1. The keys to well-behaved children.
Discipline & Guidance
The keys to well-behaved children.

2. Positive Discipline

3. Guidance CONTINUAL long-term influence on behavior
Guide through example, word, action
Advice
Can be positive or negative

4. Discipline Behavior medication when needed
Teach/train behavior by instruction and exercise

5. Punishment Penalty inflicted for wrongdoing, a crime or offense
Verbal, withhold privileges negatively, hit, spank, hurt
Temporary and doesn’t teach self-discipline
Demeans child

7. Why do they do it?
Reasons for Misbehavior

9. 1. Normal behavior for the child’s age
The action is age and developmentally appropriate
Caregiver: Have appropriate expectations for the child’s developmental age

10. 2. Natural curiosity
The child is curious to know what the result or response would be for the action
Caregiver: Provide opportunities to experiment and satisfy curiosity

11. 3. They do not know any better
Inadequate or misunderstood instructions
They are trying something new and don’t realize the consequences
Caregiver: Have appropriate expectations for the child’s developmental age. Make sure instructions are clearly said and understood

12. 4. To get attention
The child just wants the caregiver’s attention – they prefer positive attention, but negative is attention too
Caregiver: Give attention only to that which you want to be repeated and ignore questionable or undesirable behavior.

13. 5. To get power Children want some power and control in their lives
Caregiver: Refuse to engage in power struggles. Give children choices for what they want to do, wear, ear, etc. Listen to their ideas.

14. 6. For revenge
Children want to do what they want without anyone getting in the way
Caregiver: Discuss the mistaken goal, pay attention to appropriate choices, and provide love.

15. 7. Feeling inadequate or incapable
Constantly being corrected or being given negative reinforcement might make a kid quit trying because they are afraid to fail
Caregiver: provide encouragement for their successes and attempts. Refrain from jumping in or fixing every task

16. 8. The need to feel that they belong
Wanting to find a place in a family or peer group where they fit in. This place may be positive or negative, but the need is met.
Caregiver: Provide unconditional acceptance, concern, and interest in the child.

17. Spanking
What do you think?

18. Spanking….Right or Wrong???

19. Tough Love vs. Spanking
Most of America’s population thinks it is improper to spank children. I recently heard from a friend who has tried other methods to control their kids when they have one of “those moments”.
One that she found very effective was to just take the child for a car ride and talk.
They usually calmed down and stopped misbehaving after their little outing together.
Here is the photo of one of those sessions with my friend’s son in case you would like to try this technique.

21. Discipline Techniques Each child is different and different things will work for each child.

22. Positive Statements
Clearly State what the child is expected to do instead of telling them what not to do
Example: “Walk in the house” vs. “Don’t run in the house”
Get down on the child’s eye level to talk

24. Change these into Positive Statements: 1. Don’t stand on the table. 2
Change these into Positive Statements: 1. Don’t stand on the table!!! 2. You are being very bad! 3. Don’t chew with your mouth open, that’s disgusting! 4. I can see your underwear. Put your dress down now!

25. Redirect Attention
If a child is doing something you do not want them to do….give them something else to do.
Distract them with another option
Example: Have them jump on a trampoline instead of a bed
                                                            

26. Reverse Attention
Ignore negative behavior when possible and reinforce the positive
POSITIVE REINFORCEMENT
Example – if their room is always messy, but one day they happen to have a really clean corner, then make a big deal out of the clean corner!

27. Time Out
Remove child from situation causing heightened emotion until they have calmed down
Used sparingly, after other techniques have been applied
Use a place with NO distractions
One minute for each year of age
Make an effort to notice when
child makes better choice after a time out

28. Time Out Video Clip http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=VFZInf15_QM
Really cheesy but good!

29. Loss of Privilege Remove a privilege if behavior is inappropriate.
Lots of different privileges can be removed.
Be consistent! Follow through.

30. Setting Limits Setting a guideline for behavior
State limits clearly and firmly
Use consequences as a form of discipline when rules are broken
Give your child the WHY for the limits.

31. Setting Limits - MORE
Some parents struggle with setting limits, but limits are GOOD for kids. Limits show children what to do and say and help them cope with their impulses and anxieties.

32. Limited Choices
Give children opportunities to make choices within caregiver’s limits
Limit the number of options provided
This gives a child practice making decisions and they feel in control of the situation
                                                                

34. Natural & Logical Consequences
Natural: occur without interference – let nature take its course
Logical: occur with interference from caregiver
Related to misbehavior
Not done in anger
Short duration
Provide opportunities for child to learn

35. Super Nanny

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37. Authoritarian Parenting
Parent is in control.
Child is forced to obey.
Parents are strict, no room for freedom.
Child may feel scared of parent or want to rebel.

38. Video Clip - Authoritarian

39. Permissive Parenting Child is in control
Parent may threaten but never follows through.
No consistency.
Child may feel that parents don’t care about them.
Can show at least 3 minutes then skip 6 minutes into video
Second link start at 1 and a half minutes in

40. Video Clip - Permissive

41. Authoritative (Democratic) Parenting
Balance of both types.
Parent sets rules, child expected to obey.
Child allowed more freedom as responsibility increases.
Child may not like the rules but they are fair & consistent.

42. Video Clip – Authoritative/Democratic

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