The Danger Zone “The Teen Sex Scene” The Observant Prosper!

The Danger Zone “The Teen Sex Scene” The Observant Prosper!

Why Wait? Mark C. Farist Sequoyah High School Canton, Georgia mark.farist@cherokee.k12.ga.us Why listen? Why consider? Why do I do what I do? Why ask why? Stay open minded today.

Why listen. Why consider. Why do I do what I do. Why ask why Why listen? Why consider? Why do I do what I do? Why ask why? Stay open minded today.

IMPORTANT SEX ED. UNIT INFORMATION Class work Notebook 20 points per day for notes must label EACH DAY and DATE. 8 Days of notes X 20 points = 160 pts. Exam on Thursday 3/26/15 notes may be used on the exam. Please note object lessons will be covered of the exam. You will need to be able to explain the teaching lesson for each of them ‘OL’.

This is totally your responsibility! Class Days missed in the Sex Ed. Unit. You will need to go on Mr./Coach Farist’s web site to get the class notes that you have missed. The PowerPoint is titled: “WHY WAIT?” This is totally your responsibility! This also applies to those of you who miss class due to ISS/ALT. school.

Abstinence Education: Making an informed decision not to participate in an at-risk under age alcohol behavior. Seems reasonable to me….

Abstinence Education: Making an informed decision not to participate in an at-risk tobacco related behavior. Who would argue with this for teens? Is this the law of the land? Why?

Abstinence Education: Making an informed decision not to participate in an inactive lifestyle and poor nutritional behaviors. I tell kids to get outside and play! Ask your students if they ‘played’ outdoors the day after a beautiful weather day. Video Couch Potato Generation. SUPERSIZE ME!

Abstinence Education: Making an informed decision not to participate in at-risk premarital sexual behaviors. Marriage Bed/Magic Tape. Seems to fit right into the informed wellness approach for a safe disciplined lifestyle.

WHY WAIT? #1. Protection! Physically. Pregnancy/STD’s Mentally/Emotionally. Socially. Reputation/Position/Job Spiritually. Conviction/Vow/Promise

WHY WAIT? #2. PROVISION. Peace/Completeness Pleasure.

Risk Elimination IS ABSTINENCE! (100% SAFE)

Do you get tired of people yelling at you all the time?

A Big Old Coach ‘yelling’ at me not to have a sexual relationship before marriage. “Are you Kidding Me…..I not going to get Yelled at school and home too.”

I’m ‘OUT OF the TRUNK’ TODAY! My hope today is to encourage, enlighten, equip, and for you to be enthusiastic that you as an educator have the answers to share with your students. “Informed Decisions”

….but I’m not here to ‘yell’ at you or ‘whack’ you over the head! No one likes to get ‘whacked’ over the head and ‘yelled’ at by us or others.

Many of you today will have these expressions to the material presented.

FUTURE STICK KEEP YOUR LIFE IN BALANCE. KEEP MAKING HEALTHY CHOICES. KEEP YOUR EYES ON A GOAL. KEEP LOOKING UP!

Just a thought… We have grown use to the cold (teens put off so much heat they do not even know it’s cold). My bus duty in AM.

Just a thought… Eyes take a while to adjust but after a few moments it not as dark after all. Are we accustom to seeing OK in the dark…it’s not really all that bad….is it?

It’s All About How You See It. It’s all about how we see it. “I’ve never seen it that way before.” How you see it matters to those you teach. Student need to know you believe in what you are saying/teaching/living.

MAN BOARD Man over Board: Not a good place to be…neither is it a good place to be with unhealthy sexual choices!

XQQQQME Excuse me if I say something today that offends you and/or you disagree with…please be open to new thoughts/ideas.

YOUR NOSE RIGHT Sometimes the most obvious answers can be “Right Under our Nose”

EXXPOSURE Some students wrongly believe this is just the same old stuff we had in middle school and we are doing it all over again and again and again…..NOT TRUE!

BAN ANA I just like this one b/c I’m a FAT old coach! Banana Spilt!

SAILING C C C C I have spoken out of the country but not “Sailing over the 7 Seas”. However, the message I have today is still the very same to any young person in any culture I have seen. C C C

B E B U S H I will be very direct today with TRUTH and Solutions. I will not “Beat Around the Bush” T A

GROUND FEET The things we will discuss today could put you and your students “6 Feet Under the Ground”

STAND i “I UNDERSTAND” ….I hope so for your student’s sake. The times we live in today are not the same as back in the day. Today’s sex sceen is much changed.

LONG DUE “Long Over Due” for us as educators to share the facts/truth about sexual choices and sexual consequences in 2011.

HIS.TORY Yes it is a “Period In History” that is unprecedented and accurate information is very much needed. I am truly glad you and I are here and I look forward to our time together today….I’m sure we will both learn something new and useful………….let’s begin by checking out the very serious signs of the times we live in!

Why listen. Why consider. Why do I do what I do. Why ask why Why listen? Why consider? Why do I do what I do? Why ask why? Stay open minded today.

