Strive! Keys To Success

What is Success? What is True Greatness? What are your accomplishments in life so far?

Core Values Examples of Values: Respect, Honesty, Do unto others as..., Laughter is the best medicine, Family, Make the world a better place, Work hard, Be the best I can be, Helping other people, Love, Freedom, Justice, Peace, Courage, Balance, Never give up, Responsibility, Integrity….

Welcome My name = Barbara Eade My principle = Respect (for self, others & the earth) My intention = to offer ideas and inspiration while learning from you My hope = we will change each other’s lives for the better

Your Turn… My name = ________________ My principle = __________________ what is your guiding principle? what is your guiding principle? My intention = __________________ why are you here? why are you here? My hope = _____________________ what do you hope to get from this course? what do you hope to get from this course?

The Ants If you always do what you always did, then you will always do what you always did - turkey story It is not easy to change when everyone around you is resisting because they are doing what they think is best for them or for you! - eg give up smoking (miss friends/activities) - eg give up smoking (miss friends/activities) - eg get a job (and stop doing stuff you used to do) A Bug’s Life – Ants A Bug’s Life – Ants You have signed up for this course and you are here today – just like Fleck, you have left your home and have set sail on an adventure – it may not be easy, but, if it doesn’t kill you– will you give up?

Five ‘Ants’ Keys to Success 1. Balance 2. Resilience 3. Perseverance & Acceptance 4. Confidence & Talents 5. Reverence & Conscience

Interelated ‘Ants’ Keys to Success Balance Resilience Perseverance & Acceptance Confidence & Talents Reverence & Conscience

5 Keys to Success 1. Balance Dynamic Balance No time for balance?No time for balance? Shifting, changing – a gymnast’s viewShifting, changing – a gymnast’s view Aikido Master storyAikido Master story “I’m always losing my balance, the trick is to find a new balance before I hit the floor” “I’m always losing my balance, the trick is to find a new balance before I hit the floor”

Balance The 5 Intelligences: Intellectual Intelligence Emotional Intelligence Spiritual Intelligence Physical Intelligence Social Intelligence

Dynamic Balance Intellectual Emotional SpiritualPhysical Social

Your Balance What are your Challenges? What is your Action Plan for each challenge?

5 Keys to Success 1. Balance  Intelligence (5) 2. Resilience

Resilience 1. Bend without Breaking Flexible – roots grounded and branches swayFlexible – roots grounded and branches sway AdaptableAdaptable Not Black & WhiteNot Black & White More than 1 wayMore than 1 way Assertive (not passive or aggressive)Assertive (not passive or aggressive) Change is constant, never take anyone or anything for grantedChange is constant, never take anyone or anything for granted 2. Manage Criticism

Resilience Toxic Criticism  Types  receiving criticism  sending critcism to other person or thing/situation  sending self-criticism (usually not a motivator – gives excuse for failure) Reaction to criticism  angry & rebel  sad and close up  see it as an excuse and give up  see it as a challenge “I’ll show you”

Handling Toxic Criticism Tactics I know who I am and this criticism is about my behaviour and it does not change my self-esteem I know who I am and this criticism is about my behaviour and it does not change my self-esteem What is importance of this criticism? What is importance of this criticism? What is the importance of this relationship Choose an appropriate reaction – wisely manage your behaviour & self-talk  If you are unable to address the criticizer, try writing a Dear Critic letter where you can vent, process the incident, assess fairness & responsibility, clarify choices, release the past or future

5 Keys to Success 1. Balance  Intelligence (5) 2. Resilience 3. Perseverance & Acceptance  Valiance, Patience

Perseverance & Acceptance I am seeking: The serenity to accept the things I can not change The courage to change the things I can change And the wisdom to know which is which Use all 5 of your intelligences to figure out which is which

Perseverance & Acceptance There are 2 more ‘ants’ to help with this: PatienceValiance Patient = bearing pains or trials calmly. not hasty or impetuous. steadfast despite opposition, difficulty, or adversity. Valour = strength of mind and spirit that enables a person to encounter fear with firmness : personal bravery It takes valiance and patience to face challenges, to accept the limitations of the people or the system and to wait for the right timing.

