METAPHORS Reality Ride . . . . . . . . . Animated Elementary Labels . . . . . . . . . . . . . . Animated Elementary Defenses . . . . . . . . . . . . Animated Elementary Motivation Formula . . . Animated Elementary Climbing Out . . . . . . . . . Animated Elementary Hurdles . . . . . . . . . . . . . Animated Elementary Desire-Time-Effort . . . . . Animated Elementary Lift The Weight . . . . . . . . Animated Elementary Plugged In . . . . . . . . . . . Animated Elementary The Wall . . . . . . . . . . . . . Animated Elementary No F Game Plan

Will these things give you . . . 1 2 Goal: 5 Things that get you in trouble . . . - What will your “Reality” be when you ride here? 9 What choices will give you . . . At home: At school: With peers: In future: 4 Your Challenges . . . Home: School: Peers: More options 7 Who can support you? What problems do you keep having over and over? Peers School Home 3 “Reality” Consequences of crash . . . 6 8 - Frustrated - Confused - Angry - Scared - Keep getting same results Start ride over Will these things give you . . . Opportunity? Freedom? Self Respect?

Four steps to tear off your label: 4 Four steps to tear off your label: What labels do you have that are getting in the way of your opportunities? 1. Identify: How is your label working for you? 3 "The Real Me" What do you like about yourself? What do others like about you? Your accomplishments? Your strengths, goals and dreams If you had to label yourself, what would it be? (Must be positive.) 2. Do something different: What behavior needs to change? What do you need to stop doing? (not working for you) What do you need to start doing? (something new) Remember: Same thing = same results 1 Discuss labels 3. Focus on your strengths: 2 Project the label that you want. Thief Liar Trouble Maker Why is it easy to give up when you have a label? Are these ever and excuse? Ungovernable Failure Attitude Juvenile 4. Repeat what you are doing right. Problem Delinquent Remember: It takes time for others to see the change. Dropout Dumb Lazy Gang Member Rebellious Every night ask yourself: What did I do today to tear off the label? How can I do more of this tomorrow?

This gives you “self-respect.” Why? 1 What is a defense mechanism? Situation: Disrespected Yelled at Put down Laughed at Mad at parent Embarrassed Make a mistake Feel pressure You’re hit You lose Confronted Frustrated Blamed Get caught Hurt Angry 2 How do you respond (act) when . . . 4 Choice Who chooses the defense? How do you protect your feelings? 6 Four steps to control your defense mechanisms 3 Feeling 1. Recognize the situation. When you are in a pressure situation, these are the signs: You feel angry, frustrated, nervous. What outward behaviors can you use to help control the pressure? 2. Identify the situations where you can practice step 1. What are the situations you need to practice this? 3. Don’t let other people choose or control how you will respond. The signs are: someone is yelling at you, you are physically attacked, or you are put down. This gives you “self-respect.” Why? What could happen when you stay in control? Defense 5 4. Select a positive solution. What would motivate you to do the “tougher” harder thing? How do you know when you’ve selected a positive Defense mechanism?. . . “When you are helping (not hurting) yourself and others.”

WhyTry? Opportunity, Freedom, Self-respect Motivation begins with the challenge Choice Anger Challenges Energy Negative Positive Who Are Your Lifelines? Who can help you out of “The Flood Zone” at home, at school, and with your peers? Less opportunity and freedom “The Flood Zone” Positive “Self Talk” Easy – path of least resistance - No self-respect - Energy dies - Hurt self and hurt others - Use your inner voice to direct your motivation (energy) in a positive direction (It’s a positive direction if you’re not hurting yourself or others) - Focus self-talk on what you do have control over. Character and Heart - You go through the motions and don’t give up out of respect for people who care about you. - You don’t give up out of respect for yourself. A Passion Purpose or Interest (Turn outward) If channeled, challenges & anger can be converted into Get Plugged in “Support System” Positive Motivation & Healing WhyTry? Opportunity, Freedom, Self-respect

Warning: if you try to get out you will be Attacked! . . . Why? What is the “POT” that you are in? 2 How do friends (others) affect you in both positive ways and negative ways? 4 5 Who wants to see you climb out? Why? 3 When you get in trouble (or in the pot) are you keeping others in, or yourself? How? 1 Explain the overall concept 6 What are the reasons for staying “IN” the pot? What will your future be like when you get out? 8 Why is it difficult for the crabs to climb out of the pot? 7 What will your future be like if you don’t get out? 9 What are the tools you can use to get out? Warning: if you try to get out you will be Attacked! . . . Why?