Question: Is there a need to teach on the subject of Responsible Teenage Sexual Choices and Behaviors? Boy, 15, accused of raping girl, 14, charged as adult. by Brandon Wilson. bwilson@mdjonline.com The Marietta Daily Journal March 17, 2011 MARIETTA - A 15-year-old Marietta boy who is accused of raping a 14-year-old girl at Campbell High School last month is being charged as an adult, said officer Michael Smith, spokesman for Smyrna Police. Please note: All who are charged are considered innocent until proven guilty in a court of law. This is only an example of a recent public news article that appeared in the Marietta Daily Journal. This is intended to show the very serious charges that teens may be faced with in the area of sexual conduct.

A spokesman for Marietta City Schools declined to comment on whether school leaders have taken any action. "This is under police investigation," spokesman Thomas Algarin said. "We do not comment on ongoing criminal investigations or specific student discipline." Read more: The Marietta Daily Journal - Boy 15 accused of raping girl 14 charged as adult

Dawsonville man arrested in Cherokee girl's rape Dawsonville man arrested in Cherokee girl's rape. by the Marietta Daily Journal staff The Marietta Daily Journal January 15, 2010 A Dawsonville man has been arrested for allegedly raping a Cherokee County girl who met him on a social networking Web site. The Cherokee Sheriff's Office on Thursday arrested Joshua _______, 20. He was charged with rape and aggravated child molestation. He was being held without bond on Thursday at the Cherokee County Adult Detention Center. Please note: All who are charged are considered innocent until proven guilty in a court of law. This is only an example of a recent public news article that appeared in the Marietta Daily Journal. This is intended to show the very serious charges that teens may be faced with in the area of sexual conduct.

The 13-year-old victim said she met West on Yearbook The 13-year-old victim said she met West on Yearbook.com, a social networking Web site, and had been communicating with him for about three weeks. She invited him to her home in Cherokee on Monday when students were out of school. West allegedly raped her at her home on Monday. She reported the incident to school officials on Tuesday. West was taken into custody at his home in Dawsonville by sheriff's office detectives. Read more: The Marietta Daily Journal - Dawsonville man arrested in Cherokee girl s rape

The Danger Zone “The Teen Sex Scene” The Observant Prosper!

Abstinence Education: Making an informed decision not to participate in at-risk premarital sexual behaviors. Marriage Bed/Magic Tape. Seems to fit right into the informed wellness approach for a safe disciplined lifestyle.

3 Categories Of Sexual People The VIRGINS The NONVIRGINS The Renewed Virgins/Secondary Virgins Secondary Sexual Choices Secondary Sexual Abstinence

Night of first…. First Dance… Night of first….First Dance…. These two work with teens and talk about sexual purity before marriage.

Day 1 cont- : “I thought I knew what was ‘up’ with sex????????” Today’s Bonus VitaMIND : “There is a way that seems right to a man but the end thereof is death.” - Ancient Hebrew Proverb

1 + 1 = 3…Tracking? Day 2 ‘PARTS R PARTS’ You are 1 In Thousands and You are 1 In Billions So Celebrate You! 1 + 1 = 3…Tracking?

Day 2 PROTECTION 4 REAL Protection Provides Provision

IF I SAY….. ABSTINENCE You think…. Why listen? Why consider? Why do I do what I do? Why ask why? Stay open minded today. You think….

NO SEX! NO TOBACCO! NO METH! NO ALCOHOL! NO WEED! NO HEROIN-BUT, IF You DO….! NO WEED! NO SEX! NO TOBACCO! Why listen? Why consider? Why do I do what I do? Why ask why? Stay open minded today. NO METH! NO ALCOHOL!

Day 2: ‘4 Real’ PROTECTION “Programmed Sexual Exploitation” Dr. John Diggs

ONLY 2 STI’s KNOWN 79 AD 79 AD only 2 STI’s 79 A.D.

1975 AD STILL ONLY 2

1975 AD ONLY 2 STI’s 39+ years later…

2014 AD OVER 40 STI’s… WOW! We are living in some pretty scary time if we choose to make unhealthy sexual choices….

Motivation for Abstinence Personal goals/plans for the Future. Concerned about the risks Personal/religious beliefs/values Parents influence Friends/positive peer influence Coach Farist’s information/influence Knowledge is Empowering! Change isn’t change until I decide to change! 2 Beliefs #1 What is the benefit to me? (Narcissistic) we all are. #2 How much will it cost me? (Lazy/Not worth the WORK for the reward).

*DAY 3: “VitaMIND” of the day! ‘BIRTH’-Day (Human Development) ALL Births Are Precious, But Not ALL Births Are Planned. *SEE HUMAN REPRODUCTION POWER POINT

Nationally Representative CDC Study Finds 1 in 4 Teenage Girls Has a Sexually Transmitted Disease Chicago (March 11, 2008) – A CDC study released today estimates that one in four (26 percent) young women between the ages of 14 and 19 in the United States – or 3.2 million teenage girls – is infected with at least one of the most common sexually transmitted diseases (human papillomavirus (HPV), Chlamydia, herpes simplex virus, and trichomoaniasis). The study, presented today at the 2008 National STD Prevention Conference, is the first to examine the combined national prevalence of common STDs among adolescent women in the United States, and provides the clearest picture to date of the overall STD burden in adolescent women. 3 Cataorgies of people sexually speaking Is there a need fellow educators? You bet there is….1975 less than 5 known STI’s… 2010 over 40 identified!!!

