2. COMPLIMENTS, PERSONAL IDIOMS, & GIFTS

3. WHAT THINGS GET COMPLIM ENTED? u Performance u Attire/Appearance u Personality/Whole Person u Possessions

4. COMPLIMENT FORM u DIRECT u GENERAL u NO COMPARISONS u LITTLE LIKELIHOOD OF AMPLIFICATION

5. REPLIES TO COMPLIMENTS u RITUALISTIC/PLEASED ACCEPTANCE (53%) u ACCEPTANCE WITH AMENDMENT u NOT ACKNOWLEDGED u DENIAL

6. WHO GIVES & GETS COMPLIMENTS? u SAME AGE GROUP (56%) u SAME SEX (64%) u SAME STATUS (71%)

7. REASONS FOR GIVING COMPLIMENTS u DESERVED (66%) u NORMATIVE u MANIPULATIVE

8. FUNCTIONS OF PERSONAL IDIOMS u BUILD RELATIONSHIP COHESIVENESS u IDENTIFY & NEGOTIATE BEHAVIORAL NORMS FOR THE RELATIONSHIP

9. TYPES OF PERSONAL IDIOMS u PARTNER NICKNAMES u EXPRESSIONS OF AFFECTION u LABELS FOR OTHERS OUTSIDE THE RELATIONSHIP u CONFRONTATIONS u REQUESTS AND ROUTINES u SEXUAL REFERENCES & EUPHEMISMS u SEXUAL INVITATIONS u TEASING INSULTS

10. GIVING GIFTS u TIMING IS IMPORTANT –The unexpected gift –The forgotten gift –The too frequent gifts –The “make up” gift

11. u TAILORING THE GIFT IS IMPORTANT –Give to other’s needs & relationship needs –Stress relationship needs on anniversaries u NEGOTIATION IS IMPORTANT –Norms for when they are expected, costs, etc. u THE RESPONSE IS IMPORTANT