Chapter 2 Section2 Principles of Human Services
Friends: people who know, like, and trust each other ◦ Compliment one another’s positive traits ◦ Tactfully point out habits & attitudes that need to be changed Friendship is a bond that forms between friends
Type of friendship is determined by the bond between them Acquaintance: someone you know, but who is not a close friend Good Friends: share common interests, talk, have fun, enjoy social activities Best Friends: share your deepest thoughts & feelings
First step in meeting friends Most of the people you meet are likely to be your age Most of the people you meet are likely to be close to you (geographically) Multicultural Society: people from many different cultures live in the same community
You don’t form with everyone you meet Likely to form with someone who has a personality similar to yours Share with those who have a similar outlook in life Share with people who have similar priorities Develop with people who have common interests
You don’t have to wait for someone to speak to you You can speak to them first Strangers are likely to strike up a conversation if you ◦ Show interest in them ◦ Focus on what they are saying ◦ Ask questions ◦ Provide feedback to keep the conversation moving ◦ Are open minded
The same factors that attract people to friends also attract them to dating partners While dating, you can actually learn about yourself Helps learn about members of the opposite sex
One of the first dating experiences Group dating: a number of people of both sexes go out together Each member has fun without feeling especially close to one person “Hanging out” Easy way to begin dating No one feels on the spot
Random Dating: also called casual dating allows people to date more than one person at a time Not committed relationship Allows for participants to grow socially and no one feels disloyal or jealous Objectives are fun & entertainment
Steady dating: agree to date only each other “going out” Provides several types of security ◦ Someone likes you and cares for you ◦ Someone understands you and enjoys being with you ◦ You know who you will be spending your time with ◦ You have a date when you “need” one Conflict occurs in all relationships and steady dating requires conflict resolution
A person’s affection cannot be measured by any objective standards Cannot be compared to a standard definition Love has many different meanings Involves caring more about your mate than yourself
Infatuation: an intense feeling of admiration often confused with love Often short lived Infatuation is self centered Love is unselfish
Steady dating relationships usually means 2 people spend time together alone Feelings of love develop Want to express their affection (physically) There may be pressure or desire for sexual relations Sexual feelings are normal, but should be given a great deal of consideration
If you know where you stand, you will be able to make a decision quickly (if necessary) Some feel pressure to have sex when they are not ready Strong emotions are tied to sexual relationships ◦ Shame, guild, used rather than loved ◦ Self-esteem may suffer Physical consequences ◦ Sexually transmitted diseases (STD) ◦ Pregnancy
Deciding to have a sexual relationship can affect the rest of your life. If you make a careless choice, your health, your future may be jeopardized You need to be able to make your own decisions and stick to them Sexual abstinence: choice to refrain from sexual intercourse until marriage ◦ Religious reasons, moral reasons, fits personal priorities & standards, health, safety, personal integrity
If you make the decision not to have sex, be prepared to follow through with your decision Make sure your date knows your limitations Avoid situations that may be difficult to handle Do not spend time alone with each other Stay away from parties where drugs or alcohol may be available
Talk about your lives, hopes & dreams Be there to listen Write love letters & poems