Day 3 VitaMIND I CAN’T CHANGE THE PAST BUT I CAN DECIDE WHAT’S NEXT.

DAY 3: “VitaMIND” of the day! “PURITY ISN’T A LINE YOU DRAW, IT’S A DIRECTION YOU TAKE.”

Dr. John Diggs “Programmed Sexual Exploitation” A true friend to Georgia Educators. Handout Latex Condom Effectiveness/”SPEEDY” SPERM & The Magic Marble

c. Reliability of information. PROBLEM LABELED Many approach SEX EDUCATION as: “Safe SEX /SAFER SEX” RISK REDUCTION. 1.Know your partner: a. History. b. Current status. c. Reliability of information. How well can you know your partner? It sounds like good safe advice right? What does it really mean? History=What is your number of past partners that you are comfortable with? Current Status=How current is current? Do teenagers get tested regularly and for ALL STI’s? Reliability of Information= People don’t lie about sex do they????

“Safe SEX/SAFER” RISK REDUCTION 2. Make all intercourse “protected”. You must always use protection…..always! What is real/complete-total PROTECTION? Does it come from the ‘Almighty Latex’ ? The ‘LOVE’ GLOVE…Not So Much.

Risk Reduction “PROTECTION” CONDOM USEAGE IS How well does a Condom protect your Mind? Heart? Emotions? Reputation? Not to mention physical ‘protection’ short comings (20% to 40% Teenage failure rates for teens)

Day 2 cont. After All It’s Just ‘CONDOM’ SENSE.

of their partners plus their partners.” “When you have sex with someone you have sex not only with that person but all of their partners plus their partners.” C. Everett Koop Former Surgeon General Why listen? Why consider? Why do I do what I do? Why ask why? Stay open minded today.

THE PROTECTION

THE UNEXPECTED

Sometimes the ‘best’ plans can go quickly and terribly wrong!

PLANS CAN CHANGE….

Sometimes you do things you normally wouldn’t do….

“Sometimes just getting your car back is simply not enough….”

The Danger Zone “The Teen Sex Scene” The Observant Prosper!

LATEX CONDOM EFFECTIVENESS www.niaid.nih.gov/dmid/stds/condomreport.pdf The NIH report says that the “term ‘condom effectiveness’ will be used to mean the level of protection against STD’s when condoms are used consistently and correctly.” Teens need/must know the limitations of latex condoms!! What you think you know change truly hurt you!! KNOW to say NO!

Day 3: ‘THE BIG 6’

THE BIG 6 HIV/A.I.D.S. “V” CHLAMYDIA “B” GONORRHEA “B” SYPHILIS “B” HERPES “V” HPV “V” (Gential Warts) HIV/A.I.D.S. “V”

LATEX vs. THE BIG 6 THE 6 LEADING STI’S CHLAMYDIA: NO PROVEN PROTECTION GONORRHEA: SOME PROTECTION FOR MEN, NO PROVEN PROTECTION FOR WOMEN SYPHILIS: NO PROVEN PROTECTION Results of the NIH report…see handout provided.

VS. THE BIG 6 THE 6 LEADING STD/STI’S HERPES (GENITAL): NO PROVEN PROTECTION HPV(GENITAL WARTS): NO PROVEN PROTECTION HIV/AIDS: 85% EFFECTIVENESS Results of the NIH report…see handout provided.

25% Greet and Meet Today “When you have sex with someone you have sex not only with that person but all of their partners plus their partners.” C. Everett Koop Former Surgeon General Why listen? Why consider? Why do I do what I do? Why ask why? Stay open minded today.

25% SO WHAT’S THE PROBLEM? Why listen? Why consider? Why do I do what I do? Why ask why? Stay open minded today.

Why listen. Why consider. Why do I do what I do. Why ask why Why listen? Why consider? Why do I do what I do? Why ask why? Stay open minded today.

Day 4: ‘FREEDOM IS NEVER FREE!’

WHY WAIT? #1. Protection! Physically. Pregnancy/STD’s Mentally/Emotionally. Socially. Reputation/Position/Job Spiritually. Conviction/Vow/Promise

WHY WAIT? #2. PROVISION. Peace/Completeness Pleasure.

Risk Elimination IS ABSTINENCE! (100% SAFE)

THE GREAT 8: Keys of Effective Abstinence Education 1.Teachers belief in abstinence(Risk Elimination) 2. Show the Risks/Rewards(Consquences/Benefits) 3. Provide medically accurate information on condoms/STD’s/pregnancy rates (www.cdc.gov) 4. Relationship education(Present/Future) 5. Refusal skills(Know to say No & Why Wait “PP”) 6. Abstinence pledge( Accountability Partner/Friend/Family Member) True Love Waits 7. Provide for renewed/secondary “virginity” 8.Parental involvement (Community/Parents you want the Best & on same ‘T.E.A.M.’ Does the program you use now demonstrate/utilize THE GREAT 8 to your students/community? Do you really have a plan? A purpose? A motivation? If you don’t know where you are going you may end up somewhere else.

