Personality

Describing Personality Each person has a unique personality. Your personality consists of the behaviors, attitudes, feelings, and ways of thinking that make you an individual. A psychologist studies how people think, feel, and behave. Many researchers use five central traits to describe peoples’ personalities extroversion agreeableness conscientiousness emotional stability openness to experiences

Extroversion This trait describes how much you like being with other people. An extrovert tends to be outgoing, talkative, and sociable. An introvert tends to be shy, quiet, and reserved.

Agreeableness This trait describes your tendency to relate to other people in a friendly way. People who are agreeable tend to cooperate with others. People who are disagreeable tend to be suspicious or hostile.

Conscientiousness This trait describes how responsible and self-disciplined you are. Conscientious people tend to be dependable and make good decisions. On the other end of the scale are people who do not think through decisions, are careless, and easily distracted.

Emotional Stability People who are emotionally stable tend to be relaxed, secure, and calm, even during difficult situations. On the other end of the scale are people who are fearful, worried, and angry.

Openness to Experiences People who are open to new experiences tend to be curious, imaginative, and creative. People who are less open tend to be more predictable and less independent.

How Personality Forms Personality traits are influenced by a combination of heredity and environment.

Heredity Infants are born with distinct tendencies to act in certain ways. Traits such as cheerfulness and shyness may be inherited. Talents such as musical and artistic abilities may be inherited.

Environment Heredity is only half the picture. Your family, your friends, and your cultural group are important parts of your environment. They all have an influence on your personality. Culture Personality traits that are valued in one culture may not be as highly valued in another culture. Friends Starting in childhood and throughout the teenage years, friends become an increasingly important influence on personality. These friends, who are about the same age and share similar interests, are called a peer group. Family Experiences you had as a child helped to shape your personality. Children learn about feelings, attitudes, and appropriate ways to behave from their families. As children develop, they copy the behavior of others. This is called modeling.

BLUE Relationships

Blue Attributes Mediators Optimistic Caretakers Passionate Peacemakers True Romantic Need to feel “special” Always has a kind word Sensitive need to others Motivate and encourage others Cooperative rather than competitive

Blue May See Self As: Others May See Blue As: Warm Compassionate Romantic Spiritual Unselfish Caretaker Likes to please others Sympathetic Trusting Others May See Blue As: Overly Emotional Bleeding Heart Mushy Naïve Too Touchy-Feely Too nice Talks too much Pushover Too Tender Hearted

Gold Duty and Responsibility

Gold Attributes Loves to plan Detail oriented Values family traditions Helpful and trustworthy Punctual, predictable, precise Loyal, Responsible Strong belief in policies, procedures, rules Strives for sense of security There is a right way to do everything Conservative and stable

Gold May See Self As: Others May See Gold As: Stable Providing Security Dependable Firm Efficient Decisive Good Planner Punctual Organized Person Goal Oriented Orderly, Neat Others May See Gold As: Controlling Dull, Boring Stubborn Opinionated Judgmental Bossy Uptight Predictable

Orange Freedom

Orange Attributes Playful Energetic Charming Risk Taker Tests limits Creative, Inventive Pushes the boundaries Impulsive and Spontaneous Most productive in informal environment

Others May See Orange As: Orange May See Self As: Fun-loving, Enjoys life Spontaneous Flexible, Adaptable Carefree Hands-on Person Practical Problem-solver Do many things at once Curious, welcomes new ideas Others May See Orange As: Irresponsible Flaky Goofs off too much Disobeys Rules Manipulative Not to be trusted Uncontrollable Indecisive Obnoxious Not a team player

Green Intellectual Competence (Information & Knowledge)

Green Attributes Intellectual Perfectionists Standard setters Can never know enough Work is play—play is work Need for independence and private time Knows how to spell and pronounce “big” words

Others May See Green As: Green May See Self As: Superior Intellect 98% Right Powerful Creative Original Rational Calm, not emotional Precise Others May See Green As: Intellectual snob Arrogant Heartless Ruthless Doesn’t care about people Not emotionally controlled Critical, fault finding Stingy with praise Afraid to open up

Stages of Personality Development Personality develops throughout life as people meet a series of challenges. Develop Trust Search for Identity Learn to be Independent Establish Intimacy Take Initiative Create and Nurture Develop Skills Look Back With Acceptance

Stages of Personality Development Develop Trust If needs are met, the child learns to trust other people. If needs are not met, the child learns mistrust and may withdraw from others.

Stages of Personality Development Learn to Be Independent This is the stage when young children learn to do things on their own. If children fail to master these tasks, they develop self-doubt.

Stages of Personality Development Take Initiative During this stage, children start to plan their own activities. If children are harshly scolded for poor initiatives, they may feel unworthy, guilty, or resentful.

Stages of Personality Development Develop Skills These skills make children feel competent—capable of achieving their goals. Without skills, a child may feel like a failure.

Stages of Personality Development Search for Identity As a teenager, your main challenge is a search for identity or a sense of self.

Stages of Personality Development Establish Intimacy As a young adult, your challenge will be to establish close bonds with others.

Stages of Personality Development Create and Nurture During middle adulthood, people need to stay productive and creative in all parts of their life.

Stages of Personality Development Look Back With Acceptance During older adulthood, people reflect on their lives.

Assignment Answer each question. 1. What color is your personality? 2. List 3-4 characteristics of your color. 3. How are you like that color? 4. How are you opposite of the color? 5. What other color do you feel you have the same characteristics as? Why?