SELF ESTEEM Character building and Emotions

Mental health- the ability to accept yourself and others, express and manage emotions, and deal with the demands and challenges you meet in your life. Stigma- mark of shame or disapproval that results in an individual being shunned or rejected by others. Personality- a complex set of characteristics that make you unique. Stress- the reaction of the body and mind to everyday challenges and demands. Emotions- signals that tell your mind and body how to react. Closure- the acceptance of a loss. Mental disorder- an illness of the mind that can affect the thoughts, feelings, and behaviors of a person, preventing him or her from leading a happy, healthful, and productive life. Stressor- anything that causes stress. Resilient- the ability to adapt effectively and recover from disappointment, difficulty, or crisis. Integrity- a firm observance of core ethical values such as respect, honesty, caring.

Alienation- feeling isolated and separated from everyone else. Psychosomatic response- a physical reaction that results from stress rather than from an injury or illness. Self esteem- how much you value, respect, and feel confident about yourself Empathy- the ability to imagine and understand how someone else feels. Coping- dealing successfully with difficult changes in your life

Attitude changes with self esteem. SELF ESTEEM- how much you value, respect, and feel confident about yourself

Characteristics of Self Esteem. Sense of belonging- Make it happen Sense of purpose- develop skills Positive outlook- Brightside Self sufficiency- be responsible Healthy self- helping you overcome any failures or disappointments.

How can you develop Self-Esteem? Take 3 minutes and list some ways you think you can develop self- esteem.

How you develop self esteem? Conquering a task or goal Receiving praise If you didn’t conquer a task, ask yourself ‘what went wrong?’ Abilities vs. Hard work Self Talk- the encouragement or criticism you give yourself.

Examples of Self-Talk (7-B) Before a situation occurs: “Plan by Getting Ready” –prepare yourself to succeed. This is going to be tough, but I can handle it. I’ll take a few deep breaths beforehand. Let me think about what I have to do. Here’s my plan for how to deal with this. Don’t take it personally. Don’t jump to conclusions. No matter what other people say or do to me, I am still a good person. During the situation: “Act Face to Face” –deal with the situation, face your fears, and get in the middle of it. If I stay cool, I’ll be in control. Stick to the issues. Don’t let him/her rattle me. I don’t need to prove myself. I can handle it. I have a right to my point of

“Cope Before It’s Too Much”—use self-talk when you feel overwhelmed, like when your feelings are getting out of control or when the situation becomes difficult. You may be able to handle the situation without feeling that you are losing control. I’m getting tense, so I better breathe. He wants me to get angry - but, I’m not going to. Don’t let him/her rattle me. Let him/her make a fool of himself/herself. There’s no shame in leaving and coming back later. It isn’t worth getting all stressed out. It won’t last much longer. I’m not giving the control over to him/her.

YOU CAN PRACTICE SELF TALK “Evaluate Afterwards” - analyze the situation and what you did, and give yourself some pats on the back. If resolved It worked out pretty well. It wasn’t as bad as I expected. I did it! If unresolved I’ll do better next time. I can do it differently next time. Forget about it. Thinking about it only keeps it alive. These are tough situations, and they take time to figure out. Put the self-talk in your own words.

Group discussion Scenario 1- You are invited to a party and you are pressured into taking pills. How is self talk going to help you? List 3

Group discussion Scenario 2 A coach yells at you during practice. OR Your dad yells at you in front of your friends. How is Self talk going to help you? List 3

Group discussion Scenario 3 You and your friends go to a basketball game at Westlake after the game some of the students become verbally aggressive in the parking lot. How is self talk going to help you? List 3

Benefits of Self esteem Proud of accomplishments Set backs are temporary Confidence to confront challenges and overcome them Try new things Learn a new skill Proud of accomplishments Set backs are temporary Confidence to confront challenges and overcome them Try new things Learn a new skill