Friendship, Love, Family

The role of Interdependence Three criteria are critical to interdependence in our relationships. We have to interact frequently. We need to engage in a variety of activities together. We need to influence each other's behavior.

The role of interpersonal trust Interpersonal trust is the degree to which we feel safe in disclosing personal information to another person

Interpersonal trust vs. other types of trust Trust in someone’s ability (e.g., a car mechanic, an accountant) Trust in someone’s regard for your welfare (e.g., a physician)

The role of trust High level of trust permits people to self- disclose. Self-disclosure, in turn, brings intimacy. Self-disclosure brings better understanding and empathy. Affection. Emotional support. Sexual contact does not have to be the result of all of the above, but is a natural next step. (sexual relationship alone does not indicate intimacy).

Friendships Friends are people who (generally): are liked, (whose) company is enjoyed, share interests and activities, are helpful and understanding, can be trusted, with whom one feels comfortable, and will be emotionally supportive.

Characteristics of Friendships voluntary informal personalistic focus hierarchy and authority are not relevant (equality) concerned mainly with sociability

Psychological Processes Underlying Friendship We tend to form friendships with people who support our self ‑ concepts and whose behavior is predictable. Social exchange theory: we remain friends with people because our exchange of resources with them is equitable. An alternative explanation: the idea that friendships are communal relationships.

Communication in Close Friendships High levels of Affection Depth of communication Receptivity Composure Equality

Communication in Close Friendships Low levels of: Formality Task ‑ orientation Domination

Romantic Relationships The Triangular Theory of Love Intimacy involves feelings of closeness and support Passion refers to our physiological arousal and desire to be united with our romantic partner. Commitment includes a short ‑ term decision to love our romantic partner and a long ‑ term decision to maintain the relationship.

Taxonomy of kinds of love Nonlove (the three components are low or absent) Liking (intimacy is high; commitment and passion are low or absent) Infatuation (passion is high; commitment and intimacy are low or absent) Empty (commitment is high; passion and intimacy are low or absent).

Taxonomy of kinds of love Romantic (high levels of intimacy and passion; commitment is low or absent) Companionate (high levels of commitment and intimacy; passion is low or absent) Consummate (high levels of passion, intimacy, and commitment; the ideal love).

Another taxonomy Eros: Beauty and Sexuality Ludus: Entertainment and excitement (love as a game) Storge: Peaceful and slow (familial love, lacks passion and intensity) Pragma: Practical and traditional Mania: Elation and depression Agape: Compassionate and selfless