Perseverance & Acceptance Perseverance A Challenging Day A Challenging Day Stories of perseverance (mine & yours)

Perseverance & Acceptance Procrastination Plan 1. Make list of Pro’s and Con’s of procrastination Based on the list, choose whether to do it or drop it Based on the list, choose whether to do it or drop it 2. Identify roadblocks What things are in the way of achieving the goal? (personal fears, other people, lack of information…) What things are in the way of achieving the goal? (personal fears, other people, lack of information…) 3. Make a plan with very small achievable steps Make the steps small enough that the unpleasant ones are less than 30 minutes (Do it just for 5 minutes?) Make the steps small enough that the unpleasant ones are less than 30 minutes (Do it just for 5 minutes?) 4. Celebrate the success of each completed step Reward yourself with kind words, enjoyable activity or treats Reward yourself with kind words, enjoyable activity or treats

Perseverance & Acceptance Acceptance Some things we can’t control or change so don’t waste energy on them

5 Keys to Success 1. Balance  Intelligence (5) 2. Resilience 3. Perseverance & Acceptance  Valiance, Patience 4. Confidence & Talents

Confidence & Talents Example list of talents & skills & traits Sample list of skills Sample list of skills Think of 3 stories of challenges that you have faced where you were happy with the results What have you accomplished so far?

Confidence & Talents Confidence comes from practicing your talents  Action helps you think & raises self-esteem  Self-esteem comes after action – not before  Act “as if” you respect yourself and others  Dress and walk “as if” you believe in yourself  Ask for jobs “as if” you deserve them  Your body is talking to you – listen & smile  Ask for help, but not dependence  Be perpetual students The amount of good luck that comes your way depends on your willingness to act – B Sher

5 Keys to Success 1. Balance  Intelligence (5) 2. Resilience 3. Perseverance & Acceptance  Valiance, Patience 4. Confidence & Talents  Students 5. Reverence & Conscience

Reverence & Conscience Reverence - Respect, Honour (Namaste), Awe, - Express appreciation instead of complaints Conscience - Integrity, sincerity, inner values, purpose in life - Your spiritual balance

5 Keys to Success 1. Balance  Intelligence (5) 2. Resilience 3. Perseverance & Acceptance  Valiance, Patience 4. Confidence & Talents  Students 5. Reverence & Conscience

Interelated ‘Ants’ Keys to Success Balance Resilience Perseverance & Acceptance Confidence & Talents Reverence & Conscience

Pursuit of Happyness Pursuit of Happyness movie (2006) Based on the true story of a man who made a clear decision what his priorities were (father & career) and with perseverance and resilience, confidence and knowing his talents, he somehow balanced all the challenges that life threw at him (including being homeless with a young child) in order to build his dream Based on the true story of a man who made a clear decision what his priorities were (father & career) and with perseverance and resilience, confidence and knowing his talents, he somehow balanced all the challenges that life threw at him (including being homeless with a young child) in order to build his dream The Pursuit of Happyness Trailer.wmv The Pursuit of Happyness Trailer.wmv Chris Gardner, is now a millionaire who dedicates much of his time and money to help people who are homeless and/or jobless. Chris Gardner, is now a millionaire who dedicates much of his time and money to help people who are homeless and/or jobless.

Strive Video True story about a work training program for people living in Harlem, New York the program is run differently than this one the program is run differently than this one the people may be different from you the people may be different from you  are some of the basic principles the same? I’d like your opinion on whether it is worthwhile to show this video in this class next time?

Strive Video – Your opinion? What did you think?

Inpirations Create an inspirational poster for yourself! (words, colours, doodles, pictures) (words, colours, doodles, pictures) It can be a summary of today’s discussions and any other wisdom you have gathered in your life (so far)