Tuesday October 30, 2001 You Will Need Your Textbook For Class Today

Parenting Skills Chapter 6 Student Text Pages 100 to 114

Objectives u Explain how parents and caregivers can benefit from information about growth and development, human needs, and parenting skills.

Objectives u Compare the three different types of parenting styles

Objectives u Describe certain characteristics of a successful parent.

Objectives u Discuss poor parenting practices and their effect on children.

Vocabulary u physiological u self-actualization u psychological u parenting style u authoritarian u democratic u permissive u indulgence

physiological u refers to the functioning of the body

self-actualization u achievement of one’s full potential

psychological u refers to a person’s mental and emotional states

parenting style u The particular way that a parent consistently behaves toward children.

authoritarian u Parenting style in which parents are generally strict in rearing their children

democratic u Parenting style in which parents consider both the child’s needs and their own point of view when making decisions.

permissive u Parenting style in which parents generally permit a wide range of behavior.

indulgence u The practice of giving children more of everything, such as attention, toys, or food, whether they want it or not.

Volunteer to Read Opening Scenario Page 101

Parenting Skills u How did Holly and Roger ensure their children safety?

Parenting Skills u How did they convey attention and love?

Parenting Skills u Why is this important for children?

What Do Parents & Caregivers Need to Know? u Most people learn about parenting from their own parents.

What Do Parents & Caregivers Need to Know?

The Process of Growth & Development Student Text Page 102

Growth & Development  Learn all you can about how children grow and develop.

Growth & Development  Parents who know development follows a pattern can predict child’s needs and behaviors.

Basic Human Needs

 persona l care

Basic Human Needs  nurturin g and guidance

Maslow’s Hierarchy of Human Needs Student Text Page 103

First Level  Physiological Needs  food and water  sleep  shelter

Second Level  Safety Needs  safe from physical harm  sense of security  protection from danger

Third Level  Social Needs  belong to family or group  love and be loved  interact with others

Fourth Level  Esteem Needs  self-esteem  respect & admiration  see self as worthwhile

Fifth Level  Self-actualization Needs  reaching your full potential  becoming all that one is capable of becoming

Check Work Sheet Maslow’s Hierarchy of Needs

Needs & Behavior Student Text Page 105

What is the relationship between needs and behavior?

Which of our needs are more important? physical or emotional

Needs & Parenting Skills Student Text Page 105

Needs & Parenting Skills

Sources of Parenting Information Student Text Page 106

Sources of Parenting Information u Most people learn parenting techniques from their parents & other caregivers.

Sources of Parenting Information Most parenting information is “caught” & not “taught”

Sources of Parenting Information

u Take a parenting course or class.

Sources of Parenting Information u Read books & magazine articles about children & parenting

Sources of Parenting Information u Talk to relatives & friends about their parenting experiences in caring for children

Sources of Parenting Information u Observe parents & other caregivers with children

Sources of Parenting Information u Gain experience in caring for or working with children

Parenting Styles Student Text Page 106

Parenting Style the particular way that a parent consistently behaves toward children

Parenting Styles u Expectations one has of children u manner in which one treats them u type of rules established for children u the method by which the rules are made and reinforced

For Example... u Some parents are strict and others are casual in the way they guide and direct their child’s behavior.

For Example... u Some are overly harsh, while others rarely correct their children.

For Example... u Some let their children do things for themselves, while others do too much for them.

For Example... u Some parents model desirable behavior and expect their children to imitate them.

For Example... u Other parents threaten their children with punishment if they misbehave.

For Example... u Many parents are consistent and do exactly what they verbally state.

For Example... u Others seldom follow through on their promises or threats.

Comparing Parenting Styles Page 107

Three Basic Parenting Styles... u Authoritarian u Democratic u Permissive

Authoritarian u Strict in rearing practices u parents decide rules, inform child of rules, and enforce rules u parent’s behavior is predictable u parents show little or no flexibility u parents see themselves as the authority figure in the family

Democratic Parents consider both the child’s needs and their own point of view when making decisions.

Democratic u Parents & children work together to set rules. u Children are expected to conform to rules. u Has logical consequences.

Democratic u Patterns or behavior are predictable most of the time. u Parents usually respond in similar ways to similar situations.

Democratic u Principles of guidance & discipline are generally discussed by parents & children u Both parents & children can suggest changes needed due to changing circumstances.

Democratic u Parents see themselves as leaders in helping their children learn to share in the responsibilities for the well- being of the family members.

Democratic u Parents view their children as important people who have contributions to make to the family.

Permissive Permit a wide range of behavior

Permissive u Parents set few rules and allow the children much freedom and self- expression.

Permissive u Patterns of parent behavior are somewhat difficult to predict.

Permissive u Parents may respond indifferent ways to similar situations, depending on the circumstances and the child involved.

Permissive u Parents may change their guidance to meet individual situations.

Permissive u Parents expect their children to make many choices and face the consequences of their decision.

Changing Parenting Styles Student Text Page 108

Changing Parenting Styles u Parents may: –change parenting style with different children –remain consistent in parenting style until they experience a crisis or a great amount of stress

Predicting Parenting Styles Student Text Page 109

Cultural Background u Common expectations and parenting practices within culture

Child-Rearing Goals u Parents have various goals for their children. u Personal behaviors to career achievements.

Personality Patterns u Parenting style is influenced by personality patterns u heredity, personal experiences and interactions

Role Models u Learned behavior from parents and other caregivers. u In marriage, two different styles of role models are utilized u may cause conflicts

Environment u Location of home: urban vs rural

Environment u weather, time of day, season of year, affect child’s feelings and behavior

Characteristics of Successful Parents Student Text Page 110

Adaptability

Sense of humor

Maturity

Positive Self- Concept

Emotional Health

Patience

Integrity

Team Effort

Undesirable Parenting Practices Student Text Page 112

Undesirable Parenting Practices... u Unrealistic expectations u Indulgence u Submissiveness u Overprotection

Undesirable Parenting Practices... u Belittling u Neglect u Rejection

How Will You Rate As A Parent ???

How Will You Rate ??? u Do you feel good about yourself??? u You like who you are and what you are like

How Will You Rate ??? Do you believe you will make a good parent?

How Will You Rate ??? u You have the knowledge you need to become a parent u Understand how a child develops and your role as a parent

How Will You Rate ??? Do you see yourself as a caring person?

How Will You Rate ??? Do you value children and a family life style?

How Will You Rate ??? Do you like the idea of becoming a parent or of being a parent?

“There are only two lasting bequests parents can give their children … One is roots; The other is wings.”

Be sure to read Chapter 6 in preparation for a test over this chapter on following class session