Presentation on theme: "Love, Intimacy, and Sexual Communication"— Presentation transcript:
1 Love, Intimacy, and Sexual Communication Chapter FourLove, Intimacy, and Sexual Communication
2 Historical Perspectives Arrange MarriagesDowriesBundlingMarriage for Love and Intimacy
3 Establishing Early Intimacy Field of EligiblesPhysical AttractivenessThe “Beautiful is Better” BiasThe Effect of MediaThe Matching HypothesisProximityProximity EffectMere Exposure EffectSimilarityFlirtingReciprocity of AttractionEncourage students to complete the Self-Discovery Your Field of Eligibles activity on page 99.
4 John Lee’s Styles of Love The Six StylesEros LoveLudus LoveStorge LoveMania LovePragma LoveAgape LoveCombining Love StylesEncourage students to complete the Self-Discovery Styles of Love Scale activity on page 107.Encourage students to view Table 4.1: Compatibility of Love Styles in Relationships..
5 John Lee’s Styles of Love (cont.) Encourage students to view Table 4.1: Compatibility of Love Styles in Relationships..
6 Robert Sternberg’s Triangular Theory of Love The Three ComponentsIntimacyPassionCommitment
7 Robert Sternberg’s Triangular Theory of Love Possible Combinations of the Three ComponentsLiking (I)Infatuation (P)Empty Love (C)Romantic Love (I & P)Fatuous Love (P &C)Companionate Love (I &C)Consummate Love (I, P & C)Applying the Triangular TheoryEncourage students to complete the Self-Discovery The Triangle of Your Love activity on page 113.
8 Communication In Love Relationships Self-Disclosure: How Much Should You Reveal About Yourself?Behavioral Attributions: Why Did You Do That?Relationship-enhancing AttributionsDistress-maintaining AttributionsPatterns of Effective CommunicationValidating CommunicationVolatile CommunicationConflict-avoiding Communication
9 Communication In Love Relationships (cont.) Communication Warning SignsCriticismContemptDefensivenessStonewallingImproving CommunicationUnderstanding Intimate Communication: Six “Simple Truths”Enhancing Intimate Communication: Five “Rules”Encourage students to complete the Self-Discovery Guidelines for Sexual Communication activity on page 127.
10 Sexual Communication Sexual Self-disclosure Barriers Lack of InformationEmbarrassmentInsecurity About Using the Right WordsSexual TaboosFear of JudgmentFear of RejectionStrategies for Improving Sexual Communication
11 Losing Love: Ten Reasons Why Relationships Fail Lack of Self-knowledgeAcceptance of Sexual Myths and StereotypesIneffective CommunicationImbalances of Decision-making PowerLow Self-esteem, Insecurity and Lack of Self-confidenceIsolationFailing to Keep Promises, Lying, or CheatingExcessive Jealousy (Normal vs. Delusional)Control IssuesViolence
12 Abusive and Violent Relationships Types of Relationship AbusePhysicalVerbalEmotionalIn Touch with Your Sexual Health: Signs of Relationship AbuseSigns That You May Have an Abusive PartnerSigns That You May Be an Abusive PartnerEncourage students to complete the In Touch with Your Sexual Health: Signs of Relationship Abuse activity on page 134.Direct students to Table 4.2: Warning Signs of a Potential Abuser.
13 Abusive and Violent Relationships (cont.) Direct students to Table 4.2: Warning Signs of a Potential Abuser.
14 The Cycle of Violence and Abuse The Honeymoon Phase and/or the Beginning of the RelationshipThe Tension-building PhaseExplosionReturn to the Honeymoon Phase
15 Getting Out and Moving On Leaving a Violent RelationshipThe Temptation to Go BackSelf-Discovery Your Criteria for a Healthy, Nonabusive RelationshipWhat Qualities Do You Require?What Characteristics Are Unacceptable?Loving AgainEncourage students to complete the Self-Discovery Your Criteria for a Healthy, Nonabusive Relationship activity on page 137.