Child Development & Discipline

Class Objective To understand the developmental needs of Children, & how to relate to them effectively,& to learn positive methods of discipline.

Developmental Characteristics 1.Toddlers Ages Preschoolers Ages Adventurers Grades Toddlers Ages Preschoolers Ages Adventurers Grades 1-4

Mental Characteristics Mental Characteristics Learn that Hidden Things Exist Learn that Hidden Things Exist Realize Past, Present, Future Realize Past, Present, Future Language Development Influenced by Being Read & Talked to Language Development Influenced by Being Read & Talked to Know Meaning of Yes & No Know Meaning of Yes & No Mental Characteristics Mental Characteristics Learn that Hidden Things Exist Learn that Hidden Things Exist Realize Past, Present, Future Realize Past, Present, Future Language Development Influenced by Being Read & Talked to Language Development Influenced by Being Read & Talked to Know Meaning of Yes & No Know Meaning of Yes & No ToddlersToddlers

Physical Characteristics Rapid Growth in Size Rapid Growth in Size Rapid Weight Gain Rapid Weight Gain Sensory Development Sensory Development Total Mobility Development Total Mobility Development Rapid Growth in Size Rapid Growth in Size Rapid Weight Gain Rapid Weight Gain Sensory Development Sensory Development Total Mobility Development Total Mobility Development

Social Characteristics Separation Anxiety Separation Anxiety Easily Frustrated Easily Frustrated Able to Fake Emotions Able to Fake Emotions Have Recognizable Personality Have Recognizable Personality Separation Anxiety Separation Anxiety Easily Frustrated Easily Frustrated Able to Fake Emotions Able to Fake Emotions Have Recognizable Personality Have Recognizable Personality

Spiritual Characteristics Seeds of Hope, Faith, Love Developed Seeds of Hope, Faith, Love Developed Reinforcement & Consistency Important Reinforcement & Consistency Important Mind Being Prepared to Be Receptive Mind Being Prepared to Be Receptive Seeds of Hope, Faith, Love Developed Seeds of Hope, Faith, Love Developed Reinforcement & Consistency Important Reinforcement & Consistency Important Mind Being Prepared to Be Receptive Mind Being Prepared to Be Receptive

PreschoolersPreschoolers Mental Characteristics Mental Characteristics Vocabulary Goes from 900 to 3000 Words Vocabulary Goes from 900 to 3000 Words Learn Basic Concepts Learn Basic Concepts Mental Characteristics Mental Characteristics Vocabulary Goes from 900 to 3000 Words Vocabulary Goes from 900 to 3000 Words Learn Basic Concepts Learn Basic Concepts

Physical Characteristics Physical Characteristics Ride Tricycle Ride Tricycle Throw Ball Throw Ball Stand on One Foot Stand on One Foot Unbutton, Unzip, & Unfasten Unbutton, Unzip, & Unfasten Can Work Puzzles, etc. Can Work Puzzles, etc. Physical Characteristics Physical Characteristics Ride Tricycle Ride Tricycle Throw Ball Throw Ball Stand on One Foot Stand on One Foot Unbutton, Unzip, & Unfasten Unbutton, Unzip, & Unfasten Can Work Puzzles, etc. Can Work Puzzles, etc.

Need Clear Consistent Rules Need Clear Consistent Rules Need Opportunities for Independence Need Opportunities for Independence Learn to Share Learn to Share Need Balance – Quiet & Active Need Balance – Quiet & Active Imaginary Friends Imaginary Friends Acts Different Around Others Acts Different Around Others Learn Empathy Learn Empathy Need Clear Consistent Rules Need Clear Consistent Rules Need Opportunities for Independence Need Opportunities for Independence Learn to Share Learn to Share Need Balance – Quiet & Active Need Balance – Quiet & Active Imaginary Friends Imaginary Friends Acts Different Around Others Acts Different Around Others Learn Empathy Learn Empathy Social Characteristics

Spiritual Characteristics Develops Picture of God Develops Picture of God Begins to Learn Right & Wrong Begins to Learn Right & Wrong Becomes Self-Aware Becomes Self-Aware Influenced by Environment Influenced by Environment Develops Picture of God Develops Picture of God Begins to Learn Right & Wrong Begins to Learn Right & Wrong Becomes Self-Aware Becomes Self-Aware Influenced by Environment Influenced by Environment

AdventurersAdventurers Mental Characteristics Learns by Doing Learns by Doing Curious about Everything Curious about Everything Understands What is Seen & Touched Understands What is Seen & Touched Imaginative Imaginative Memorizes Easily & Likes Variety Memorizes Easily & Likes Variety Mental Characteristics Learns by Doing Learns by Doing Curious about Everything Curious about Everything Understands What is Seen & Touched Understands What is Seen & Touched Imaginative Imaginative Memorizes Easily & Likes Variety Memorizes Easily & Likes Variety

