Warm up 11/30 Describe a time when your parents made you feel really LOVED.Describe a time when your parents made you feel really LOVED. What was happening? Who were you with? What were they doing that made you feel loved or special.What was happening? Who were you with? What were they doing that made you feel loved or special.

The Five Love Languages

The Five Languages are Words of Affirmation Physical Touch Quality Time Acts of Service Gifts

Words of Affirmation Words of praise – are sincere and praise specifics When results cannot be praised, efforts are Words of Affection – Obviously saying “I love you” is big. Look for synonyms. For teens – should be used in front of family members but not in front of peers.

Physical Touch Timing Place (geographically) Type of touch transitions from childhood to adolescence –As a child you used to? –Now ?

Quality Time Giving a portion of your life. –Togetherness not proximity –Quality Activities –Conversation – guidelines (see handout) –Learning to talk Use I statements Offer reasons Ask questions Consider what is said

Acts of Service How have your parents served you for the past 15+ years? Loving service vs manipulation Do acts that you cannot do for yourself Training is an act of service

Gifts Are not used to manipulate Make the giving a ceremony Does not have to be monetary or material –Making a favourite meal –Coupons –Songs –Flowers, candy etc