1. Describe a time when you misbehaved: n How did parents guardians handle it? n What was your response/Their response? n What type of punishment, if any, did you receive? n Was it effective?

2. Positive Guidance andDiscipline Objective 6.01

3. Positive Child Guidance n Actions that direct, supervise, and influence behavior n Effective communication is essential between child and adult n Set positive examples for the child to follow

4. Reasons for Misbehavior Stage of Growth: power, attention, revenge, assumed inadequacy are normal Unfulfilled Needs: The child’s needs are not being met and she/he is acting out in order to try to get his/her needs met.

5. Reasons for Misbehavior Environment: The child is uncomfortable in or does not understand his/her environment. Doesn’t know Better: The child has not been taught the concept he/she is dealing with.

6. Positive Guidance Discipline: guidance which helps the child learn self-control Self-discipline: ability to direct one’s own behavior Children may rebel when parents punish rather than discipline Attention is a powerful reinforcer to guide children: they often misbehave for attention Example: is a very effective way to teach children desired behavior Consistency is the key to guidance Respond to aggressive behavior in non-aggressive ways

7. Discipline n Guidance n Guidance that helps a child gain control of his/her own actions n When n When parents do not encourage appropriate behavior, the child may seek attention using problem behaviors n Set n Set clear limits n Make n Make expectations known n DO n DO NOT NOT bribe child to behave

8. Temper Tantrums n Child is seeking attention n Ignore the child-remove yourself from the situation

9. Helping the Child n Respond to aggressive behavior in non- aggressive ways n When helping a child solve a problem: LISTEN n Use positive guidance/language –Example: n “Please walk” instead of “Do not run” n “Quiet voices” instead of “ Quit screaming” n “It’s time to go” instead of “Quit dawdling”

10. Inappropriate Discipline Joshua told Mr. Jones, his father, he would not clean up his toys. Mr. Jones grabs his belt and hits Joshua numerous times leaving red lash marks.

11. Abuse and Neglect n Emotional/Verbal/Mental n Physical (non-accidental) –Easily recognized by outsiders n Sexual n Neglect n Depriving a child of proper diet, medical care, shelter, and/or clothing for long periods of time.

12. Start tomorrow

13. Emotional Abuse n Setting unreasonable expectations and demands on a child n Belittling remarks; verbal attacks Sexual Abuse n Sexual molestation- using a child to gain sexual pleasure

14. Pattern of Abuse n “Cycle of Child Abuse” –Child raised in an abusive home tend to abuse own children

15. Types of Guidance Techniques

16. 1. Natural and Logical Consequences Consequences Natural Consequences: occur without interference, child can see the result of their choices Cannot be used if the consequence will cause harm to self, others or property, or too far in the future. Logical Consequences: should be relevant to the misbehavior Short in duration, not imposed in anger, provide opportunities for children to learn from their behavior To make the punishment fit the crime. Example: if Sally spills the paint, she must clean up the mess that is made

17. 2. Positive Statements When guiding children, phrase all requests in a positive manner Example: say, “Let’s walk to the blocks,” rather than, “Don’t run to the blocks” Clearly states what is expected, then help them get started Talk to children at their eye level when giving directions

18. 3. Redirection Get him to focus on something else. Example: if he is angry at the blocks area, lead him to a different area of the room and introduce a different activity Children up to two years old can be easily distracted

19. 4. Reverse Attention When a child’s behavior is inappropriate, focus on a child who is displaying the appropriate behavior and make a positive comment If the first child changes his behavior, he should be immediately reinforced with a positive statement. Ignoring the negative, reinforcing the positive

20. 5. Limited Choices Do not give him an unlimited choice unless he can really have what is chosen. Only give choices that are available. Example: “Do you want juice or water for a drink?” rather than, ‘What would you like to drink?”

21. 6. Time Out When a child has disobeyed a rule, she will be sent to a predetermined place to distance herself from the problem and gain composure. Should be a last option, limited use. Use a place where there are no distractions or positives