BUILDING RELATIONSHIPS BEGINS WITH YOU

OPENING ACTIVITY My name is Joe/Jo Property of The TAJL Group LLCCopyright 2014

WHAT? Look at the obstacles or issues you are currently facing? Look at them? Did you know that you are the cause to most of your issues in life? That means you are the solution. Do you have a good relationship with yourself? Do you want enriched relationships which results in a happier career and life? Property of The TAJL Group LLC Copyright 2014

WHAT AM I DOING? One Essential Question: “Does this make sense?” Why am I doing what I am doing? Why am I making this decision? What is Opportunity Cost? Is this what I originally set out to do? You should always ask this question as you evaluate a situation, your role, enter a difficult interaction, and make a decision. Property of The TAJL Group LLC Copyright 2014

MY PURPOSE? Define Your Purpose Think about your purpose in what you do. Are you fulfilling the purpose that drove you into this career? What is your overall vision? Think about what you do daily. Do you live your purpose? Property of The TAJL Group LLC Copyright 2014

DIRECTION OF YOUR PURPOSE? Evaluate Your Purpose Does your vision/purpose coincide with the school or district vision? How do you help kids? What can you do? Do you use data to evaluate your next move? What conflicts with your purpose are you facing and why? Property of The TAJL Group LLC Copyright 2014

FLEXIBILITY OF PURPOSE? We are the solution: Do you Champion Change? Do you have courage to make changes? Do you act on your results? Do you listen and admit the need for change? BUT – At the same time you need to hold to your purpose and not let others change it for you. Control your mind…. Do you get consumed by your job? Are you finding yourself complaining or joining in? Stressed? Property of The TAJL Group LLC Copyright 2014

PERFORMANCE STAGE 1 Defining the You in your Purpose! I don’t want to be a chicken. I don’t want to be a duck! Property of The TAJL Group LLC Copyright 2014

LETS EXAMINE OURSELVES Balance The 6 areas of life are: Financial Career Social Mental Physical Spiritual Do you have a balanced life? Property of The TAJL Group LLC Copyright 2014

EXAMINATION OF SELF THE NEGATIVE YOU  Lack of trust in your abilities  Strained relationships at work and at home  Under performance at work – Not leaving work alone  Increased stress on self  Physical problems: eating disorders, headaches, etc…  Not happy with yourself  Drug addiction or other forms of self-medication Do you experience any of these traits? Property of The TAJL Group LLC Copyright 2014

EXAMINATION OF SELF THE POSITIVE YOU  Trust in your abilities – high success  Better work team relationships and home relationships  Strong performance and actions in place  Relaxed. Leaving issues where they belong  Healthy feeling, self direction, activity  Happy with yourself How often to you exhibit any of these traits? Property of The TAJL Group LLC Copyright 2014

SELF ESTEEM? DON’T HAVE ANY STEAM! Self Esteem is: How you Value Yourself How you feel about yourself How you believe in your abilities Quick Quiz: “What is your level of Self Esteem?” At Work: LowMedHigh In Public: LowMedHigh At Home: LowMedHigh Property of The TAJL Group LLC Copyright 2014

THE LION What is Courage? Write down or think of your definition of courage. In order to live your purpose, you must be willing to have the courage to challenge ideas and processes. It takes a great deal of courage to work in education. What is your level of courage? Do you know how to communicate your ideas, your purpose? Property of The TAJL Group LLC Copyright 2014

SHARE WHO I AM? Do you practice self-disclosure? Do you leave things where they need to be left? Do your team members know your purpose? Are you passionate? Do you allow fear to control you? Property of The TAJL Group LLC Copyright 2014

PERFORMANCE STAGE 2 Self Relationship Understanding Ready to Move it Forward. Come join me! Dance with me! Property of The TAJL Group LLC Copyright 2014

HOW TO BE EFFECTIVE THROUGH YOUR RELATIONSHIPS You need to know your audience! Who is your customer? How many different customers do you have? What is the commodity we are working with? In your building and district or workplace, who’s who? What is the vision of the building? What other visions do the members of your team bring? What’s the biggest issue in your building? You need to know your team dynamics!

WE ARE ALL GOING CRAZY! WHO’S ON FIRST? What is the purpose of an organizational chart? What is the latest and greatest program you are working with? The flowchart. What is your communication process for your building and teams? How many initiatives are you working with and communicating? What’s the building’s ultimate purpose and how do you communicate it?

PROCESS MAPPING Basics of Relationship Mapping What’s next? Empowered individuals and interactions! Relationships are the key to success in any organization!

PERFORMANCE STAGE 3 Begin the new journey to healthier relationships in life and work! Down, Down, Do Your Dance, Do Your Dance! Property of The TAJL Group LLC Copyright 2014