1 Peer Pressure & Refusal Skills Chapter 10

2 Peers of all ages Young, grandparents, teens Internal Pressures Those that come from within you

3 What are the sources of internal pressure? Needs, values, wants What are some sources of external pressure? Media, family, peers

4 Many of Angela’s friends have part- time jobs and buy new CD’s and clothing whenever they like. Angela envies them yet she knows if she had a job her grades would probably drop. Her college plans would be threatened.

5 What internal pressures does Angela face? What would you do in her situation?

6 Describe your daily routine: No alarm clock, no one tells you to go to school, eat breakfast What happens if you don’t have pressures???

7 External Pressures Media Messages contained in ads, shows, movies, music, etc Family What will your family think? Peers One of the strongest

8 Pressure can be direct or indirect What questions can help you distinguish positive peer pressure from negative? What are possible outcomes?

9 What are physical and emotional consequences? Why should you pay attention to gut feelings? May tell you suggested activity conflicts with your values

10 Positive peer pressure Helping community or a friend in need Negative peer pressure Conflicts with your wants, values, and needs

11 The Search Institute in Minneapolis recently studied 112 communities to see what made some healthier than others. Finding included in the healthiest communities, 73% of teens attended school daily and avoided drugs, alcohol, and people who used those substances. In the least healthy communities, this was only true for 59% of teens. How can communities guide teens to choose positive behavior?

12 Ask yourself the following questions to see if behavior is destructive? –What are the possible outcomes of this activity? –What are the physical consequences? –What are the emotional consequences?

13 Resisting Peer Pressure Self-knowledge –Know yourself and values –Have faith in your judgment –High self-esteem

14 Assertiveness (ability to make your own decisions and carry them out with confidence)

15 What is the opposite of assertive? Passive Keeping your own opinions to yourself and giving in to influence of others

16 Famous Quotes No one can make you feel inferior without your consent.” Eleanor Roosevelt “The only way to have a friend is to be one.” Ralph Waldo Emerson

17 “You can make more friends in two months by becoming interested in other people than you can in two years by trying to get other people interested in you.” Dale Carnegie

18 “If a man does not keep pace with his companions, perhaps it is because he hears a different drummer.” Henry David Thoreau

19 Refusal skills Techniques to resist negative pressure effectively Sticking to a decision Peer pressure is one of the strongest, need to be determined

20 Activity Look through ads in magazine What Techniques are they using to put pressure on you to buy the product?