1. Chapter 3 Love in Relationships Descriptions of Love Love in Societal Context The Feminization of Love Theories on the Origin of Love How Love Develops in a New Relationship Love as a Context for Problems Jealousy in Relationships

2. Sternberg's Triangular View of Love Love consists of: Intimacy Passion Commitment

3. Ancient Views of Love: Buddhism Two types of love: 1. Unfortunate love is love of the self. 2. Love of detachment accepts people as they are without requiring them to be like you.

4. Ancient Views of Love: Greek Phileo - Love of friends, family and lovers. Agape - Spiritual love based on concern for the welfare of others. Eros - Sexual love

5. Ancient Views of Love: Medieval Europe In the 1100s, marriage was seen as political alliance between families. After French Revolution, marriage became more of a mutual emotional union.

6. Healthy Love Relationships Associated with: High self-esteem - Feeling good about self lets you believe others can love you. Self-disclosure - People who do not disclose limit their investment in a relationship.

7. Cognitive Conditions for Love Cognitive functioning is necessary for love. Persons who have had front part of brain between the eyebrows removed (e.g., due to cancer) are not capable of love.

8. Problems in Love Simultaneous Love - In love with more than one person at the same time. Abusive Relationships - Some stay in these relationships because they are “in love.” Risky Choices - Less likely to use condoms resulting in STDs and pregnancy.

9. Consequences of Jealousy Positive Communicates that extra-partner romantic involvements are unacceptable. Solidifies commitment. Negative Depression Physical/emotional abuse