1. What is a Parent? PARENTING STYLES

2. Types of Parenting Styles and Outcomes Most parent can be classified into three main types by the style in which they guide their children. As we discuss each, think about where your own parents fits most appropriately. Do each of your parents use the same style? Do you fit the outcome?

3. Authoritarian: Limits without Freedom. Definition: Parents’ word is law, parents have absolute control. Misconduct is punished Affection and praise are rarely give Parents try to control children's’ behavior and attitudes They value unquestioned obedience Children are told what to do, how to do it, and where to do it, and when to do it.

4. Outcomes of Authoritarian Style Obedient Distrustful Discontent Withdrawn Unhappy Hostile Not High Achievers Often Rebel Children from authoritarian homes are so strictly controlled, either by punishment or guilt, that they are often prevented from making a conscious choice about particular behavior because they are overly concerned about what their parents will do.

5. Authoritarian Parent Example Wonder Years Jack Arnold 2:51 - 4:17

6. Permissive: Freedom without limits. Definition: Parents allow their children to do their own thing. Little respect for order and routine. Parents make few demands on children. Impatience is hidden. Discipline is lax Parents are resources rather than standard makers Rarely punish Non controlling, non-demanding Usually warm Children walk all over the parents

7. Outcome of Permissive Parenting Aggressive Least self— reliant Least self- controlled Least exploratory Most unhappy Children from permissive homes receive so little guidance that they often become uncertain and anxious about whether they are doing the right thing.

8. Permissive Parent Examples Mrs. George Pt 1 Mrs. George Pt 2

9. Democratic: Freedom within limits. Definition: Middle ground between the two above Stress freedom along with rights of others and responsibilities of all Parents set limits and enforce rules Willing to listen receptively to child’s requests and questions. Both loves and limits Children contribute to discussion of issues and make some of their own decisions Exert firm control when necessary, but explain reasoning behind it. Respect children’s interest, opinions, unique personalities. Loving, consistent, demanding Combine control with encouragement Reasonable expectations and realistic standards.

10. Outcomes of Democratic Style Happy Mostly self-reliant Mostly self- controlled Content, friendly, generous Cooperative High-achiever’ Less likely to be seriously disruptive or delinquent Children whose parents expect them to perform well, to fulfill commitments, and to participate actively in family duties, as well as family fun, learn how to formulate goals. They also experience the satisfaction that comes from meeting responsibilities and achieving success.

11. Democratic Parent Example Mr and Mrs Walsh Beverley Hills 90210

12. Changing Parenting Styles Some parents change their parenting style with different children. For example, many parents are strict with their first child but become more democratic with the next one. By the time the third child arrives, the same parents may take a more permissive approach. Moreover, in some families, the father has one style of parenting and the mother has another.

13. Changing Parenting Styles Some parents are consistent in their style of parenting until they experience a crisis or a great amount of stress. Then their style changes. A parent who is generally democratic may suddenly become very strict when under pressure. Sometimes parents under stress resort to using the same type of behavior that their parents used with them in similar situations. If this involves physical punishment, it can be very harmful. Instead, parents need to learn how to remain calm and consistent even in stressful situations.

14. Predicting Parenting Styles You have probably observed differences in the parenting behavior of your parents compared to those of a friend. When you become a parent, there will be differences between your style of parenting and other parents’ style. According to various experts, parenting styles are influenced by a number of factors.

15. Predicting Parenting Styles Cultural background ◦ Common expectations and practices amount cultural groups Child-rearing goals ◦ Goals may range from personal behaviors to career choices ◦ ex. Value education  expectations about school work Personality patterns ◦ Everyone parent has a unique personality influenced by heredity and environment ◦ People act and respond in different ways to different situations

16. Predicting Parenting Styles Role models ◦ Most people learn parenting styles from their parents or caregivers ◦ Result  couples may disagree about styles because they had different role models Environment ◦ Surroundings in which the family lives  Large city vs. rural area ◦ Weather, Time of day, Season