FREEDOM IS NEVER FREE!

Abstinence Message is a Freedom Message! FREEDOM in a person’s life feels good but take that Filthy Four Letter word that ends in the letter ‘K’ that is imperative in Teenage Sexual Behavior ’___ ___ ___ K’…………………… WORK ……..It takes WORK to say NO to Sexual Behavior. What were thinking it was??????? FREEDOM IS NEVER FREE!

Abstinence Message is a Freedom Message The Freedom from : Guilt, doubt, worry STI’s/STD’s Pregnancy Loss due to adoption Loss due to abortion Loss of reputation Pressure to marry early Certain family problems FREEDOM FROM………good to avoid all these for sure! SEX is a CHOICE….if not it’s RAPE and it’s NEVER the Victim’s fault!

Abstinence Message is a Freedom Message Freedom to: Develop skills and abilities Develop greater trust in marriage Develop greater sense of self worth Become more creative in sharing feelings Achieve financial stability Pursue dreams, desires, goals Become the person you want to be FREEDOM TO……..Sound like a solid future!

Abstinence Message is a Freedom Message! FREEDOM in a person’s life feels good!

W O R K Saying no because students know it gets easier and they gain confidence (improved self worth) over time. The decision/choice for purity is POWERFUL from within. Security in Purity!

The American Dream The term was first used by James Truslow Adams in his book The Epic of America which was written in 1931. He states: "The American Dream is "that dream of a land in which life should be better and richer and fuller for everyone, with opportunity for each according to ability and achievement (work).” Achievement = Work! Work is purposeful and requires good choices and effort.

WHEN DID YOU FIRST HEAR THE ABSTINENCE MESSAGE?

KINDERGARTEN

DO YOU REMEMBER THIS ONE? Susie and Johnny sitting in a tree K-I-S-S-I-N-G. First comes LOVE then comes………MARRIAGE. Here comes SUSIE with a BABY carriage.

Abstinence Education!

25% teenage girls get pregnant by age 18 Teen Pregnancy 750,000 girls each year 2,055 teens each day 25% teenage girls get pregnant by age 18 Only 20% graduate High School 8 out 10 end up on welfare programs

Is Teen Pregnancy just a Female Problem? Always use male examples or say “If you get someone pregnant… or if you get pregnant….” Don’t let the boys ‘off the hook’ as a teacher. Teen Male Fathers: “It takes two….BABY!”

Unplanned unmarried TEENAGE pregnancies! THE PROBLEM IS….. Unplanned unmarried TEENAGE pregnancies! There is a difference between a father and a daddy! Equally, there is clearly a difference between a mother and a mommy! Male= Sperm Donor Female= Gestation Station. Daddies change dirty diapers and Mommies kiss boo boo’s. Daddies and Mommies are there and provide!

THE PROBLEM PROPERLY IDENTIFIED! Teenaged UNMARRIED pregnancy which is associated with the following: Poverty Need for government assistance i.e. welfare, W.I.C. programs Irresponsibility of fathers “Dead Beat Dads” Georgia Law “garnishes” wages Incarceration (jail time) Drop-Out rates increase from schools There are many reasons to be passionately involved in abstinence education to sexual behavior. As you can see the entire community/state/country is effected by unhealthy sexual choices.

The Problem of Sexually Transmitted Diseases or STI’s 9 million teens each year 1 OUT OF EVERY 4 Sexually Active Teens gets a STI 1 teen every 8 seconds 20% of High School graduates in Georgia will have a STI The most current numbers and stats can be found on the CDC’s web site www.cdc.gov, Additionally, the late trends can be followed for more up to date information.

Don’t Mess with the MAGIC! A Powerful Bond: Oxytocin Oxytocin is the powerful hormone involved in bonding, sex, and childbirth as well as in relaxation and feelings of calm. It is the mirror image of the stress hormone adrenaline, which triggers the “fight or flight” systems in the body. Oxytocin is called the “BONDING HORMONE”.  

One of the reasons that it can be difficult to end a physical relationship, even if there is abuse, is the physiological response of the body to sexual activity. Sex creates a physiological bond between two people. This bonding occurs through the release of a hormone called oxytocin. For women, oxytocin is released in the body during childbirth, nursing, and sexual activity. In males, oxytocin is released during orgasm.

LIFE LINE FOR YOUR FUTURE BIRTH DEATH 80 YRS. CHILD 10 YRS. TEENAGER 15 YRS. COLLEGE STUDENT 20 YRS. MARRIED COUPLE 25 YRS. PARENTS 30 YRS. MIDLIFE COUPLE 45 YRS. GRANDPARENTS 60 YRS. You may do the ‘drama’ of dressing up or simply draw and label a line on the board. The picture is the same….it’s only waiting “this long” to have sex and you have “this long” to have sex.