“I know I have the strength” 2 What have you jumped over? 6 1. Identify problem: 4. Take action: What specific behaviors (actions) do you need to stop or add to jump your hurdle? What problem do you really want to overcome? 3 What can you jump over? Stopped behaviors Added behaviors 2. Create options: 5. Believe in change: On a scale from one to ten, circle where you are in believing change will happen. What are some options you can create? 4 Why should you try to jump your hurdle? 1. 2. 3. 4. 5. 6. 7. 8. 9. 10. “I can’t change” “Maybe” “I know I have the strength” 3. Get help: 6. Jump back up: Who can help you get over your hurdle? If you trip, how will jumping back up make you stronger? 1 Your problem: What should your self-talk be telling you as you try to jump your hurdle? You Only Lose If You Give Up! 5 Strengths:

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Why do you need resistance to become stronger? Discuss picture . . . Why do you need resistance to become stronger? 2 1 What is expected of you? From Parents: (rules) From Society: (laws) For Myself: (self discipline) Why does this need to be your strongest muscle? 6 What things get you into the most trouble? 3 “Easy” No resistance “Hard” A lot of resistance What have you given up on? Why does giving up make you weak? What are three things that you put most of your Time and Effort into? 1. 2. 3. 4 What are three new options you could do with your time that will make you stronger? 1. 2. 3. 5 Do any of these things give you Opportunity, Freedom, and Self-Respect? If YES keep lifting . . . If NO, create a new workout

Teacher/Counselor/School Official 1 2 3 4 5 Parent/Caregiver How much time am I spending with a parent or care giver? (if you’re not spending at least 30 minutes a day then create and demand more time. What is one “conflict,” “argument,” or “power struggle” that I can give up today that won’t hurt me but will help lower my parents anxiety about me? Positive Friend Remember – You know you have a “real “ friend when you are hanging out and they are doing things that help (not hurt) themselves or you. What could I do to help a friend overcome peer pressure and deal with challenges at home and at school? Teacher/Counselor/School Official Make sure that someone at school knows the real you and what you can become with their help. Ask how they help you reach your dreams and potential? Let them know what you are willing to do and work together with them – (identify three things that you’re willing to do) These 5 Connections will help turn on the “light” to see your future more clearly Positive Mentor Who can I identify that has accomplished goals and dreams similar to those that I want to accomplish. What are three things (qualities) about them that I respect and admire, that I would like to develop also? Take a risk – If possible ask them how they can help you achieve the same thing. Something that inspires or motivates you to do good What motivates me to not hurt myself or others? What do I do with my time that’s “fun,” gives me self respect and doesn’t get me into trouble? (How can I do More of this?).

Why Try? Why Try? Failure Drugs Anger Fighting Who Cares I Can’t Opportunity Freedom Self-Respect “Big View” If you can’t see over the wall, ask yourself, “What step am I tripping on?” (Then put Desire, Time and Effort into that step.) Why will this view give you more self-respect? Why does climbing the steps and achieving this view give you endless options? You will become . . . (Your dreams and goals) Plugging In Who is helping you deal with your challenges? Can you get more help? Why Try? IMPORTANT!!! How do you know if you’re on top of the wall? Lift Weight What laws and rules are making you strong? Maze What did you put your desire, time, and effort into today? Failure “You’re helping, not hurting, yourself or others.” Hurdles What will motivate you to “jump back up” if you trip? Drugs Climbing Out How did you react when someone tried to pull you down? Anger Fighting “What is your current view giving you?” Defense Mech How did you protect myself in a “pressure situation?” Did it help or hurt you? Who Cares “Limited View” Labels How did you show others “the real me,” not the label? I Can’t Reality Ride What did you do today to stop the crash, & how can you repeat? Why do we often miss the simple solution? Family Problems Why Try? If you’re standing here, why is opportunity, freedom, and self-respect hard to get? Why will your motivation to change go up with each step that you climb?

“Reality” Things that get you in trouble . . . 2 1 Goals: What choices will give you . . . 5 Things that get you in trouble . . . 9 What will your “Reality” be when you ride here? At Home: At School: With Peers: In Future: 4 Your challenges More options Home: School: Peers: Who can support you? 7 What problems do you keep having over and over? Peers School Home 3 6 “Reality” Consequences of crash . . . 8 - Frustrated - Confused - Angry - Scared - Keep getting same results Start ride over Will these things give you lasting Opportunity? Freedom? Self Respect?

