussed in the coming slides

The Intention Behind The Appreciation What is the intention behind appreciating others? What doe it mean when we appreciate by saying: “You did a good job on that report.” “You are a very sensitive person.” “It was kind of you to offer me a ride home last evening.” In businesses we need to appreciate others for their good job

The Three Components Of Appreciation NVC clearly distinguishes three components in the expression of appreciation: 1. the actions that have contributed to our well-being; (what appreciation action made us feel good) 2. the particular needs of ours that have been fulfilled; (what need did appreciation fulfil, is it emotional need or physical) 3. the pleasureful feelings engendered by the fulfillment of those needs.

Receiving Appreciation How do we feel when we receive Appreciation? Does it make us happy? Does it make us worried? We should receive appreciation with good heart

The Hunger For Appreciation We want to be appreciated It is not a bad feeling But it should not be demanded when we do not deserve to be appreciated Work good and you will be appreciated

Overcoming The Reluctance To Express Appreciation As we need to be appreciated, others also need to be appreciated We should provide due appreciation to others We should not stop from appreciating others Appreciation creates a good working environment

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