WHY TEENS? Although teenagers represent only 10% of the population, they account for 25% of all STD cases. This is primarily due to the teenage girl’s cervix. Medical Institute

A 15 year old girl has a 1 in 8 chance of developing P. I. D A 15 year old girl has a 1 in 8 chance of developing P.I.D. by having sex compared with a 1 in 80 chance for a 24 year old . Medical Institute

Sexually Transmitted Dieases 79-1975 2014 Gonorrhea 40+ STD’s Many Syphilis Incurable STD’s

CHLAMYDIA Frequency: Most commonly occurring bacteria STD. #1 among teenagers. Cases not reported until 1984. 1000% increase in the total number of cases during the “Safe Sex” Era of the 1980’s and 1990’s.

CHLAMYDIA Symptoms: Burning during urination and milky whitish discharge. 80% of the time males and females have NO symptoms. Leading cause of sterility. “Silent Sterilizer” Treatment : Oral Antibiotics

GONORRHEA FREQUENCY: 1 Million Cases per year Major pus producing disease. “The Clap” “The Drip” Very old STD it’s been around hundreds of years.

GONORRHEA Symptoms: Painful urination, urethral discharge, painful sex, severe pelvic pain (P.I.D.) or no symptoms. Treatments: Antibiotics NOTE: Some strains of Gonorrhea are resistant to all known antibiotics.

SYPHILIS Frequency: 70,000 cases each year. Most cases do not occur in the teenage population. SYPHILIS IS AN VERY OLD STD. IT HAS BEEN AROUND FOR CENTURIES.

SYPHILIS Symptoms: “The Great Pretender” Three Stages Single chancre, 10-90 days. They go away on their own. 2. Rash, wide variety. Goes away w/o treatments. 3. Brain, heart liver, joints. About half of cases are diagnosed here in this stage.

SYPHILIS Treatment: Antibiotics Consequences: Dementia Seizures Blindness Paralysis Heart Problems Death

“LOOKS GOOD TO ME.” DAY 5 Pornography Feeds Your Sexual Appetite And Destroys Your Self Control.

Day 7 Don’t Mess with the MAGIC! VITAMIND: Pornography Feeds Your Sexual Appetite And Destroys Your Self Control.

‘Wait Training’ makes for a stronger relationship now and in marriage. Day 6 ‘Wait Training’ makes for a stronger relationship now and in marriage.

HERPES (HSV) Frequency: 45 Million current cases. 1 Million new cases each year. Incurable. 1000% increase in cases during the “Safe Sex” Era of Sex Ed.

HERPES Nearly 25% of the US population over the age of 12 is seropositive for herpes type 2. (1 out of 4) Symptoms Painful Blister with red base. 90% of infected people are unaware of their infection.

HERPES Incurable, lifelong infection Several medicines decrease the duration of recurrence. 10 day course of medicines costs about $100. Supressive therapy cost about $3,000 per year.

HERPES (HSV) Recurrent painful lesions Increase susceptibility to HIV/AIDS Risk to Future Spouse Newborn transmission with danger of neurological damage or death.

HPV “Genital Warts” HPV Frequency: 6.2 million new infections each year. #1 VIRAL STI HPV “The Silent Epidemic” Human Papilloma Virus 130 Types only 30 are Genital. 18 of 30 are defined as Being high risk types for Cervical Cancer (97% of ALL) HPV

HPV “Genital Warts” HPV HPV can be transmitted orally. Oral Cancers are up in women. Annual economical burden on the U.S. economy is between $1.6 billion and $6 billion HPV

HIV/A.I.D.S. Aquired Immuno-Deficiency Syndrome Caused by HIV 40,000 New Cases Year 1 million living with HIV in U.S. only 400,000 aware of it HIV/A.I.D.S.

HIV/A.I.D.S. As of the year 2000 450,000 Americans have died of AIDS. First recognized in the early 1980’s Primarily spread by Homosexual behavior and IV Drug use/sharing needle Not easy to get. Must do something “risky” to get. HIV/A.I.D.S.

(IDU)= Injection Drug Use

C.D.C. Study of Teen Sexual Risk Factors for Pregnancy and STD’s. 1. Age of first sexual experience. When you started. 2. Frequencies of sexual acts. How often you have sex. 3. Number of past sexual partners. How many partners.

“Men think they need innumerable women for one basic need.” MALES VS. FEMALES “Men think they need innumerable women for one basic need.” “Women think they need one man for their innumerable needs.” -Rabbi Daniel Lapin Interesting! I don’t get it??? See next slide. Men and Women see sex differently.

GIRLS GIVE SEX TO GET “LOVE”. MALE AND FEMALE DIFFERENCES: BOYS GIVE “LOVE” TO GET SEX. GIRLS GIVE SEX TO GET “LOVE”.

GIRLS GIVE SEX TO GET “LUST”. MALE AND FEMALE DIFFERENCES: BOYS GIVE “LUST” TO GET SEX. GIRLS GIVE SEX TO GET “LUST”.