Four steps to tear off your label: 4 What do you like about yourself? What do others like about you? Your accomplishments? Your strengths, goals and dreams If you had to label yourself, what would it be? (Must be positive.) 3 What labels do you have that are getting in the way of your opportunities? 1. Identify: How is your label working for you? "The Real Me" What behavior needs to change? What do you need to stop doing? (not working for you) What do you need to start doing? (something new) Remember: Same thing = same results 2. Do something different: 1 Discuss Labels 3. Focus on your strengths: Project the label that you want. Why is it easy to give up when you have a label? Are these ever an excuse? 2 Trouble Maker Thief Liar Failure Ungovernable Juvenile Attitude 4. Repeat what you are doing right. Remember: It takes time for others to see the change. Delinquent Problem Dropout Dumb Lazy Rebellious Gang Member Every night ask yourself: What did I do today to tear off the label? How can I do more of this tomorrow?

This gives you “self-respect.” Why? What is a defense mechanism? 1 Who chooses the defense? How do you protect your feelings? Choice 4 Situation: 2 How do you respond (act) when . . . Disrespected Yelled at Put down Laughed at Mad at parent Embarrassed Make a mistake Feel pressure You’re hit You lose Confronted Frustrated Blamed Get caught Hurt Angry Four steps to control your defense mechanisms Negative Positive 1. Recognize the situation. Feeling 3 When you are in a pressure situation, these are the signs: You feel angry, frustrated, nervous. What outward behaviors can you use to help control the pressure? 2. Identify the situations where you can practice step 1. What are the situations you need to practice this? “Easy” “Hard” 3. Don’t let other people choose (or control) how you will respond. The signs are: someone is yelling at you, you are physically attacked, or you are put down. What could happen when you stay in control? This gives you “self-respect.” Why? 4. Select a positive solution What would motivate me to do the “tougher” harder thing? 5 Defense How do you know when you’ve selected a positive defense mechanism?. . . “When you are helping (not hurting) yourself and others.”

Choice Challenges Frustration Anger Fear Energy Positive Negative Less Opportunity and Freedom “The Flood Zone” Easy – path of least resistance - No self-respect - Energy dies - Hurt self and hurt others

WhyTry? Opportunity, Freedom, Self-respect Motivation begins with the challenge Choice Challenges Anger Energy Positive Negative Who Are Your Lifelines? Who can help you out of “The Flood Zone” at home, at school and with your peers? Less Opportunity and Freedom “The Flood Zone” Positive “Self Talk” Easy – path of least resistance - No self-respect - Energy dies - Hurt self and hurt others - Use your inner voice to direct your motivation (energy) in a positive direction (It’s a positive direction if you’re not hurting yourself or others) - Focus self-talk on what you do have control over. Character and Heart - You go through the motions and don’t give up out of respect for people who care about you. - You don’t give up out of respect for yourself. A Passion Purpose or Interest (Turn outward) If channeled, challenges & anger can be converted into Get Plugged in “Support System” Positive Motivation & Healing WhyTry? Opportunity, Freedom, Self-respect

WhyTry? Opportunity, Freedom, Self-respect Motivation begins with the challenge Choice Anger Challenges Energy Negative Positive Who Are Your Lifelines? Who can help you out of “The Flood Zone” at home, at school, and with your peers? Less opportunity and freedom “The Flood Zone” Positive “Self Talk” Easy – path of least resistance - No self-respect - Energy dies - Hurt self and hurt others - Use your inner voice to direct your motivation (energy) in a positive direction (It’s a positive direction if you’re not hurting yourself or others) - Focus self-talk on what you do have control over. Character and Heart - You go through the motions and don’t give up out of respect for people who care about you. - You don’t give up out of respect for yourself. A Passion Purpose or Interest (Turn outward) If channeled, challenges & anger can be converted into Get Plugged in “Support System” Positive Motivation & Healing WhyTry? Opportunity, Freedom, Self-respect

Warning: if you try to get out you will be Attacked! Why? How do friends (others) affect you in both positive ways and negative ways? 4 What is the “POT” that you are in? 2 Who wants to see you climb out? Why? 5 When you get in trouble (or in the pot) Are you keeping others in, or yourself? How? 3 1 Explain the overall concept What are the reasons for staying “IN” the pot? 6 What will your future be like when you get out? 8 Why is it difficult for the crabs to climb out of the pot? What are the tools you can use to get out? What will your future be like if you don’t get out? 7 9 Warning: if you try to get out you will be Attacked! Why?

