Working With Children Parenting Roles

How Far Back Can You Remember??????

Have Your Memories Affected Who You Are Today???? Childhood Scenarios

Childhood What makes some of us able to overcome great obstacles from the past while others allow themselves to be victims???

Childhood Where do YOU fit? Are you a survivor or a victim???? What can you do as a parent to help your child be a survivor??? ▫(Trials come to everyone)

“Do as I do” clip

What is the value of traditions????? Traditions create a sense of stability and consistency in a child’s life. Stability and consistency are definitely lacking in the lives of the children in today’s society.

What is your favorite tradition?

Working with Children Watch the video clip “Babies and Fathers” Listen to the following story about “Confused Cathy”. Make a list in your packet, as I read, about the areas Cathy could improve, or maybe what she did wrong as a child care provider.

Positive Guidance andDiscipline

Reasons for Misbehavior 1. Stage of Growth: the child is behaving in a normal manner for the stage of growth he/she is in: power, attention, revenge, assumed inadequacy are normal 2. Unfulfilled Needs: The child’s needs are not being met and she/he is acting out in order to try to get his/her needs met.

Reasons for Misbehavior 3. Environment: The child is uncomfortable in or does not understand his/her environment. 4. Doesn’t know Better: The child has not been taught the concept he/she is dealing with.

Positive Guidance 1. Discipline: guidance which helps the child learn self-control 3. Self-discipline: ability to direct one’s own behavior 5. Rebellion: Children may rebel when parents punish rather than discipline 2. Attention is a powerful reinforcer to guide children: they often misbehave for attention 4. Example: is a very effective way to teach children desired behavior 6. Consistency is the key to guidance 7. Respond to aggressive behavior in non-aggressive ways

Types of Guidance Techniques

Natural and Logical Consequences Natural Consequences: occur without interference, child can see the result of their choices Cannot be used if the consequence will cause harm to self, others or property, or too far in the future. Logical Consequences: should be relevant to the misbehavior Short in duration, not imposed in anger, provide opportunities for children to learn from their behavior To make the punishment fit the crime. Example: if Sally spills the paint, she must clean up the mess that is made

Positive Statements When guiding children, phrase all requests in a positive manner Example: say, “Let’s walk to the blocks,” rather than, “Don’t run to the blocks” Clearly states what is expected, then help them get started Talk to children at their eye level when giving directions

Redirection Get him to focus on something else. Example: if he is angry at the blocks area, lead him to a different area of the room and introduce a different activity Children up to two years old can be easily distracted

Reverse Attention When a child’s behavior is inappropriate, focus on a child who is displaying the appropriate behavior and make a positive comment If the first child changes his behavior, he should be immediately reinforced with a positive statement. Ignoring the negative, reinforcing the positive

Limited Choices Do not give him an unlimited choice unless he can really have what is chosen. Only give choices that are available. Example: “Do you want juice or water for a drink?” rather than, ‘What would you like to drink?”

Time Out When a child has disobeyed a rule, she will be sent to a predetermined place to distance herself from the problem and gain composure. Should be a last option, limited use. Use a place where there are no distractions or positive reinforcers.

Developmentally Appropriate Activities Activities based on developmental progress of each individual child. They must be: 1. Age appropriate 2. Individually appropriate