1. Positive Guidance
&
Discipline
Punishment

2. Positive Guidance
Positive guidance is based on the belief that any means of child guidance should focus on building up a child’s self control rather than focusing on a behavioral outcome. It is an understanding that it is not our job as parents/caregivers to eliminate conflict, disappointment, and frustration from the lives of our children, but it is rather to teach our children how to appropriately deal with those situations and emotions. We must also realize that a child’s behavior is not really a reflection on us and our abilities, but a reflection of the child’s choices. Is it our position to help children make better choices by helping them build self-control and social behaviors. Positive guidance focuses more on building the child’s control over self than the adult’s control over the child.
Summarize Positive guidance in 2 to 3 sentences

3. Discipline
Discipline teaches children self-control. Children learn the benefit of doing what is right. Discipline helps children develop a value system. For example, because of discipline a child speaks and acts honestly. The child knows how to be honest. The child knows why being honest is a correct and wise thing to do.
Describe discipline in your own words based on slide

4. Punishment
Punishment controls behavior by using pain or unpleasantness to stop the child who is doing something wrong. Punishment stops bad behavior for the moment. Punishment does not teach the behavior you want. Punishment does not cause good behavior. Punishment stops the unwanted behavior for a short time. Punishment teachers children to avoid being caught. Their behavior is directed toward avoiding punishment.
What is the positive of punishment

5. Posters No Bad Children Only Bad Behavior Hate the Behavior
Love the Child
Students will make 2 separate posters. Students will work in small groups to discuss what these mean to them.

6. Why do children misbehave?
Positive Guidance
& Discipline
Why do children misbehave?
Students brainstorm top 4 reasons why children misbehave.

7. Reasons for Misbehavior
Stage of Growth: the child is behaving in a normal manner for the stage of growth he/she is in: power, attention, revenge, assumed inadequacy are normal
Unfulfilled Needs: The child’s needs are not being met and she/he is acting out in order to try to get his/her needs met.

8. Reasons for Misbehavior
Uncomfortable Environment: The child is uncomfortable in or does not understand his/her environment.
Doesn’t know Better:
The child has not been taught the concept he/she is dealing with.
Students break into groups and act out one reason.

9. Think-Pair-Share
Babysitting/Sibling “Horror Stories”

10. Positive Guidance Thoughts
Discipline: guidance which helps the child learn self-control
Consistency is the key to guidance
Self-discipline: ability to direct one’s own behavior
Attention is a powerful reinforcer to guide children: they often misbehave for attention
Respond to aggressive behavior in
non-aggressive ways
Example: is a very effective way to teach children desired behavior
Children may rebel when parents
punish rather than discipline

11. 1. POSITIVE ROLE MODEL Types of Guidance Techniques:
Children learn from what they see – children are great imitators.
*ACTION SPEAKS LOUDER THEN WORDS*
Demonstrate the behavior you would like to see in children
Model respect, honesty, kindness
What type of role model are you? How are you a role model at home and in school?
What should people do when children misbehave?
So …what should people do when children misbehave?

12. 2. Natural and Logical Consequences
Types of Guidance Techniques:
2. Natural and Logical Consequences
Natural Consequences: occur without interference,
child can see the result of their choices
Cannot be used if the consequence will cause harm to self, others or property, or too far in the future.
What should people do when children misbehave?
So …what should people do when children misbehave?

13. 2. Natural and Logical Consequences
Types of Guidance Techniques:
2. Natural and Logical Consequences
Logical Consequences:
should be relevant to the misbehavior
To make the punishment fit the crime.
Short in duration, not imposed in anger, provide opportunities for children to learn from their behavior

14. Applying Natural vs. Logical Natural Consequences
Sandy rides her bike into the street after she was told not to.
What would be a Natural Consequence?
What would be a Logical Consequence?
Which should Sandy’s mom choose?

15. Applying Natural vs. Logical Natural Consequences
Despite Dad’s urging him to put on his coat, Tommy goes outside into the cold without wearing a coat.
The Natural result for Tommy is?
Why is this a natural consequence?

16. 3. Positive Statements
Clearly states what is expected, then help them get started in terms the child understands
When guiding children, phrase all requests in a positive manner – with a verb
Talk to children at their eye level when giving directions: give limited number of directions at a time
Example: say, “Let’s walk to the blocks,” rather than, “Don’t run to the blocks”

17. 4. Redirection Children up to two years old can be easily distracted
Get him to focus on something else.
Example: if he is angry at the blocks area, lead him to a different area of the room and introduce a different activity

18. 5. Reverse Attention
When a child’s behavior is inappropriate, focus on a child who is displaying the appropriate behavior and make a positive comment
Ignoring the negative, reinforcing the positive
If the first child changes his behavior, he should be immediately reinforced with a positive statement.

19. 6. Limited Choices
Do not give him an unlimited choice unless he can really have what is chosen.
Only give choices that are available.
Example: “Do you want juice or water for a drink?” rather than, ‘What would you like to drink?”

20. Use a place where there are no distractions or positive reinforcer
7. Time Out
When a child has disobeyed a rule, she will be sent to a predetermined place to distance herself from the problem and gain composure.
Explain to child why they are going into time out: When time is finished, explain to child what your expectations are of them and how you want them to behave the next time
Should be a last option, limited use.

21. Discipline vs Punishment
Emphasizes what the child should do
Is an ongoing process
Sets an example to follow
Leads to self-control
Helps children change
Is positive
Accepts child’s need to assert self
Fosters child’s ability to think
Bolsters self-esteem
Shapes behavior
Emphasizes what the child should not do
Is a one-time occurrence
Insists on obedience
Undermines independence
Is an adult release
Is negative
Makes children behave
Thinks for the child
Defeats self-esteem
Condemns misbehavior

22. GROUP ACTIVITY
What might be a possible reason for the child’s behavior & explain how you could use a positive guidance technique:
2-year- old refuses to get in the bathtub
3-year-old refuses to leave the park
3-year-old is throwing food on the floor
5-year-old does not want to help set the table
6-year-old wants to splash through deep puddles with their new school shoes
4-year old continues to throw toys at another 4-year old.

23. Each member of group must answer these question in detail in their journals.
Why do you think the child is misbehaving?
What positive guidance technique(s) are you using?
Why are you using this (these) technique (s)?
What would be an example of a logical and natural consequence technique to use.

24. Need to know for Quiz on Positive Guidance
4 Reasons why children misbehave with examples.
4 out of the 6 positive guidance techniques and give examples.
Able to tell the difference between a natural and logical consequence
Vocabulary words – from Positive Guidance Thoughts and throughout notes /discussions

25. Behavior Poster
On one side – THERE ARE NO BAD CHILDREN ONLY BAD BEHVIOR On other side – HATE THE BEHAVIOR LOVE THE CHILD Create a poster that represents what these statement mean to you.

26. Index Card HOW ARE YOU GOING TO GET CHILDREN TO LISTEN TO YOU……..
When I grow up I am going to……
When I grow up I am not going to……
Have students write these answers on an exit card or brainstorm the answers w/o looking at notes and give an example of each as a recap.

27. Positive Guidance 4 Reasons Children Misbehave (SUUD)
Positive Guidance Techniques (NLPRRLT)
Have students write these answers on an exit card or brainstorm the answers w/o looking at notes and give an example of each as a recap.