“I know I have the strength” 2 What have you jumped over? 1. Identify Problem: What problem do you really want to overcome? 6 4. Take Action: What specific behaviors (actions) do you need to stop or add to jump my hurdle? Stopped Behaviors Added Behaviors What can you jump over? 3 2. Create Options: What are some options you can create? 5. Believe in Change: On a scale from one to ten, circle where you are in believing change will happen. 1. 2. 3. 4. 5. 6. 7. 8. 9. 10. “I can’t change” “Maybe” “I know I have the strength” Why should you try to jump your hurdle? 4 3. Get Help: Who can help you get over your hurdle? Who can you help? 6. Jump Back Up: If you trip, how will jumping back up make you stronger? 1 Your Problem: You Only Lose If You Give Up! What should your “self-talk” be telling you as you try to jump your hurdle? 5 Strengths:

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Why do you need resistance to become stronger? Discuss picture . . . Why do you need resistance to become stronger? 2 1 What is expected of you? From Parents: (rules) From Society: (laws) For Myself: (self-discipline) Why does this need to be your strongest muscle? 6 What things get you into the most trouble? 3 “Easy” No resistance “Hard” A lot of resistance What have you given up on? Why does giving up make you weak? What are three things that you put most of your Time and Effort into? 1. 2. 3. 4 What are three new options you could do with your time that will make you stronger? 1. 2. 3. 5 Do any of these things give you Opportunity, Freedom, and Self-Respect? If YES keep lifting . . . If NO, create a new workout

Teacher/Counselor/School Official 1 Parent/Caregiver How much time am I spending with a parent or care giver? (if you’re not spending at least 30 minutes a day then create and demand more time. What is one “conflict,” “argument,” or “power struggle” that I can give up today that won’t hurt me but will help lower my parents anxiety about me? 2 Positive Friend Remember – You know you have a “real “ friend when you are hanging out and they are doing things that help (not hurt) themselves or you. What could I do to help a friend overcome peer pressure and deal with challenges at home and at school? 3 Teacher/Counselor/School Official These 5 connections will help turn on the “light” to see your future more clearly Make sure that someone at school knows the real you and what you can become with their help. Ask how they help you reach your dreams and potential? Let them know what you are willing to do and work together with them – (identify three things that you’re willing to do) 4 Positive Mentor Who can I identify that has accomplished goals and dreams similar to those that I want to accomplish. What are three things (qualities) about them that I respect and admire, that I would like to develop also? Take a risk – If possible ask them how they can help you achieve the same thing. 5 Something that inspires or motivates you to do good What motivates me to not hurt myself or others? What do I do with my time that’s “fun,” gives me self respect and doesn’t get me into trouble? (How can I do More of this?).

Why Try? The Motivation Formula Why Try? Failure Drugs Anger Fighting Opportunity Freedom Self-Respect “Big View” If you can’t see over the wall, ask yourself, “What step am I tripping on?” (Then put Desire, Time and Effort into that step) Why will this view give you more self-respect? Why does climbing the steps and achieving this view give you endless options? You will become . . . (Your dreams and goals) Plugging In Who is helping you deal with your challenges? Can you get more help? The Motivation Formula Why Try? IMPORTANT!!! How do you know if you’re on top of the wall? Lift Weight What laws and rules are making you strong? Maze What did you put your desire, time, and effort into today? Failure “You’re helping, not hurting, yourself or others.” Drugs Hurdles What will motivate you to “jump back up” if you trip? Anger Climbing Out How did you react when someone tried to pull you down? Fighting “What is your current view giving you?” Defense Mech How did you protect yourself in a “pressure situation?” Did it help or hurt you? Who Cares “Limited View” Labels How did you show others “the real me,” not the label? I Can’t Reality Ride What did you do today to stop the crash, & how can you repeat? Why do we often miss the simple solution? Family Problems Why Try? If you’re standing here, why is opportunity, freedom, and self-respect hard to get? Why will your motivation to change go up with each step that you climb?

The No “F” Game Plan Attend Class: Sit up front (if possible), listen, be respectful and ask questions. Most important of all. . . never skip class! Do all the Homework: Make sure that you turn in your homework on time and receive full credit for it. Ask about Extra Credit: If you are still failing then ask your teacher if you can do some extra credit to make sure you pass their class. It’s good to be prepared with a couple of suggestions of things that you would be willing to do for extra credit. Remember . . . connecting with your teacher is your best resource when you are struggling to pass a class!

My decisions have consequences

What do I want my label to be?

How do I protect my feelings? Negative Positive How do I protect my feelings?

WhyTry? Opportunity, Freedom, Self-respect Choice Anger Challenges Energy Negative Positive Who Are Your Lifelines? “The Flood Zone” Positive “Self Talk” Character and Heart A Passion Purpose or Interest Get Plugged in “Support System” Opportunity, Freedom, Self-respect WhyTry?

Who wants to see me climb out?

You Only Lose If You Give Up! 1. Identify problem: 2. Create options: 3. Get help: 4. Take action: 5. Believe in change: Your problem: 6. Jump back up: You Only Lose If You Give Up!

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What Makes Me Strong?