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3.  A couple in which one partner attempts to manipulate, control, or dominate the other. A bond that is based on forced inequality.

4.  Verbal Abuse  Physical Abuse  Emotional Abuse  Sexual Abuse  Social Abuse  Abuse of Male/Female Privilege  Economical Abuse

5. Verbal Abuse- behavior that causes harm with use of words. How it works: Name calling, insults, public humiliation, yelling Early warning signs: Teasing that includes insults

6. Physical Abuse- the intentional use of physical force with the potential of causing injury, harm, disability or death. How it works: Hitting, shoving, biting, restraint, kicking or use of a weapon Early warning signs: going into a rage when disappointed or frustrated, teasing, tripping, or pushing, threatening to injure

7. Emotional Abuse- Behavior intended to cause psychological distress How it works: Threats, intimidation, put-downs, telling a person’s secrets, damaging someone's prized possessions, treating a person like a possession Early warning signs: Threatening to leave someone in an unsafe location, trying to control what you do, getting upset when you spend time with other people

8.  Sexual Abuse- Being forced into any type of sexual contact against your will, whether or not the act is completed.  How it works: One partner verbally abuses or physically forces the other into sexual acts against their will. A partner can also be sexually abused if they are under the influence of drugs and/or alcohol and are not able to consent.  Early Warning signs: Teasing and constant pressure to perform sexual acts. Aggressive sexual behavior.

9. Social Abuse- Embarrassing someone in front of another group, or intimidating another person How it works: Restricting the person’s activities, thereby increasing their sense of isolation Early warning signs: Intentional embarrassment in front of others

10. Abuse of Male/Female Privilege- Assumes that one gender has more power over the other and that one gender has special privileges in the relationship How it works: One gender makes all the decisions, one gender expects to wait and be pampered, one gender treats the other as if they were their “property” Early warning signs: Expecting you are to be available at all times, your significant other is available to you when they feel like it

11. Economical Abuse- Restricting or limiting access to ones money How it works: Only one partner has access to the accounts. Money is handed out only when the other partner feels it necessary. One partner must hand over their money with no later access. Early warning signs: Asking if you can buy something. Being told what you can & can not purchase. Having a small allowance so the partner has to beg for money.

12. Abuse Make up Reconcili ation Calm Tension building

13. Rape- is a type of sexual assault usually involving sexual intercourse, which is initiated by one or more persons against another person without that person's consent. Date Rape- Forced sex between two people that know each other.

14.  You always have the right to say no to any type of sexual contact.  You always have the right to change your mind.

15.  If you are hurt go to ER. There are Dr. & counselors available.  Get to safety  Call or find someone you feel safe with and tell them

16.  Report abuse or rape right away – preserve all evidence.  Write down as much information as possible.  DON’T WAIT TO CALL THE POLICE OR GO TO THE ER IF YOU HAVE BEEN PHYSICALLY OR SEXUALLY ABUSED!!!

17.  Call a hotline  National Domestic Violence Hotline  1-800-799-SAFE (7233)  National Sexual Violence Resource Center  1-800-656-HOPE (4673)

18.  Take a risk assessment: Prepare for possible outcomes of breakup to help keep you safe. Ask: What was first incident of abuse? What was the worst incident? What might happen if I break up? Do I need to change my schedule so I don’t run into this person? Who can help me? What can I do to stay safe?  Break up in a public place  Don’t have contact after the relationship has ended  Inform an adult if you are concerned about your safety  Take all threats seriously Abusers often follow through on their threats. It is important to pay attention to threats of suicide or homicide. Have they threatened to kill you or themselves if you leave? Tell a trusted adult immediately.  Reach out to community resources

19.  Communicating that abuse is not acceptable  Offering emotional support; validate their feelings and share your own  Not judging; listen and believe don’t be dismissive and make judgements  Communicating that violence usually gets worse over time  Encouraging them to talk to a parent or adult they trust; family, friend, coach, teacher, guidance counselor, etc…  Relay information about options & resources hotline information, websites, counselors, etc..  Not trying to force the victim to break-up let them know they can leave the relationship, but don’t tell them what to do. Help explore the barriers of leaving. Ask what it would take to leave. Keep in mind that when an abused partner decides to leave this can be the most dangerous time for them.

20.  Be clear and specific about what you saw and how it made you feel  Give them a “reality check”  Get information  Encourage them to get help

21.  I respond to violence by…  What would cause you to end a relationship with someone and why?  What should a healthy relationship look like?  How would you leave an unhealthy relationship? How might that be difficult?