Bully Free Sophomore Class Session 4 Today all students will: Distinguish between times when mistreatment should be reported and when it is not urgent to report it List at least three do’s and don’ts in responding to students who bully them. Discuss how to use the Assert Formula when you are bullied. Discuss why retaliation is not the answer to bullying. Bully Free Sophomore Class Session 4

Lesson 18: When to report bullying and when not to report bullying When is it best to report bullying and when could it perhaps wait? When do you think it is NOT necessary to report that someone is being mistreated? When do you think it is necessary to report that someone is being bullied? (handout – When Not to Report and When to Report Mistreatment)

Lesson 20- What Should You Do When You Are Bullied? In the next few lessons we will study strategies to use when someone bullies us. You will find these very useful. If you are not being bullied now, you could be later, perhaps in college and even in the workplace. First lets cover some Do’s and Don’ts for responding to bullying.

What Should You Do When You Are Bullied? (handout) Read the instructions and complete the worksheet individually without talking.

Journal Entry # 15 Make a list of do’s and don’ts when bullied

Lesson 21- What Should You Do When You Are Bullied Lesson 21- What Should You Do When You Are Bullied? (Part 2 – Assert Formula) “Assert formula.” (Handout) Students who bully want to hurt and have power and control of someone. It is best that you not let them know they have hurt you, unless you believe they would really care and may regret it. If the person is a true bully, they will not care much. Also, being assertive will communicate they do not have power over you

Journal Entry # 16 Reflect on the lesson and to write a paragraph summarizing their thoughts and feelings

Lesson 25:Retaliation is NOT the Answer What does saying “an eye for an eye” mean? Answer: To do something unpleasant to a person in return for something unpleasant he has done to you. Martin Luther King Jr. said, “The old law of an eye for an eye leaves everybody blind.” What does he mean by that?

Hurt someone because they hurt you! What happens when we respond to bullying with violence? Violence is not the answer to violence, but we should let people know that we are not easy targets and we should be assertive. What words come to mind when you hear the word “retaliate”. Hurt someone because they hurt you! Get even Punish Strike back Revenge

“To retaliate means to repay, as a wrong or injury, with the like “To retaliate means to repay, as a wrong or injury, with the like. To do evil in return for evil. To make a strategic offensive assault against an enemy, opponent, or a target.”

Retaliation is not the answer. Research indicates that most of the time retaliation makes the bullying last longer and makes it worse The bullied student or the student who bullies may get seriously hurt. Criminal charges may be filed. When students retaliate, they lose! Violence is not the way you deal with violence. You should tell an adult. When adults get involved, bullying is stopped or reduced.

“Man must evolve for all human conflict a method which rejects revenge, aggression and retaliation. The foundation of such a method is love.” -Martin Luther King Jr.

Journal Entry # 8 Explain how the following path relates to bullying: -deep hurt, fear, anxiety, overwhelming anxiety, anger, hate, rage and then retaliation