Conflict: Any disagreement, struggle, or fight.

Conflict Conflict: Any disagreement, struggle, or fight. 2 major types of conflicts:

Conflict Conflict: Any disagreement, struggle, or fight. 2 major types of conflicts: Interpersonal conflicts Internal conflicts

Conflict Conflict: Any disagreement, struggle, or fight. 2 major types of conflicts: Interpersonal conflicts Internal conflicts Interpersonal conflicts: Conflicts between people or groups of people.

Conflict Conflict: Any disagreement, struggle, or fight. 2 major types of conflicts: Interpersonal conflicts Internal conflicts Interpersonal conflicts: Conflicts between people or groups of people. Internal conflict: a struggle occurring within one’s own mind.

Common Causes of Conflict

Common Causes of Conflict Power struggles Personal loyalties Jealousy and envy Property disputes Conflicting attitudes and values Lack of respect

Common Causes of Conflict Power struggles Personal loyalties Jealousy and envy Property disputes Conflicting attitudes and values Lack of respect Understanding these causes of conflict may help you avoid some conflicts before they start. If it looks like a conflict is developing, you may able to keep it from escalating. Conflicts can escalate into fights when emotions get out of control. Feelings such as hurt pride, embarrassment, or the desire for revenge can turn a simple conflict into a situation that could be unsafe for everyone involved. In some cases, it’s best to simply walk away.

Results of Conflict Positive: Improved communication and problem-solving skills Teaches how to get along with people who disagree with you Strengthens relationships (When two make the effort to work through conflict together, it shows their commitment to each other) Negative: Major source of stress Damages relationships Job loss Suspension/expulsion from school Violence Injury Death

Results of Conflict Positive: Improved communication and problem-solving skills Teaches how to get along with people who disagree with you Strengthens relationships (When two make the effort to work through conflict together, it shows their commitment to each other) Negative: Major source of stress Damages relationships Job loss Suspension/expulsion from school Violence Injury Death

Results of Conflict Positive: Improved communication and problem-solving skills Teaches how to get along with people who disagree with you Strengthens relationships (When two make the effort to work through conflict together, it shows their commitment to each other) Negative: Major source of stress Damages relationships Job loss Suspension/expulsion from school Violence Injury Death

Preventing Conflict How?

Preventing Conflict How? Avoid instigators Pick your battles Adjust your own behavior Adjusting your attitude Refuse to resort to violence

Conflict Resolution

Conflict Resolution When you have a conflict with someone else, you have two choices: you can walk away or respond to it. In many cases, walking away from a conflict will not make it go away. Sooner or later, you will need to practice conflict resolution.

Conflict Resolution When you have a conflict with someone else, you have two choices: you can walk away or respond to it. In many cases, walking away from a conflict will not make it go away. Sooner or later, you will need to practice conflict resolution. Conflict resolution: the process of ending a conflict through cooperation and problem solving.

Conflict Resolution You can often resolve minor conflicts with a compromise. However, it can be difficult to reach a compromise when both parties have strong opinions about an issue. You may need to use negotiation.

It can sometimes be unwise or unsafe to compromise. When? A Word on Compromise It can sometimes be unwise or unsafe to compromise. When?

A Word on Compromise It can sometimes be unwise or unsafe to compromise. When? When doing so could have harmful consequences. When doing so would go against your values.

The Negotiation Process Take time to calm down and think over the situation. Let all parties take turns explaining their side of the conflict without interruption. Remember to use good communication skills, such as active listening and "I" messages. If necessary, ask for clarification to make sure that each party understands the other’s position. Brainstorm solutions to the conflict. Discuss the advantages and disadvantages of each solution. Agree on a solution that is acceptable to both sides. The ideal outcome will be a win-win solution—one that benefits everyone and has no real drawbacks for anyone. If this is not possible, the two parties may need to compromise. Follow up to see whether the solution has worked for each party.

“I” Messages “YOU” Message “I” Message "Why can't you ever show up on time?" "I really don't like to be left waiting—it makes me feel like you don't think I'm important." "You never listen to anything I say." "I feel like my suggestions aren't being taken seriously." "I said I'd take out the trash, and I will!  You don't have to nag me about it every  five minutes!" "I'm feeling stressed because I have a big project due tomorrow. I'll take out the trash as soon as I finish working on this." "You're always taking my iPad without asking." "It bothers me when I get home and I find my iPad isn’t in my room." "You always ignore me when your other friends are around." "I feel hurt when I'm left out of a conversation."

