Managing Anger Center for Development of Human Services Institute for Community Health Promotion SUNY Buffalo State © 2014 New York State Office of Children and Family Services.

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Outcomes List behaviors that stimulate anger Accept own anger Identify underlying feelings Use appropriate methods to express anger © 2014 New York State Office of Children and Family Services.

Check Yourself Out… © 2014 New York State Office of Children and Family Services.

Ticked Off! © 2014 New York State Office of Children and Family Services.

Anger’s Job Discharge strong emotions Protect oneself Correct a perceived wrong Let others know they’ve wronged us Mask hurt or disappointed feelings Not feel so vulnerable Feel whole or strong © 2014 New York State Office of Children and Family Services.

CATCH 22… Well managed anger is a constructive emotion Displays of anger are disapproved of, especially by women and children © 2014 New York State Office of Children and Family Services.

Recognizing Anger’s Power Anger is a challenging emotion We often deal with anger like our parents did or in complete contrast to what they did We often react to children’s unacceptable and problematic behavior with anger Poorly managed anger ERUPTS Anger should be guided by rules © 2014 New York State Office of Children and Family Services.

I’M NOT ANGRY! Many deny their angry feelings Feelings and events contributing to build-up are often ignored, creating frustration Very controlling behavior often covers anger Tension must be released Denial leads to displaced anger © 2014 New York State Office of Children and Family Services.

In Summary… How might this training help you? What will you do next time you’re angry? What obstacles remain in your way? How are others likely to react to your “new” ways of managing anger? © 2014 New York State Office of Children and Family Services.