Physical Characteristics Boundless Energy Boundless Energy Developing Coordination Developing Coordination Boundless Energy Boundless Energy Developing Coordination Developing Coordination

Social Characteristics Learning Social Skills Learning Social Skills Becoming More Independent Becoming More Independent Need Success & Adult Approval Need Success & Adult Approval Becomes Easily Over-excited Becomes Easily Over-excited Very Social Very Social Begins to Need Peer Approval Begins to Need Peer Approval Wants to Win Wants to Win Learning Social Skills Learning Social Skills Becoming More Independent Becoming More Independent Need Success & Adult Approval Need Success & Adult Approval Becomes Easily Over-excited Becomes Easily Over-excited Very Social Very Social Begins to Need Peer Approval Begins to Need Peer Approval Wants to Win Wants to Win

Spiritual Characteristics Concerned about Right & Wrong Concerned about Right & Wrong Still Motivated by Self-Advantage Still Motivated by Self-Advantage Looks to Parents for Guidance Looks to Parents for Guidance Soaks-up Biblical Knowledge Soaks-up Biblical Knowledge Concerned about Right & Wrong Concerned about Right & Wrong Still Motivated by Self-Advantage Still Motivated by Self-Advantage Looks to Parents for Guidance Looks to Parents for Guidance Soaks-up Biblical Knowledge Soaks-up Biblical Knowledge

Effective Club Discipline Discipline vs. Punishment Discipline vs. Punishment Discipline is a Process. Discipline is a Process. Punishment is an inflicted consequence. Punishment is an inflicted consequence. Discipline vs. Punishment Discipline vs. Punishment Discipline is a Process. Discipline is a Process. Punishment is an inflicted consequence. Punishment is an inflicted consequence.

Reasons for Misbehavior A Lack of Understanding A Lack of Understanding A Lack of Self-Control A Lack of Self-Control Unfulfilled Needs Unfulfilled Needs Rebellion & Defiance Rebellion & Defiance A Lack of Understanding A Lack of Understanding A Lack of Self-Control A Lack of Self-Control Unfulfilled Needs Unfulfilled Needs Rebellion & Defiance Rebellion & Defiance

Maintaining Discipline Provide a Peaceful Environment Provide a Peaceful Environment Have a Well-Organized Program & Be Prepared Have a Well-Organized Program & Be Prepared Establish Rapport Establish Rapport Establish Yourself as Authority, but Don’t Abuse It Establish Yourself as Authority, but Don’t Abuse It Be Consistent Be Consistent Provide a Peaceful Environment Provide a Peaceful Environment Have a Well-Organized Program & Be Prepared Have a Well-Organized Program & Be Prepared Establish Rapport Establish Rapport Establish Yourself as Authority, but Don’t Abuse It Establish Yourself as Authority, but Don’t Abuse It Be Consistent Be Consistent

Maintaining Discipline, Cont. Be Positive Be Positive Consider the Motives Consider the Motives Change Focus Change Focus Be an Example Be an Example Pray Pray Be Positive Be Positive Consider the Motives Consider the Motives Change Focus Change Focus Be an Example Be an Example Pray Pray

Child Abuse  Physical  Sexual  Physical  Sexual

Physical Abuse Physical Signs 1. Cuts, welts, or swelling 2. Burns 3. Cigarette burns 4. Burns with a pattern 5. Fractures 6. Scars with peculiar pattern 7. Bruises / bite marks

Physical Abuse Behavioral Characteristics 1. Sleep difficulties 2. Thumb sucking 3. Fearfulness 4. Listlessness and apathy 5. Aggression and violence or withdrawal

Sexual Abuse Physical Signs 1. Torn or stained underclothing 2. Difficulty with bowel or bladder control 3. Soreness, bleeding, or discharges from a non- menstruating girl

Sexual Abuse Physical Signs, cont. 4.Trauma to breasts,buttocks, lower abdomen, thighs, genitals, or rectal area 5. Evidences of self-mutilation

Sexual Abuse Behavioral Characteristics 1. Regressive behavior 2. Refusal to undress 3. Poor personal hygiene 4. Obsessively good behavior 5. Frequent unprovoked anger 6. Panicking or flinching when touched

Sexual Abuse Behavioral Characteristics, cont. 7. Continually falling asleep during the day 8. Seductive behavior 9. Fire setting 10.Cruelty to smaller children or animals 11.Obsession with punctuality

Sexual Abuse Behavioral Characteristics, cont. 12. Frequent sore throats, difficulty swallowing or choking 13. Sudden weight gain or extreme weight loss

Motivating Children  What we can do: 1. Build Relationships 2. Be a Role Model 3. Be Careful of Stereotypes 4. Remember that Everyone is Motivated  What we can do: 1. Build Relationships 2. Be a Role Model 3. Be Careful of Stereotypes 4. Remember that Everyone is Motivated