“SEX IS NOT A GAME” Medical Institute for Sexual Health. http://www.medinstitute.org/ SEX is not a Game shows teens the real risk of casual sexual behavior in an eleven minute presentation that provide additional thought provoking questions and discussion. After viewing this DVD you could find ways for your students to discuss the hard hitting topics that were presented.

RISK REDUCTION PROTECTION is ……… Not good enough WHEN IT COMES TO YOUR ..........................................LIFE! Your scope of influence deserves the VERY BEST!

Why Abstinence ? Why listen? Why consider? Why do I do what I do? Why ask why? Stay open minded today.

WHY WAIT? #1. Protection! Physically. Pregnancy/STD’s Mentally/Emotionally. Guilt/Doubt/Worry Socially. Reputation/Position/Job Spiritually. Conviction/Vow/Promise/Pledge Total PROTECTION!! WELLNESS APPROACH TO SEX EDUCATION….not just the physical only.

WHY WAIT? #2. PROVISION. Pleasure. Joy/Happiness /Fun! Peace/Completeness Pleasure. Joy/Happiness /Fun! Life Line Wait for a short time. Total PROVISION! Teens can’t relate to these two until mariage.

WHY WAIT? #1. Protection! #2. Provision! “PP”

Abstinence Education: Making an informed decision not to participate in at-risk behaviors. Marriage Bed/Magic Tape. Seems to fit right into the informed wellness approach for a safe disciplined lifestyle.

Risk Elimination IS ABSTINENCE! (100% SAFE) Why do teens say YES to Sex (Greet & Meet)

Is there a problem with premarital sexually activity in our country? Let’s look and see…

QUESTION OF THE DAY First…..Which decade did the most teen pregnancies occur? The 1950’s. The 1960’s. The 1970’s. The 1980’s. The 1990’s. The 2000’s

And the ANSWER IS…… A. The 1950’s! WHY?

1950’s People married at an earlier age Average age of marriage was 18 years old Young teenage married couples were starting their families.

The BABY BOOMERS!

National Cost of Teen Childbearing

WORKS 100% OF THE TIME! WORKS COMPLELTLY! ABSTINENCE: WORKS 100% OF THE TIME! WORKS COMPLELTLY! STD’s Pregnancy Social Emotional/Mental

Boundaries = Protection/Provision “Don’t tear down a fence until you know why it was put up.” Ancient African Proverb Purity Provides Protection Provision not bad P’s ugh?

Marriage still respected 81% of divorced and separated Americans believe marriage should be for life “The Family in Transition.” Dennis K. Orthner Divorce never hurts the children……..LIE!

Once sex and marriage are decoupled… Men become marginalized, predatory, and barbarous Women become exploited and depraved Selfishness becomes a positive character trait The state becomes the parent (welfare) Freedom and civilization are destroyed Sounds like the front page of any American news paper on any given day. The Government will take care of me mentality. b/c I’m a victim…some are truly victims….RAPE is always Wrong! “The Family in Transition.” Dennis K. Orthner

Sociology: Marrieds … Live longer More sex, better sex Healthier More money “The Case for Marriage” by Linda J. Waite and Maggie Gallagher Nice benefits ugh?

Married Relationships Jon and Kate Plus……Well ….not even Jon and Kate……What will the effects be 10 years from now in this very public family? Who knows…..very sad! Oddly, this picture is from the episode when they ‘renew’ their wedding vows in Hawaii.

Married Relationships

Married Relationships A committed man through ‘sickness and health’. I know mommy loves me and I know daddy loves me but does daddy love mommy and does mommy love daddy? #1 Fear of a 6 year old!

Day 7 Why have SEX? Great question to answer for teenagers to evaluate the decision making process of choosing to be sexually active.

“A wise person learns from his own mistakes and a wiser person learns from the mistakes of others.”

“Slow Fade” by Casting Crowns (Mark Hall) Be careful little eyes what you see It’s the second glance that ties your hands as darkness pulls the strings Be careful little feet where you go For it’s the little feet behind you that are sure to follow It’s a slow fade when you give yourself away It’s a slow fade when black and white have turned to gray

“Slow Fade” Thoughts invade, choices are made, a price will be paid When you give yourself away…People never crumble in a day It’s a slow fade, it’s a slow fade Be careful little ears what you hear When flattery leads to compromise, the end is always near

“Slow Fade” Be careful little lips what you say For empty words and promises lead broken hearts astray It’s a slow fade when you give yourself away…. A slow fade when black and white have turned to gray Thoughts invade, choices are made, a price will be paid

“Slow Fade” When you give yourself away…People never crumble in a day The journey from your mind to your hands is shorter than you’re thinking Be careful if you think you stand…you just might be sinking It’s a slow fade when you give yourself away… It’s a slow fade when black and white have turned to gray

“Slow Fade” Thoughts invade, choices are made, a price will paid When you give yourself away… People never crumble in a day Daddies never crumble in a day Families never crumble in a day

Marriage Bed How do you want to start out as a couple? How were all those people there that night? Could condoms help prevent this situation? (Risk Reduction isn’t sufficient to protect the past)

“Coach How do I Fix it?” Secondary Sexual Choices-once you have had sex you decide to stop and wait until a mutually monogamous relationship like marriage for 100% safety.