Tips for Successful Negotiation Choose the time and place carefully. The negotiation should take place when both parties are calm and on neutral ground. Check your facts. Make sure your understanding of the situation is based on accurate information. Plan what you will say. Think about how to word your statement respectfully. Remain calm. View the other party not as an enemy, but as a partner in the negotiations. Attack the problem, not each other. Avoid blaming and name-calling. Try to keep an open mind. Listen attentively to what the other side has to say. Try to understand the other party's point of view (even if you don’t agree). Be willing to take responsibility for your role in the conflict. Apologize if you have done something to hurt the other person. Remember that your goal is not to "win," but to find a solution that everyone can accept. Make sure to provide a way out of the conflict that will allow the other person to save face.

Mediation Bringing in a neutral third party to mediate can help solve some conflicts.

Mediation Bringing in a neutral third party to mediate can help solve some conflicts. Mediation: Bringing in a neutral third party to help others resolve their conflicts peacefully.

Mediation Bringing in a neutral third party to mediate can help solve some conflicts. Mediation: Bringing in a neutral third party to help others resolve their conflicts peacefully. Effective Mediation?

Mediation Bringing in a neutral third party to mediate can help solve some conflicts. Mediation: Bringing in a neutral third party to help others resolve their conflicts peacefully. Effective Mediation: Neutrality: The mediator should not favor one person or group. Confidentiality: The mediator promises not to reveal to outsiders anything said during the negotiation process. Well-defined ground rules: Both parties must agree to the rules set by the mediator.

Peer Mediation Peer mediation: Process in which specially trained students help other students resolve conflicts peacefully.

Peer Mediation Peer mediation: Process in which specially trained students help other students resolve conflicts peacefully. What is a peer?

Peer Mediation Peer mediation: Process in which specially trained students help other students resolve conflicts peacefully. What is a peer? A person of the same age, status, or ability as another specified person.

Peer Mediation Peer mediation: Process in which specially trained students help other students resolve conflicts peacefully. What is a peer? A person of the same age, status, or ability as another specified person. So… who are your peers?

Peer Mediation Peer mediation: Process in which specially trained students help other students resolve conflicts peacefully. What is a peer? A person of the same age, status, or ability as another specified person. So… who are your peers? Rather than trying to punish students or determine who is right or wrong, it aims to help students move beyond their conflicts.

Violence Violence:

Violence Violence: The threatened or actual use of physical force or power to harm another person and to damage property. Causes of violence:

Violence Violence: The threatened or actual use of physical force or power to harm another person and to damage property. Causes of violence: Uncontrolled anger or frustration A need to control others Hatred or prejudice against a particular group Retaliation/revenge Alcohol/drug use Mental/emotional problems Irresponsible use of weapons Influence of media violence Gang activity Influence of peers or family

Violence Types of violence:

Violence Types of violence: Assault: an unlawful physical attack or threat of attack. Homicide: the willful killing of one human being by another. Random violence: violence committed for no particular reason. Sexual violence: any intentional sexual attack against another person. Sexual assault: Any intentional sexual attack against another person. Rape: any form of sexual intercourse that takes place against a person's will. Hate crime: any crime motivated chiefly by hatred of or prejudice against a particular group.

Hate Crimes Hate crime: any crime motivated chiefly by hatred of or prejudice against a particular group. Hate crimes can take many forms, such as:

Hate Crimes Hate crime: any crime motivated chiefly by hatred of or prejudice against a particular group. Hate crimes can take many forms, such as: Harassment Vandalism Arson Assault and homicide

Avoiding Sexual Violence

Avoiding Sexual Violence Be aware of your surroundings wherever you go Refuse to go anywhere alone with someone you don't know or trust Go to parties with friends so that you can all watch out for each other Avoid alcohol and drugs Trust your instincts

Responding to a Sexual Attack Report a sexual attack right away. Preserve evidence of the attack (do not bathe or brush your teeth until you have been examined). Seek medical help for any injuries. Get tested for pregnancy and sexually transmitted diseases (STDs). Counseling can help survivors of a sexual attack recover from the experience.

Abuse in Relationships Abuse: the physical, mental, emotional, or sexual mistreatment of one person by another. Abuse can occur in all kinds of relationships, including dating relationships; all forms of abuse are extremely harmful.

Abuse in Relationships A dating relationship may be abusive if one partner:

Abuse in Relationships A dating relationship may be abusive if one partner: Tries to pressure the other into sexual activity. Tries to make the relationship serious or exclusive right away. Acts jealous or possessive. Tries to control the other's behavior. Yells, swears, or otherwise emotionally attacks the other. Threatens the other with physical violence.

Forms of Abuse

Forms of Abuse Physical abuse: A pattern of intentionally causing bodily harm or injury to another person.

