Emotional Health Self Knowledge One of the most important relationships is the one with one self. Get to know yourself. “This is the way I am and I feel OK about it”

This leads to self- confidence, an attractive trait The confident person feels OK about his or her traits without exaggerating them. The feel comfortable with them self. Self confidence starts with self knowledge which is learned and continues for a lifetime. Self knowledge is based on: Thoughts, values and emotions (feelings) Complete describing self.

Thoughts Thoughts take place in the cortex and are conscious. They shape your actions Negative Thoughts “I’m so dumb” “I’m so ugly” “I’ll never finish this” “No one likes me”

Stop Negative Thoughts Hold an image in your mind to block the negative thoughts. Replace Negative thoughts with Positive thoughts “I’m learning” “I’m becoming fit” “ I can finish this work. I will take a break after working hard for 30 minutes” “ I’m taking the first step in climbing the mountain” “I am a good person”

VALUES Values are rules for behavior Working them out is a lifelong task People who know themselves well are keenly aware of their values Start by stating your beliefs: I believe it is best to be honest. List 10 beliefs.

Would I be willing to state this value to others? How faithfully will I stand by this value when it is challenged or when acting according to the value brings negative consequences? Do I act consistently and repeatedly in line with this value?

EMOTIONS or feelings Emotions often depend on earlier experiences Can not always pinpoint its cause. Feelings are acceptable and healthy, all of them It may not be acceptable to act on all feelings, but you must deal with them somehow

Emotional intelligence is the ability to recognize and appropriately express emotions in a way that enhances living and to recognize and empathize with the emotions and needs of others.

Dealing with Emotions Recognize it. What am I feeling Own it Verbalize it. Express it in words to yourself or someone else. I’m angry, I’m frustrated, I’m stressed, I’m Happy, I’m thrilled Express it physically Dance, hug someone, punch a pillow, kick a ball, write about it. If a negative emotion persists or returns think about the situation- confrontation may be necessart

Conflict resolution A strong support system can help in times of need A mentor, advisor, self help group, family, friends, sports group, or religious group may be part of the support system You must stay calm so conflict does not lead to violence.

Go to conflict resolution power point

Communication Assertive, aggressive, passive Assertive is to say what you mean without attacking the other person or tip toeing around. Passive – tip toeing Aggressive – attacking

Forming New Relationships Smile Open posture Forward lean Touch Eye contact Nod Spells soften – how to get to know someone new

Other hints Tell of your own feelings Ask about the other person’s feelings Listen closely.

Problem Solving and Decision Making Name the problem Describe it specifically- include the parts Brainstorm Think about each solution and list its advantages and disadvantages – Is it in line with your values – Is it in line with the values of those you respect – Would it solve the problem – How would it affect you and others – What are possible consequences

Choose a solution and act on it Evaluate the outcome – Is the problem solved? – What else happened? – Would another solution work better?