HOPE Secondary Virginity Secondary Sexual Choices-once you have had sex you decide to stop and wait until a mutually monogamous relationship like marriage for 100% safety. HOPE

WHERE DO YOU GO WHEN YOU HAVE GONE ALL THE WAY? THE LAW OF DEMINISHING RETURN SAYS: THE MORE YOU DO THE LESS SATISFACTION YOU GET AND THEREFORE YOU DO MORE AND YOU GET LESS WHICH LEADS TO FEELINGS OF HOPELESSNESS AND FRUSTRATION.

“SEX was ‘MINT ’ for marriage” Day 6… finally! “SEX was ‘MINT ’ for marriage” Choose the BEST! Don’t pass yourself around. Don’t break the seal. Choose to change by ‘taping It up’. Chill out (put on freeze) kills ‘bacteria’. Open in the FUTURE at the correct time. SEX was ‘MINT’ for marriage!

6 Influences to Being Sexually Active as a Teenager #1.Hormones “Awh…… ‘Coach’ they’re going to do it any way….after all they are just ‘HORMONE HURRICANES’!” What’s the use?

#1.Hormones Passion……..My son and fiancé speak to groups of teens concerning purity….it takes WORK to stay pure and true to values.

6 Influences to Being Sexually Active #1. Hormones #2. Sex in the Media Sex is used to sale any and most all things in our society…..When is the last time you saw the negative effects of a sexual decision portrayed in the media?

Pornography feeds your sexual appetite and destroys your self-control. Lies and Chains Pornography feeds your sexual appetite and destroys your self-control. Porn promises but can not deliver satisfaction. Always need more and more. For the Guys it is pictures (visual) Gals it would be chat rooms emotional needs being ‘met’ online relationships emotionally connecting.

Lies and Chains Do you see the life cycle of porn? The Abused/Neglected Child (top left), The Fearful/Scared Woman (bottom right) The old addicted man(background). What is done in secret will be found out…’BIG BROTHER’ is watching on the Internet…. FBI/HOMELAND SECURITY. Russ true story.

Lies and Chains Do you see the life cycle of porn? The Abused/Neglected Child (top left), The Fearful/Scared Woman (bottom right) The old addicted man(background). What is done in secret will be found out…’BIG BROTHER’ is watching on the Internet…. FBI/HOMELAND SECURITY. Russ true story.

12% of websites on the internet are pornographic; that’s 24,664,172 Every second 28,258 internet users are viewing porn 40 million Americans are regular visitors to porn sites 1 in 3 are viewers are women 70% are men aged 18-24 who visit porn sites in a typical month 8% of all emails, 2.5 billion per day, are pornographic There are 116,000 searches per day for “child pornography” Unbelievable stats from the Barna Institute in California www.barna.org/

35% of all downloads are pornographic. 34% of internet users have experienced unwanted exposure to porn either through pop-ups ads, misdirected links, or emails. 25% of all search engine requests are pornography related; 68 million a day. 35% of all downloads are pornographic. 20% of men admit to watching porn online at work 13% of women admit to watching porn at work Average age at which a child first sees porn online is 11 years old. Unbelievable stats from the Barna Institute in California www.barna.org/

$ MONEY $ In the U.S. internet porn peddlers earn $2.84 Billion per year; worldwide porn profits are $4.9 Billion. Every second $3,075.64 is being spent on porn sites. The U.S. spends $13.6 Billion in all sales of pornography and $100 Billion worldwide. Unbelievable stats from the Barna Institute in California www.barna.org/

$ MONEY $ MORE MONEY IS SPENT IN STRIP CLUBS THAN AT BROADWAY SHOWS, OFF BROADWAY SHOWS, BRANSON MO. SHOWS, REGIONAL THEATERS FOR OPERA, THE BALLET, OR JAZZ AND CLASSICAL MUSIC CONCERTS COMBINED. IN FACT PORN BRINGS IN MORE MONEY THAN…………………… Unbelievable stats from the Barna Institute in California www.barna.org/

Pornography: 32 total teams Unbelievable stats from the Barna Institute in California www.barna.org/

Pornography: 30 total teams

Pornography: 30 total teams

Pornography: 30 total teams

COMBINED MONEY PORN IN THE UNITED STATES GENERATES MORE MONEY THAN……… $52 Billion Worldwide Profits (Barnra Institute 2008) #7 Industry in the U.S. economy. MONEY

WOW !

6 Influences to Being Sexually Active #1. Hormones #2. Sex in the Media #3. Peers Accountability Partner is someone with similar values and really cares for you (Positive Peer Pressure). A real friend wants the very BEST for us.

6 Influences to Being Sexually Active #1. Hormones #2. Sex in the Media #3. Peers #4. “Beers” Alcohol PEERS to ‘BEERS’. You can NOT legally consent to have sex under the influence of a mood modifying substance….alcohol…IT IS ALWAYS RAPE!!!! 90% of sexual assaults involve alcohol (9 out of 10) whoa…………

Monday, March 22nd, 2010 by the Partnership for a Drug-Free America® Cause for Concern: National Study Shows Reverse in Decade-Long Declines in Teen Abuse of Drugs and Alcohol. “…the number of teens in grades 9-12 that used alcohol in the past month has grown by 11 percent, (from 35 percent in 2008 to 46 percent in 2009).”

