1. Characteristics of Healthy and Unhealthy Relationships

2. Healthy Unhealthy Have fun together more often than not
Enjoy spending time separately, with own friends, as well as together
Feel safe together
Trust each other
Jealousy is present in the relationship
Acting controlling or possessive
Put downs, name calling, yelling etc…
One person is afraid of the others temper

3. Healthy Unhealthy Support each others goals
Respect each others opinions – even when different
Can solve conflict without put downs, yelling, etc…
Apologize when wrong
Doesn’t take the other person or things that are important to them seriously
Critical of the others friends or family
Don’t listen when the other talks
Pressure for sex or going further than the other is comfortable with

4. Healthy Unhealthy Threatens to hurt the other person
Proud of each other
Encourage each others interests, like sports – music etc…
Respect each others privacy – phone, texts, diary etc..
Friends and family support the relationship
Threatens to hurt the other person
Threatens to hurt themselves
Cheating
Blaming other person for their own behavior

5. Healthy Unhealthy Smashes, throws things, etc…
Have communicated and decided on physical boundaries in their relationship
No pressure for going further sexually than you have decided
Allows each other space when needed
Smashes, throws things, etc…
One person makes all the decisions about the relationship
Mind games, manipulation
Goes back on promises

6. Healthy Unhealthy
Uses alcohol or drugs as an excuse for hurtful behavior
Ignores or withdraws as a way of punishing the other
Depends completely on other person for everything
Can’t spend time apart