401 st Civil Affairs Battalion B/489th Civil Affairs Five Love Languages of Teenagers By SSG Amy L. Reesman Reference: “The Five Love Languages of Teenagers” and “The 5 Love Languages” by Gary D Chapman

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Terminal Learning Objectives Action : Define the five love languages of teenagers st Century Teenagers 2. Words of Affirmation #1 3. Physical Touch #2 4. Quality Time #3 5. Acts of Service #4 6. Gifts #5 7. Discovery of Teenager’s Love Language B/489th Civil Affairs

Terminal Learning Objectives (Cont.) Condition : Given power point slides, student handouts, and personal notes Standard : Students will understand today’s teenagers, as well as define and able to use the love languages effectively B/489th Civil Affairs

Administrative Data Risk Assessment: In a classroom setting the risk assessment is “LOW” Safety Considerations: Be aware of… Environmental Considerations: Recycle/ Turn Lights Off Evaluation: 50 minute Presentation with Check on Learning and a Practical Exercise

The 21 st Century Teenagers Independence and Identity Physical Characteristics Psychological Changes Intellectual Growth Spurts Age of Reason Technology LOVING IS A CHOICE NOT A FEELING B/489th Civil Affairs

Love Language #1 Words of Affirmation = Positive Reinforcement Negative words dig deep in a teenager’s mind Start telling your teenager what they do right instead of what they do wrong Be specific Praise efforts if you cannot praise results Reassure them you love them no matter what DIALECTS: Complimentary Words Encouraging Words Kind Words Request Words Words of Praise Words of Thanks B/489th Civil Affairs

Love Language #2 Physical Touch NOTE: This is more of a right time, right place action Positively physically touch your teenager. It can cause pain or pleasure Touch is a universal communicator To touch my body is to touch me Same touches can be perceived differently on different Occasions DIALECTS: Touch as Communication Touch in a Crisis To withdraw from my body is distancing you from me emotionally. B/489th Civil Affairs

Check on Learning 1.Name the main item teenagers have that we did not as children? 2. What does Words of Affirmation mean to you? 3. Why do parents have to be cautious of expressing physical touch? B/489th Civil Affairs

Love Language #3 Quality Time Spend time with your child NOTE: This is not watching TV, texting or having other distractions. Being in the same room does not count!!! Meaningful Conversations Focused and have undivided attention DIALECTS: Quality Conversation Quality Activities B/489th Civil Affairs

Love Language #4 Acts of Service Doing things FOR your teenager With Thought, Effort, and Positive Spirit NOTE: Please do not manipulate or be manipulated DIALECTS: Requests not Demands Special Projects vs. Routine Tasks Important to Teenager as a Person Unexpected/Surprise Acts

B/489th Civil Affairs Love Language #5 Gifts Giving things to your teenager Gifts are visible and tangible evidence of emotional love. Look at gifts as an Investment in your relationship. The Value of the gift is in the eye of the beholder

B/489th Civil Affairs Discovering your Teenager’s Love Language Ask questions Make Observations Experiment Speak all 5 Love Languages

B/489th Civil Affairs Final Check on Learning 1.T/F Quality time is spending time with your teenager while you watch TV? 2.Giving gifts can be an expression of love. When is it NOT an expression of love? 3.Acts of Service means what to you? 4.What are the 5 Love Languages? 5.What can you as a parent do to find your child’s love languages?

B/489th Civil Affairs PRACTICAL EXERCISE Please take a few minutes to write down questions you would ask to discover someone else’s love language Divide into groups

401 st Civil Affairs Battalion B/489th Civil Affairs Explored the 21 st Century Teenagers Detail of each of the 5 Love Languages Showed how parents can discover their teenager’s love language Summary

Terminal Learning Objectives Action: Define the five love languages of teenagers st Century Teenagers 2. Words of Affirmation #1 3. Physical Touch #2 4. Quality Time #3 5. Acts of Service #4 6. Gifts #5 7. Discovery of Teenager’s Love Language B/489th Civil Affairs

Terminal Learning Objectives (Cont.) Condition: Given power point slides, student handouts, and personal notes Standard: Students will understand today’s teenagers, as well as define and able to use the love languages effectively B/489th Civil Affairs

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