Alcohol: A risk to your well being! Coach Farist: Health Education Thursday 4/22/2010 Alcohol: A risk to your well being! …Just ask this guy.

Ben Roethlisberger wasn't charged after a Georgia college student said he sexually assaulted her, but he will receive a six-game suspension from the NFL.

Apr 22, 2010 Attorney: Ben Roethlisberger wants to stay a member of the Pittsburgh Steelers Any mom or dad would be proud to see their daughter in this photo…right?

Roethlisberger is not allowed to attend any team offseason activities until that behavioral evaluation is completed. Sitting out all six games would cost him an estimated $2.8 million.

Alcohol: A Risk to your well being! ALCOHOL can take you further than you want to go. ALCOHOL can keep you longer than you want to stay. ALCOHOL can cost you more than you want to pay. JUST ask ‘Big BEN’ on this day! Coach Farist with just a thought… have a drug free day!

Chris Sandy: Enduring Regret http://enduringregret.org/ Please check this guy out! He is one of the BEST speakers I have ever heard! He has a message to share with young people that they really need and want to hear! You are MISSING OUT BIG TIME if you do not get Chris to come and speak to your student body! JUST DO IT!!!!!!

6 Influences to Being Sexually Active #1. Hormones #2. Sex in the Media #3. Peers #4. Alcohol #5. Relationships Sex in a teen relationship will…. Take you further than you want to go….Keep you long than you want to stay and Cost you (not just money) more than you want to pay!

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6 Influences to Being Sexually Active #1. Hormones #2. Sex in the Media #3. Peers #4. Alcohol #5. Relationships #6. Boredom Just ‘Hanging Out’ Just ‘Hanging Out’ Just Kicking It or Just ‘Hooking Up’ ever how your kids say it…”Idle time is the devils workshop.” Quote of my Grandmother but still true today. “He who has NO PLAN is PLANNING to FAIL” Coach John Wooden UCLA

Lover’s Lane… “Hanging Out” DANGER ZONE!!!

Every Daddy’s dreams car!

Daddy’s Best Friend!

Imagine the trunk monkey in the back seat on your next date.

From this bridge you can see… Pure Life = Clean Water. This was a ‘GOD’ send on a early morning drive in a Costa Rica Rainforest a few summers ago as I was speaking there about having a “PURE LIFE” to teens. Use the common for an uncommon result! Object Lessons really work!

THE “RIO SUCIO” Don’t get mixed together….changed forever….

“RIO SUCIO” Which stream has been changed the most?

“RIO SUCIO” “The Dirty River” (Rio Sucio) Dirt in the river could represent STD’s, loss of reputation, hurt emotions, shaken trust in relationships, pregnancy (unplanned), guilt/doubt/worry……

Still useful and enjoyable… The down stream Rio Sucio. Still can be enjoyed but not the same… I can’t change my past but I can decide what’s next!

Secondary ‘Virginity’ Secondary Sexual Choices Secondary Abstinence Secondary Sexual Choices-once you have had sex you decide to stop and wait until a mutually monogamous relationship like marriage for 100% safety.

“SPEEDY THE SPERM” SPEEDY IS 19 FEET AND 10 INCHES LONG THE “LATEX PLATE” THE “MAGIC MARBLE” HPV OR HIV

“Coach How do I Fix it?” Secondary Sexual Choices-once you have had sex you decide to stop and wait until a mutually monogamous relationship like marriage for 100% safety.

SELF WORTH!

YOU ARE WORTH IT!

“PP” WHY WAIT? #1. Protection! #2. Provision! Protection provides Provision “PP”

Parting Thoughts “I teach what I know but I reproduce what I am.” Dr. John Maxwell “Focus on the FUTURE using what you have Learned in the Past.” Mark C. Farist

Why Abstinence ? Why listen? Why consider? Why do I do what I do? Why ask why? Stay open minded today. “Focus on the FUTURE using what you have Learned in this Class.” Mark C. Farist

Have I been a success today in making a case for Abstinence Education? "To laugh often and much, to win respect of intelligent people and the affection of children; to earn the appreciation of honest critics and endure the betrayal of false friends; to appreciate beauty; to find the best in others; to leave the world a bit better whether by a healthy child, a garden patch, or a redeemed social condition; to know even one life has breathed easier because you have lived.  This is to have succeeded."  Ralph Waldo Emerson Success today? I certainly hope so….”People Don’t Care How Much You Know Until They Know How Much You Care”

Why Abstinence ? Mark C. Farist Sequoyah High School Canton, Georgia mark.farist@cherokee.k12.ga.us Let me help you help others. Let me know what I can further do. THANK YOU VERY MUCH FOR YOUR TIME AND ATTENTION TODAY! May your Efforts in Education be Blessed!