1. “Success Comes in Can’s not Can’ts!!” 1. What are Values 2. How do we develop them? 3. What is the Decision Making Model? 4. What are the Trouble Rules?

2. What is a Value? Qualities, characteristics, or ideas about which we feel strongly. Qualities, characteristics, or ideas about which we feel strongly. Our values affect our decisions, goals and behavior. Our values affect our decisions, goals and behavior. A belief or feeling that someone or something is worthwhile. A belief or feeling that someone or something is worthwhile. Values define what is of worth, what is beneficial, and what is harmful Values define what is of worth, what is beneficial, and what is harmful Values are standards to guide your action, judgments, and attitudes. Values are standards to guide your action, judgments, and attitudes.

3. Direction in Life Values help us make important decisions! Values give direction and consistency to behavior. Values give direction and consistency to behavior. Values help you know what to and not to make time for. Values help you know what to and not to make time for. Values establish a relationship between you and the world. Values establish a relationship between you and the world. Values set the direction for one’s life. Values set the direction for one’s life.

4. Where do we get values? our homes, s school, ociety, f friends, T TV, c church, music, books, f families, culture, e employers, time-period in which you were raised (70’s anti-establishment, peace, individuality. 80’s money, prestige, don’t get caught, etc. 90’s earth, green peace, health and fitness), etc.

5. Your age will greatly influence your values. Different people and things influence you at different ages: Ages 1-7 --- parents Ages 1-7 --- parents Ages 8-13 --- teachers, heroes (sports, rocks, TV) Ages 8-13 --- teachers, heroes (sports, rocks, TV) Ages 14-20 --- peers (values because of peers or peers because of values?) Ages 14-20 --- peers (values because of peers or peers because of values?) Ages 21+ your values are established, but you may test your values from time to time. Ages 21+ your values are established, but you may test your values from time to time.

6. Values and Behaviors: Happiness comes from letting values decide your behavior and goals. Happiness comes from letting values decide your behavior and goals. Values can change over a life-time as your experiences change your view. Values can change over a life-time as your experiences change your view.

7. What are some Common Values shared in Society? Trust Trust Honesty Honesty Respect Respect Empathy Empathy Courage Courage Kindness Kindness Social Justice Social Justice Integrity Integrity Freedom Freedom Loyalty Loyalty So many more, the list goes on………… So many more, the list goes on…………

8. Make Some Great Decisions with your Values~~ Give thought to the problem Give thought to the problem Review your choices Review your choices Evaluate the benefits and consequences of each choice Evaluate the benefits and consequences of each choice Assess and choose the best choice (consider your values) Assess and choose the best choice (consider your values) Think it over afterward Think it over afterward

9. What are Trouble Rules????? A set of questions you ask yourself when making a difficult decision to avoid getting into trouble! Is it against the law? Is it against the law? Will someone in authority get mad? Will someone in authority get mad? Could it cause harm? Could it cause harm? Is it against my values? Is it against my values? If your answer is yes to any of the trouble rules you should say “NO”. If your answer is yes to any of the trouble rules you should say “NO”.

10. Problem: State the problem that you are facing? Problem: State the problem that you are facing? Choices: Show a minimum of 3 Choices: Show a minimum of 3 1. 1. 2. 2. 3. 3. Evaluate the benefits and consequences of each choice (Show at least 2 per Choice) Evaluate the benefits and consequences of each choice (Show at least 2 per Choice) Choice 1 Choice 1 Bennefits Bennefits Consequences Consequences Choice 2… Choice 2… Choice 3… Choice 3… Assess and choose the best choice (consider your values & the Trouble Rules) Assess and choose the best choice (consider your values & the Trouble Rules) Think it over afterward Think it over afterward

11. Show me What you Learned using the GREAT Decision Making Model You are at a party and your friend who drove you continues to drink throughout the night. It is now 1:30 a.m. and you are tired and want to go home. Most of your friends have already left the party. Your friend who has been drinking all night offers you a ride home. You are unsure about his sobriety at this point. He seems really drunk. You can smell the alcohol on his breath and he is slurring his words. You don’t have a driver’s license. The party is getting wilder and it doesn’t seem like you will be able to safely “crash” there. What do you decide to do?

12. Refusal Skills There are three rules to remember: State your position. State your position. Suggest alternatives. Suggest alternatives. Stand your ground. Stand your ground. Refusal Lines: Point out consequences Point out consequences Give a reason or excuse. Give a reason or excuse. Make a bail out plan with friends Make a bail out plan with friends Say, “No, Thanks” and mean it. Say, “No, Thanks” and mean it. Make a joke out of it. Make a joke out of it. Change the subject. Change the subject. Avoid Unhealthy Situations all together Avoid Unhealthy Situations all together

13. Teens on Decisions….. Versus Adults Are more focused on possible benefits versus costs Are more focused on possible benefits versus costs Are more susceptible to peer pressure Are more susceptible to peer pressure More impulsive More impulsive More focused on seeking fun More focused on seeking fun Accept flimsy evidence when they are biased in favor of a topic Accept flimsy evidence when they are biased in favor of a topic Take more risks when there is less adult supervision Take more risks when there is less adult supervision WE MUST LEARN TO THINK BEFORE WE ACT!!

14. Additional Scenarios A friend offers a ride to you & and other friend who are walking to the beach. The car (not a van) already has 6 passengers. Without a ride you will have a two mile walk to the beach. A friend offers a ride to you & and other friend who are walking to the beach. The car (not a van) already has 6 passengers. Without a ride you will have a two mile walk to the beach. Your best friend is mad at someone from school and wants to sneak out late one night to egg the person’s house. Your best friend wants you to come too. Your best friend is mad at someone from school and wants to sneak out late one night to egg the person’s house. Your best friend wants you to come too.

15. Additional Scenarios You have math class first period. Your friend has it 4th period. He did not study for the test today. He asks you text message the answers to him. You have math class first period. Your friend has it 4th period. He did not study for the test today. He asks you text message the answers to him. Your friend says she does not have enough money to buy a new pair of jeans. She wants you to help her shop lift the pants. Your friend says she does not have enough money to buy a new pair of jeans. She wants you to help her shop lift the pants.