Forms of Abuse Physical abuse: A pattern of intentionally causing bodily harm or injury to another person. Emotional abuse: A pattern of attacking another person's emotional development and sense of worth (includes humiliation, attempting to control another’s behavior, threatening them with physical harm, or cutting them off from friends and family members).

Forms of Abuse Physical abuse: A pattern of intentionally causing bodily harm or injury to another person. Emotional abuse: A pattern of attacking another person's emotional development and sense of worth (includes humiliation, attempting to control another’s behavior, threatening them with physical harm, or cutting them off from friends and family members). Verbal abuse: The use of words to mistreat or injure another person (includes yelling, swearing, insults, or put-downs).

Forms of Abuse Physical abuse: A pattern of intentionally causing bodily harm or injury to another person. Emotional abuse: A pattern of attacking another person's emotional development and sense of worth (includes humiliation, attempting to control another’s behavior, threatening them with physical harm, or cutting them off from friends and family members). Verbal abuse: The use of words to mistreat or injure another person (includes yelling, swearing, insults, or put-downs). Sexual abuse: A pattern of sexual contact that is forced upon a person against his or her will (includes sexual assault, rape, or trying to pressure someone else into sexual activity).

Forms of Abuse Physical abuse: A pattern of intentionally causing bodily harm or injury to another person. Emotional abuse: A pattern of attacking another person's emotional development and sense of worth (includes humiliation, attempting to control another’s behavior, threatening them with physical harm, or cutting them off from friends and family members). Verbal abuse: The use of words to mistreat or injure another person (includes yelling, swearing, insults, or put-downs). Sexual abuse: A pattern of sexual contact that is forced upon a person against his or her will (includes sexual assault, rape, or trying to pressure someone else into sexual activity). Stalking: Repeatedly following, harassing, or threatening an individual.

A Healthy Relationship Sometimes, teens in abusive relationships don't realize there is a problem. The truth is: people in healthy relationships treat each other with respect. They show consideration for each other's feelings and don't hurt or belittle each other.

Protecting Yourself From Abuse

Protecting Yourself From Abuse Hang out with others who share your values and treat you with respect. Know your own limits with regard to sexual activity. Communicate those limits clearly to anyone you date. Avoid drugs and alcohol. Know the warning signs of abuse in relationships. If you feel a relationship might be turning dangerous, trust your instincts and get out. If necessary, seek help from a trusted adult. If you feel you are in immediate danger, contact the police to report the abuse and get help. Remember that no matter what happens, you are not to blame for anyone else’s behavior. You can only control your own actions.

Rape is a form of sexual abuse. 2 common types you should know:

Rape Rape is a form of sexual abuse. 2 common types you should know: Date Rape: One person in a dating relationship forces the other person to take part in sexual intercourse.

Rape Rape is a form of sexual abuse. 2 common types you should know: Date Rape: One person in a dating relationship forces the other person to take part in sexual intercourse. Acquaintance Rape: Form of rape in which the attacker is someone the victim knows casually or considers a friend.

Alcohol, Drugs, and Rape Date Rape Drugs: Substances like Rohypnol ("roofies"), GHB, and ketamine are sometimes called "date rape drugs" because they can make someone an easier target.

Alcohol, Drugs, and Rape Date Rape Drugs: Substances like Rohypnol ("roofies"), GHB, and ketamine are sometimes called "date rape drugs" because they can make someone an easier target. The Role of Alcohol: Both females and males are more likely to be sexually attacked when they have been drinking. In addition, males are more likely to commit sexual attacks when under the influence of alcohol.

Avoiding Rape Avoid being alone with someone you don’t trust or know well, or with anyone who makes you feel uneasy or uncomfortable. Avoid alcohol and drugs. Be clear about your sexual limits with dating partners. Always get your own beverage at parties, and never leave it uncovered or unattended. Make sure you have a way to get home from any party or social event. If you start to feel dizzy, disoriented, or otherwise unwell, it may be a warning sign that you have been drugged. Tell someone you trust and ask for help getting home. When dating or attending parties, remember there is “strength in numbers.”

Overcoming Abuse Recognizing that they are not to blame can be the first step in a victim recovering from the experience. Reporting the incident to authorities can help prevent future abuse. Seeking professional help is the best way to work through these feelings and avoid long-term health consequences. Survivors can seek support from sources such as: Parents, guardians, or other trusted adults. Teachers, coaches, or school guidance counselors. Members of the clergy. Police. Private physicians or hospital emergency rooms. Rape crisis centers or shelters for victims of domestic violence. Therapists, counselors, or support groups.