Healthy Relationships 9th Grade Health By: Amirah Muneer

Relationships Healthy relationships are an essential part of health. Increase life span. Relationships can help relieve stress. Healthy body functioning. Being alone can pose health risks

Types of Relationships Family Friends Casual Romantic

Characteristics of healthy relationships Mutual respect Trust/support Honesty/accountability Shared responsibility Negotiation/fairness Non Threatening behavior Good communication

Signs of a healthy relationship Take care of yourself. Respect for each others individuality. Maintain relationships with friends/family Activities apart from each other. Freedom to express yourself. Feeling secure and comfortable.

Characteristics of unhealthy relationships Using intimidation. Using emotional abuse. Harmful behavior. Compatibility problems. Codependence. Jealousy.

Signs of an unhealthy relationship Pressure to change who you are. Pressure to quit usual activities. Justifying your action Lack of privacy. Physical violence Controlling each other.

Beginning Stages There are 3 steps to take in developing healthy relationship patterns Build Establish Explore

Expectations in relationships Respect changes. Accept differences. Express wants and needs. Respect your partners rights. Be prepared to “fight fair.” Maintain the relationship.

Outside pressures Differences in background. Time together and apart. Your partners family. Friends.

When problems arise…. Understand each others family patterns. Timing counts. Establish an atmosphere of emotional support. Agree to disagree and move on. Separate wants from needs. Clarify your messages.

Dominant Patterns Survival relationships Feeling of dependence on partner. “I am nothing without you.” Abusive relationship. Limited sense of personal boundaries. “Relationship junkies.”

Validation Relationships Validation of physical attractiveness etc. Insecurity. Diminishing self esteem. Partners may drift apart.

Scripted Relationships “The perfect pair.” Career oriented couple. Partners become “invisible.” Stuck in old patters

Acceptance Relationships Ideal relationship. Trust, support, and enjoyment. Set limits.

Individuation- Assertion Relationships Based on wants and needs Individuation- Assertion Relationships Based on wants and needs. Partners are encouraging. Appreciation of differences. Open-minded.

Collateral Patterns Healing Relationships Experiencing loss, struggle, deprivation, mourning. Partners reflect on their past. Provide support and comfort. Multiple healing relationships.

Experimental relationships “Trying it out” relationship Experimental relationships “Trying it out” relationship. Transitional relationships Cross between old and new

Avoidance relationship Avoid deep intimacy with others. Pastime relationship A summer romance

Is your relationship healthy? What do you like about your partner? Is your partner accepting of your friends? Is your partner happy about your ambitions? Does your partner respect your opinions? Does he/she listen to you? Can he/she discuss his/her feelings?

Ending quote Trust is the glue of life. It's the most essential ingredient in effective communication. It's the foundational principle that holds all relationships.  ~ Stephen R. Covey

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