1. Who Are You? Stress and Anger!!!
How do you deal with each?
Ch. 2 Personality, Self-Esteem and Emotions

2. Personality- Behaviors, attitudes, feelings, and ways of thinking that make you an individual.
Extroversion- How much you like being with other people.
Agreeableness- Your tendency to relate to other people in a friendly way.
Conscientiousness- How responsible and self disciplined you are.
Emotional Stability- Relaxed, secure, and calm even during difficult situations.
Openness to Experiences- Curious, imaginative and creative.

3. Stages of Personality Development:
Develop Trust (infant- in other people)
Learn to be Independent (young children- do things for self)
Take Initiative (children-plan own activities)
Develop Skills (children- school, home, with others)
Search for Identity (teens- sense of self)
Establish Intimacy (young adult- bond with others)
Create and Nurture (middle adulthood- helping younger people grow)
Look Back with Acceptance (older adulthood- accept choices made/opportunities missed)

4. Self-Esteem What is Self-Esteem?
How much you respect yourself and like yourself. Your opinion of yourself.
Many psychologists think high self-esteem has a positive effect on health, while low self- esteem has a negative effect on health, do you agree?
Benefits of high self-esteem: accept self, positive attitude, close relationships, ask for help…
Risks of low self-esteem: judge self harsh, worry too much, negative thoughts, engage in self-destructive behavior
Boost your Self-Esteem:
Maintain a positive attitude
Focus on strengths
Form close relationships
Set goals for self
Avoid risky behaviors
Ask for help
Help others

5. How Self-Esteem Develops
On average, self-esteem drops in early adolescence, increases gradually during adulthood, and decreases again toward the end of life.
Childhood- Support and encourage.
Adolescence- Influenced by the world around.
Adulthood- Accomplish goals and take control.
Improving your Self-Esteem
-Make a list of strengths and weaknesses (focus on +)
-Set ambitious but realistic goals
-Do not be too hard on yourself
-Rely on your values
-Learn to accept compliments
-Look beyond your own concerns
-Do not focus too much on appearance

7. Primary Emotions- Expressed by people in all cultures.
Happiness
Sadness
Anger/Fear

8. Anger…
Turn to a different neighbor and share 3 ways you deal with anger in your life... Ready, Set, GO!
What was 1 way your partner said they dealt with anger? Share out..

9. Anger… How to Control Your Anger:
If someone makes you upset-
Stop. “I’m getting Angry”
Think about what will happen if you lose control. “If I lose control…”
Ask yourself why you’re really angry. “The reason I’m angry is…”
4. Reduce the anger. “I need to cool down. I’m going to…” 5. Reward yourself. “I did a good job! I’m going to…!”

10. Anger… How to Express it Constructively:
If someone makes you upset-
Tell the person how you feel. “I’m feeling _____”
Identify the specific event that made you feel that way. “I’m _____because ______”
3. Explain why that specific event made you feel that way. “When you ____, I felt ___” If you are SO upset that you feel you’re losing control, then use the skill “How to Control Your Anger. (Previous Slide)

11. Learned Emotions- Love Guilt/Shame Common Defense Mechanisms:
Denial- Refuse to recognize problem.
Compensation-Make up for weaknesses by excelling in another area.
Rationalization-Make excuses for actions or feelings
Reaction Formation-Behaving in a way opposite to the way you feel.
Projection- Putting your own faults onto another person.
Regression-Returning to immature behaviors to express emotions

12. Remember this about Emotions and Anger Management…